hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about the
seven habits of happy people now let's begin number one perfect imperfection
when we dream we dream of perfection right the perfect friends the perfect job the perfect life
but a flawless life doesn't make you happy our strongest emotions love empathy and trust aren't
perfect instead these emotions live the flaws and failures that make you and your life unique
the happiest people aren't looking for perfection they don't want their life to be flawless
they don't dream of an alternate world where everything is bigger and better instead they fall
in love with the tiny imperfections all around them just imagine your dream house do you see
a spacious mansion sparkling from top to bottom do you envision a movie theater a giant pool and
a sprawling backyard in theory these ideas could make you happy you imagine yourself enjoying every
square inch of your picture perfect home but this vision is just an idea in reality every house has
imperfections even the house of your dreams every room could be bigger every pool could be deeper
if you keep asking for more you'll never be satisfied with the things you already have
so don't idealize your perfect life instead raise a magnifying glass to the imperfections in your
life the accidents the failures and the mistakes but don't criticize them appreciate them in your
house the door handles may be loose the ceiling may be too low but those imperfections turn a
house into a home in all aspects of life you don't need perfection to be happy because you'll find
happiness in the most imperfect places number two the value of time what's the most valuable
resource in your life money power fame at the end of their rope there's one thing people wish for
one resource they want above all else and that resource is time they wish for time to spend
with the people they love they wish for time to explore their passions time to see the world
time to experience new adventures in the end time is the most valuable thing you have
but we forget how quickly our time slips away you may spend your life in pursuit of money attention
power you may chase fame and fortune you may think titles and paychecks will make you happy in your
head these resources are all you need you envision how great your life would be if only you had money
or influence but what happens when you get there what happens when you become wealthy and powerful
you feel just as empty as you did before fame and fortune are comfortable luxuries that much
is obvious but they cannot give your life meaning you need passion you need love you need purpose
you could have all the money in the world but without those things your wealth is worthless
that's why happy people value their time they don't live their life in pursuit of a big paycheck
they don't aspire to be famous powerful or important instead the happiest people dedicate
their time to things that make them happy to their passions to their loved ones to their
favorite hobbies so rethink the way you spend your time when you're at the end of your life
when you look back on all your years you should know one thing for sure you spent your time wisely
number three emotional connections how often do you have meaningful conversations
you may avoid deep or emotional discussions you may turn every conversation into a joke
you may keep your friends at an arm's length but your brain craves meaningful connection it wants
to share stories and relate to other people because that's how lasting bonds are built
not through small talk or good manners but through honest and vulnerable conversations
the happiest people chase these kinds of conversations they avoid small talk and gossip
they let down their guard and they take risks with the people they care about yes it's scary
to expose something personal about yourself but those secrets told to the right person can nurture
a lifelong friendship just think about your friendships have you and your friends connected on
an emotional level if you haven't make an effort sit down with your friends and dive deep don't
be afraid to be emotional and sincere because those conversations are the most meaningful
number four altruistic spending how much money do you spend on yourself we buy things for ourselves
all the time things we think we need in the moment those purchases make us happy but that happiness
fades almost instantly think for example about buying a new phone you imagine all the ways this
new phone will change your life but once you buy it the phone loses its sparkle and shine
the rose-colored glasses come off and your burst of happiness just flitters away before you know
it you're searching for something new the happiest people don't spend much money on themselves they
know that excitement is temporary so instead of spending money on themselves they give money
to other people because giving brings far more happiness than getting let's say you
buy a meal for someone who can't afford it or maybe you donate to a good cause those small
acts of kindness give you a greater sense of purpose and meaning suddenly you're thinking
outside of yourself you're working in big ways and small ways to make the world a better place
you're choosing to brighten another person's life and that kind of happiness is priceless
number five hitting the brakes life moves faster than you think your routines keep you racing
through the day your eyes stay locked in front of you focused on your goals focused on your future
you're rushing to get where you want to go but you're missing the meaningful moments
along the way life is like driving down a highway you could speed through the
countryside staring only at the road in front of you you may get where you want to go in record
time but what about the beautiful scenery you missed what about the memories you never made
the happiest people slow their lives down instead of speeding from one place to another they ride
the brakes they stop to enjoy their surroundings happy people relish the small but wonderful
pleasures in life smells tastes and colors the sunlight the soft grass and the cool breeze we
take these things for granted every day we're so focused on the future we ignore the present moment
so make a change set aside time to enjoy the world around you it could be just five minutes it could
be an hour whatever is comfortable during that time acknowledge your environment your comforts
and your gifts open your eyes and ears think about where you are and appreciate all that your world
has to offer number six blocks of passion what are you passionate about a craft a hobby a sport
or a subject what lights your fire more than anything in the world whatever your passion is
that passion plays an important role in your happiness the problem is most people
neglect their passions they get busy with work they're overwhelmed by stress and responsibility
so their favorite activities just slip through their fingers alright let's say you love to
swim growing up you swam every chance you could back then nothing made you happier
but now you have a full-time job you have a family that depends on you you have a lot on your plate
so should you leave your passion in the past the happiest people prioritize their passions
it doesn't matter if your passions don't make money it doesn't matter if you're bad
at them no matter how skilled or dedicated you are passions should be a top priority
because your passions give you inspiration they lift your spirits they brighten your day and they
motivate you to live a better life so engage with your passions as often as you can whether
you love to scuba dive mountain climb or paint flowers make time for the activities you love
number seven mood evaluation how often do you evaluate your mood this is a difficult thing to do
very few people check in with themselves because your brain is oriented outward you think about
the needs of others you think about expectations judgments and criticisms meanwhile you neglect the
attitudes and feelings that guide you through life but those feelings control your happiness
the happiest people evaluate their moods on a daily basis they carefully understand how
they're feeling and they give themselves room to change happiness isn't a guarantee
you could be happy one day and unhappy the next because your happiness evolves over time
early in your life freedom and excitement may brighten your mood but later you may be searching
for comfort and stability that's why happiness requires maintenance you have to re-evaluate
your life and your mood every day reflect on how you're feeling just ask yourself do i feel happy
today what makes me happy right now your answers could and should change over time some days little
things will enliven your world other days you'll be stuck in a funk unable to find your way out
but hey that's okay the most important thing is the work you put into your happiness
happiness will not fall into your lap it's something you have to work
struggle and fight for but if you fight hard enough if you're patient and reflective you'll
discover what makes you happy and you'll chase that happiness for years to come hey thanks
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