everyone it's mike okay check this out check this out this is one of my hidden talents
that cool i have very dexterous is that a word dexterious eyebrow eyebrow dexterity hidden
talent i bet you didn't know that about me i can do that is that cool i spent uh much time as a
child like watching star trek so you know spock could always go like this and i was like oh man
i want to be able to do that too so i used to tape quarters above my head and i used to
you know lift my eyebrows like lifting weights for your eyebrows because i wanted to be like spock
so i can do that so thanks star trek hey everyone i see you hey devry hey carrie how we doing today
eyebrow dexterity work on it okay hey it's mike i've got herman here with us herman the dog
it's herman the dog he's our little baby boy
he wanted to sit in today look at his face isn't he cute he's got little legs one to sit in
herman dog's with us okay hey it's day three of mike's guide to working with your husband
not fixing your husband because remember i can't fix your husband but i can teach you
the ways that martha and i have been able to work together with grace and harmony for 10 years now
if this is your first time here or if you haven't done this yet hey you can win stuff
really cool stuff from martha's swag shop we got coffee mugs all sorts of t-shirts baby onesies
uh which would probably fit on a pomeranian dog like herman all you got to do is subscribe comment
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fi gets something from the swag shop on us for free that's right that's what happens
and uh chances are if you keep doing it you're gonna win eventually okay so keep it up
all right so in review we've been doing this here for the last three days talking about
how you can work better with your husband and your business day one was the first key
which was that you need to align goals together so you need to define your goals you need to sit
down write out your goals that's step one step two is finding where those goals align
and then step three is you make a commitment together to working towards those goals okay
that was day one day two we introduced the key of accountability the scary word right everyone's
scared of the word accountability because it's the source of so much conflict in our marriages and in
our business and yeah so the key to that really was that when you hold each other accountable you
never attack the person okay so you can never set you you really want to avoid saying hey you're not
taking this seriously you're not pulling your weight instead instead of attacking the person
you want to reinforce your commitment to the goals and sit down and say hey we committed to this goal
so we could have this so you know in martha and i's example
the goal was to you know free up more time so we could walk our daughter to school that you know so
don't attack the person reinforce the goals remind each other of why you're pursuing these goals
the end result right so today is day three and we're going into the third key
on how you can work with your husband and your business and that is my friends the most fun one
and i don't want to say the easiest one but maybe the easiest one it depends on your situation it is
celebrate the winds okay plain and simple it might sound overly simplicated i'm
not even sure if that's a word but it's important so celebrating the wins i think
uh and in most cases here it's going to be you as the wife uh doing your own thing
if you're doing martha's teaching and then maybe your husband is still in the
nine to five that they want to get out of so i think the tendency in this situation is that
i think we believe that this the wins for your business when doing your own thing are transparent
that everyone can see them especially the people closest to you like your husband but i've found an
experience that that's not the case okay so let me tell you a little bit about martha and i's journey
or our our background so as you probably know uh in martha's story there was the point where i sent
her the video of our daughter taking her first steps and martha was stuck stuck at a stork stuck
at a corporate job and she couldn't get time off to come and see this for herself and that sparked
that sparked a movement you know so if we take you back to that journey that point in our journey
um that's really where so i at that point we had a dog walking company pet sitting company and i was
doing that full-time and that was our own thing but the thing about that is that i handled most
of that you know i handled most of the operation so um when martha decided to start our digital
marketing agency which is what she started after she quit the job quit she was working at godaddy
she quit that and started this digital marketing agency which we both owned
but uh this is why it's important to celebrate the wins as i was doing my thing
she was doing her thing and if martha wouldn't have celebrated the wins with me of what she
was doing in our digital marketing agency i don't think any of us would be here right now i
that was a thing as as a husband i needed to know because i wasn't there in the trenches with her
and it was simple stuff it was like hey mike i got two clients today and this is what we're
doing for them and it's going to be great you know like your spouse needs to understand if
they're especially if they're not in the trenches with you they need to understand
like the wins they need to understand how they're making how you're making an impact all right
and it's it's not transparent it's usually not transparent to them especially if they're not in
the trenches with you okay so do that it's a real simple thing um and and it it might seem like um
it's a no-brainer for people but it really isn't you know i don't want to speak for all men but uh
