so many times with a newborn i felt like you know the days and the nights ran together and
so i found if i got up every morning and put on real clothes you know what
i mean even if i didn't leave with all these little toddlers running around that helped me
but also i found that even when i did have time away or even if i did put on my makeup that day
i had this soul need that i was missing something and you have this desperate lord am i doing this
right am i ruining my kids and so for me something that helped me so much was when i took a moment
and i went and just literally laid down and just cried out to god and said god i can't do this
anymore i just need you to show up show out and every time that we're desperate before the lord
and we say god would you fill me up he does and he meets us in those moments where god is the god who
sees it all it says in scripture he is the god who sees and i love in scripture that story about the
mom that went and she said i have nothing me and my child are starving and god says but i am the
god who sees i see you right now i see you in that need and he met the need and so when we go to god
with those deep needs as moms and say god i just need you i need you to see me right now nobody
else sees what i'm doing nobody sees that i feel starving inside that i'm exhausted that i'm weary
and we go to his word and he gives us the perspective that is needed for that day and
he multiplies our strength i mean just like the feeding of the 5 000 the disciples did not have
enough to feed and take care of these needs i don't know about you but i don't have enough
to feed the needs of my kids i have five precious beautiful needy children and they have lots of
buckets of needs and there's only one of me but what i can say is god this is what i have
would you multiply what i have and that's what he did with the feeding of the five thousand
the disciples said this is what we have and god took it and jesus blessed it and he multiplied it
and took care of all the needs around us and so sometimes we have to just give god what we have
this is the little that i have but god i believe that you can multiply this i believe that you
can take care of the needs around us and we need to be obedient to say i can't do this on my own
i need help i've noticed that when i feel burnt out from mothering from just everyday life from
work it usually always goes back to the point that i am not pouring into myself from the word of
god and i don't want to sound too churchy or true christianity's but it really is true is that i can
pinpoint all the way back okay i'm feeling crazy and burnt out well when's the time you just sat
and listened to the lord jamie that's what i asked myself and i realized that in those moments of
feeling as though i can't do this anymore i'm running out of steam while everything's falling
apart is it when i just sit read my bible listen to worship music pray it's god does what he says
he's going to do and he fills me up to where i can continue not in my own strength but now in
the strength that he gave me and so burnout is this number one red flag in my mind that i'm not
spending time with the one who actually gives me strength to do everything he wants me to do
you found yourself at a time where you had three little babies a brand new newborn and
you found yourself instantly a single mom how did those couple years for you go in in taking
care of yourself with three babies i think i had a community and going back to community
and involving people because you want to be able to do it and asking for help asking for help and
you know i got the point i can't be mommy and i can't be daddy because god did not design me for
that and i'm not gifted in that and so sometimes that meant i called my dad and said can you come
wrestle with my boys they need to wrestle with a man right now you know and sometimes when somebody
knocked on my door and said hey can i vacuum your house for you or can i um you know clean up after
dinner so you can just do bath time with your boys and your house is clean taking and accepting
help but i learned that instead of trying to fill the need and the loneliness i learned to feel it
and give it to god and allow god to fill in that space and so god truly became just my
intimate close friend in those lonely moments and that hard times where you're a single mom and
nobody sees and your husband would know normally to be able to say you're exhausted you need a rest
i learned that god truly is a father to the fatherless and he was a husband to the widow
and he took care of me in unbelievable powerful moments as a single mom i was put in this position
where i literally physically could not do it all no matter how hard i tried i knew it was not gonna
be enough and i needed to ask for help that's a hard place to be to say i can't do this on my own
but i learned in the midst that not only is it a blessing to us when people help us but
the people that are helping it's a blessing to them to be used by god and so in the midst of
raising these three precious little toddlers in the midst of grief and losing my husband i had to
say i need your help and thank you so many times we love being the giver and it's hard to receive
but when we yield to the receiving of god we're allowing other people to the blessing and people
remind me all the time don't steal my blessing i'm being obedient to god let me obey god and that in
turn trained me in that season how to be the hands and feet to other people in this season i'm in
we're always training we're always learning how to help other people so maybe you're in
the season where you need help and you need to ask for that but man store up ideas right now
how people are loving on you so one day you can be the difference maker in somebody else's life too
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