- There's a chance that if you're watching this video,
then you may either have what is called Twin-Flamitis,
or you may know someone that has Twin-Flamitis.
And in this video,
I'm gonna share with you what that is,
what may be a greater thing that's actually happening,
and how you can heal through it,
so that if you're meant to meet
what you can call a twin flame or a soulmate,
you remove the energetic debris,
the belief system that is keeping you
from actually meeting that person.
So, this video I'm gonna share with you
exactly what that is,
and what you can do to align yourself
to who you really are and what you want to attract
as a reflection.
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Welcome back to another video.
My name's Aaron,
and I help people expand their consciousness.
Now in this video,
I'm gonna be sharing with you Twin-Flamitis.
This is a common term in that of the spiritual community.
The idea is that there is this twin flame connection
that two souls have.
The way it's kind of understood is that
there's this soul being that has been split into two,
and there's a feminine and a masculine side to this being.
And then, it goes out into reality.
And then sometimes, they find each other in reality,
'cause we incarnate.
Where eternal spiritual
beings live in temporary
human experiences,
and we have certain agreements that
in certain important times on the planet,
we may incarnate at the same time
to do some really cool, badass things together
to change the conscious of the planet
and just to benefit in general.
Or it's also just a divine reflection
of the other half of your soul.
This is the belief.
And I wanna share with you a little bit
of my perspectives on this,
and then also how we can more so align
with the healthy definition.
And also, the problems that come with Twin-Flamitis.
Twin-Flamitis by the way,
in the dating community there is something called oneitis.
Oneitis is when somebody is dating someone,
and then they just start to think,
this person is the one.
This is the one person for me.
There is nobody else out there,
and immediately, that puts the person
that that person's dating on a pedestal,
and it creates resistance.
And it actually repels that person
from wanting to be in their life.
That person can feel the needy energy.
And most of the time
when I see people that are really into the idea
of twin flames,
it's in a very ungrounded way.
It is in a way where it's like,
this is the other half to my soul.
If things don't happen the way that I expect them
from my physical human experience to happen,
then oh my goodness,
I may never find love or never have
as deep of a connection of this.
So in a way,
people get oneitis while dating,
and it is almost a very unhealthy thing
that butchers it.
So, I'm here to help you
because if you do believe you've found
your twin flame and you have Twin-Flamitis,
it's gonna be a block.
And until you do what I share with you in this video,
it will continue to block that person
from coming into your life.
But if you change the energy,
and if you develop a healthy definition for this idea,
and you really let go of this kind of esoteric concept
that I think is very often misunderstood,
you'll find that you feel healthier within yourself,
but also you allow your reality to shift accordingly.
So, first off,
I also wanna talk about something called trauma bonding.
Now, trauma bonding
is a very common thing that happens with people
that have found their twin flame.
Now, I think it could be a little bit
of both these concepts.
This is what I believe.
I believe from one perspective,
we may have certain reflections in our life
that could be what are called twin flame dynamics,
twin flame connections.
Maybe at a higher level of consciousness
there's more of a connection.
So, than maybe other souls,
so that maybe then we feel that more
in our life experience here.
However, with that being said,
the definition that we are one half of a soul
and we find the other half of a soul in of itself
is breeding a level of incompleteness.
Now, what trauma bonding is,
is trauma bonding is certain experiences
from when we were a kid,
what happens is there's certain energy dynamics
that were at play between your mom, your dad,
you, your brother,
your family, your sister.
And these energy dynamics,
as a kid that were there,
what we tend to do in our reality is re-attract people
into our life that reflect back
a similar energy dynamic from when we are
and were a kid.
So, many of the times,
the people that we have chemistry with
are people that trigger
and give us an unconscious feeling of our past dynamics
of when we were kids.
We tend to find people that have similar trauma bonding,
that trauma bonding connects a very deep connection
where you feel like you've been in love
and you've known each other for many, many lifetimes.
Now, with that,
with that connection and with that trauma bonding,
what the intention is,
at a subconscious level,
is you literally attract people into your life
that will help you heal and become whole
because we're all searching wholeness.
And if we replay the same energy dynamics
when we're a kid,
then we believe deep down that we can heal.
We can change those energy dynamics
and start to feel whole and complete.
So, we tend to attract people regardless
based on chemistry.
I've had women I've dated before
where I said,
"oh, there's not that much chemistry here."
And as I look back,
I can see that really what that meant was,
this isn't really doing it for my trauma bonding.
For the trauma that I've experienced when I was a kid,
it doesn't really grind those gears
and get me going.
So really,
I'm attracted, most of us are attracted to people
that have similar trauma bonds from when they were kids
because we're trying to heal and play that out.
And we'll feel this very deep connection.
Now, I think it could be a little bit
of both of these things.
Your twin flame could be a spiritual idea.
It could be.
A spiritual idea where we have a closer connection
to the soul in this life,
with the experience of intense amount of growth
and purpose.
On the other side of that,
I believe that maybe one of the ways
we said this twin flame is going to
connect me in my life is
we're going to have a similar childhood trauma
that then glues us together
so that we can learn.
So what happens is,
it could be a little bit of both.
Before we come here,
we could agree,
I've literally had
ex-girlfriends before where our dads had the same birthdate.
That's happened.
I've had it to where we either,
if there's a mother wound on one side,
the other has a father wound,
and it just beautifully plays into each other.