there's something about being a man that kind of is is common for a lot of us and i think we really
just need to see the wins okay and that's really that's really the third key it's really as simple
as that celebrate those wins let's celebrate it i see a lot of you are talking over here we'll
we'll we'll bring up some of these comments later but hey i did not want to leave you with just that
because over the course of the last days i thought about a lot more keys that martha and i have done
for the last 10 years to work together well so i have extra credit for you right and that extra
credit is not how to teach you eyebrow dexterity like this though i can teach you that if you want
uh it is get him involved okay and you might say well how do you do that well here's what
martha and i did probably uh i think it was about six or seven years ago when she started digital
marketing agency as you know when she was doing that i was out walking dogs for eight hours a day
as our other business and she found a way to get me involved okay and that was like
she set up all of the processes all the visionary stuff was set up by her
and then there came a point where she was like mike i need you to come and i need you
to replicate this stuff so i essentially came into the digital marketing agency
and did all the tasks and she was freed up to be able to do to to come up with the big ideas and
be the visionary now i'm going to recommend this book because this is really this really reinforces
what martha and i did in our past to be able to work together well and that's a book called
traction by gino wickman um i don't have an amazon link for you where you can buy it from
but it's it's easy it's on audible it's it's it's everywhere but this is essentially like
a bible on how to scale your business but one of the important things that this book talks about
is that every business has a period so are you familiar with like ceos cfos coos and companies
it's called c-suite you know so big corporations usually always have the c-suite but small
companies actually have a precursor to the c-suite okay gina wickman found that most small businesses
have this precursor to that and that's usually that's two roles that's what he
calls the visionary and the integrator okay so the visionary is the person that has the big ideas
that that has you know that comes up with all of the dreams the dreams okay and the integrator
is the person that goes in and executes on those ideas so that really was what
happened in martha and i's digital marketing company years ago was she was the visionary
and she brought me in as an integrator to execute on her ideas so that's just an example of
possibly how you could get your husband involved it depends on the skill set you may have the big
ideas and he may be the integrator you need to execute on those ideas and you can bring
them in and say hey this is the roadmap this is what needs to be done these are the tasks
or it could be the other way around he could be a visionary type and you can be the integrator
but i wanted to give you the extra credit just because i wanted that to be out there because
like i said i over the last couple days i've thought of other keys that martha and i follow
um to be able to to to work together well and to really um like i said yesterday your goals or two
days ago your goals are a road map to your success okay so what else is a road map to your success
it's hbr and that's our programs as you know martha's recovering right now and we're just
she's doing really great but we're waiting for a negative test until she can come back out
into the wild right and do all the things you love her that you love her for but during this
time we're still having these conversations if you want to jump into hbr this is this is our road map
to success for families that want to start their own thing from home that want to do what they want
when they want with who they want how they want you need to be in hbr if you want that all you
have to do is message living the dream with martha her facebook business page let's do this
rainbows and unicorns eyebrow dexterity whatever you want to message and our
people are going to get with you and we're going to have a conversation and if you're
not a match for hbr there's a program that we can get you in okay so make sure you do that
i want to see what you guys are saying oh hey somebody posted the link to oh that's massive
someone posted the link to oh man look at that that's the biggest ever comment wow look at
that thing that's the link to um traction if you want to read it hey everyone hey devery
hey carrie hey rosemary hey lori how we doing and as you know we extended this series another
day for tomorrow and tomorrow we're going over q a based on this content matter i have three
questions that i've i've had pre-asked and then we'll probably have time to just do some questions
on the fly too if you have any questions about this subject matter on how you can work with
your husband and your business i'm gonna be there for you tomorrow uh same bat time same bat channel
uh it's so great to see every everyone here lori hey herman herman says hi here's sherman again
he's just he's missing mommy a little tongue sticking out there look at that yep
huh wait mike has a book man these comments are really big
i do not have a book um but traction is a great book uh man
cindy simplicated adding that to my vocabulary yes please do everyone get out your spell check
tell it that tell it that's simplicated as an accepted word
all right well everyone we're going to see
you tomorrow we're going to answer your burning questions
about working with your husband and business god bless you all thanks for watching see you tomorrow