But, it's all there for growth.
It's a beautiful thing.
Now, trauma bonding sometimes,
run if you feel this kind of connection.
Well, yeah run from your healing.
Run from your healing.
It could be that the answer is to be more selective,
but it could also be that the answer is
to go into that healing.
Now, you can heal while you're single or in a relationship,
either way.
But in general,
Twin-Flamitis,
the danger of it is that then what happens
is people put others on a pedestal
and then it has to work out.
And what this immediately does,
it creates scarcity.
It creates scarcity and it normally creates
this unhealthy, anxious,
avoidant chase.
The twin flame chase.
They chase each other.
Then one stops chasing,
the other chases the other.
And it's this back and forth,
unhealthy game.
Well, in actuality,
what I think with a lot of times
with Twin-Flamitis or oneitis in general,
the key is to put the attention back on the self.
What is this relationship reflecting back to me?
What a lot of times happens in the anxious
and avoidant,
these are different attachment styles
that normally attract each other,
it's very common,
one person is more anxiously leaning in for love
and trying to chase the other person.
And the avoidant is afraid of love
and afraid of intimacy,
so it puts up a wall and it says,
no, I'm safe where I'm at.
So what happens is,
there's this pull and push type energy dynamic.
And the key to this,
many times, especially for the anxious
is to put the attention back to the self.
What is this neediness reflecting back to me?
Because most of the time
people that are anxious
have abandoned themselves at the expense
of trying to gain the love of other.
It's because this person has went through
some type of trauma growing up,
of an emotional unavailable experience
with one of their parents,
or both of their parents.
And then, they feel like they had to abandon themselves
to be loved,
and now they're like,
oh, is this what you like?
Okay, I'll be this way.
They'll bend over backwards
for the person they're dating,
or their twin flame.
And what happens is,
they're not filling up their own cup.
They've abandoned themselves.
The key is to stop abandoning yourself.
Put the awareness back inside of your body.
Go into your own healing.
The person that's the avoidant isn't trusting themselves,
isn't trusting reality.
And they need to, once again,
honor themselves.
Maybe they want more space at certain times.
But at the same time,
they go into a little shell and cocoon.
They'll just stay there because they don't want
to necessarily do the work.
They don't wanna go into the uncomfortable sensations
of opening up because when they did in the past,
someone broke trust with them, you see.
So, the trauma bonding and what we're talking 'bout
with Twin-Flamitis is putting people on a pedestal
and making people better than you.
And also, thinking that this person's
the other half of your soul.
Here's the news I have for you.
Everyone in your reality is a reflection.
The more in alignment you get with yourself,
the more you are going to attract a deep reflection
of that in reality.
Now, many times in the twin flame dynamic,
I think it is healthy.
And it happens a lot.
Well, twin flames will come together.
Maybe they have a story of the twin flame thing,
and that can be unhealthy of itself.
Many times they will then break apart
to go do their own thing.
That's not a bad thing.
They're breaking apart to do their own thing
because they both need to heal in their own ways.
Maybe it comes back,
maybe it doesn't.
But, just know you will always get a direct reflection
of your own energy.
And if it's meant to be, maybe it does.
And if it's not meant to be,
then maybe there's someone that's
an even deeper reflection of the inner self growth
you have done.
So, you just have to trust that.
But, the idea and the story of the twin flame
is a belief system that many people buy into
that is very unhealthy.
When people ask Bashar,
somebody that I watch quite often
about this concept,
do you wanna know what he says?
"Everyone is a soulmate or a twin flame.
"You could literally see everybody as that,
"because everybody's a reflection."
But when you put one person on a pedestal,
you energetically, vibrationally butcher it up.
And one of the best things that I can recommend you do
is you take people off the pedestal
and you start to feel that inner
self-love for yourself.
Realize that the more you heal
and you bring the attention and
you stop abandoning yourself
and you start trusting yourself,
the more you're doing the inner work
and really let go of the outcome.
Let go of trying to control.
Oneitis is a scarcity type energy,
and Twin-Flamitis is a scarcity type energy.
And when you put someone on a pedestal,
and you create that resistance,
you're literally then blocking them.
They literally can't come into your experience
vibrationally because you're not smoothing it out for them.
And you don't need to smooth it out for them,
you gotta smooth it out for yourself.
You gotta love yourself
and focus on your own self-love.
Your own worthiness.
Knowing that you are a complete soul.
You don't need the other half to your soul
because you are the other half to your soul.
The story in of itself will keep you in scarcity
and will keep you blocking the love
from coming inside of your life.
So the best advice I can give is to feel
the self-love and to let go of the story.
Let go of it.
Maybe it's true,
maybe it's not true.
Maybe it's this real thing.
Maybe there's 80 different types of twin flames,
but we only have the human language of the one twin flame.
So, we don't know about that
and we're just human anyway,
just trying to figure all this whole experience out.
But in general,
it is a belief system that I find to be very unhealthy.
However, it could be healthier if people saw themselves
as their own twin flame.
And then, open themselves up,
be it was vulnerable.
Stop abandoning themselves.
Doing the inner work.
And as you did that,
you started to feel the self-love.
You attract a direct reflection
of how you feel about yourself.
So, the more you love yourself,
and the more you let go of those limiting beliefs
and the belief you're unworthy,
the more you'll allow that in.
You attract what you believe you deserve.
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