I notice that a lot of guys get a little scared to break the touch barrier with a girl because
they're afraid of coming off awkward or creepy.
I totally get it.
It's very strange to touch a girl out of nowhere and break the touch barrier before you guys
have been intimate or kissed before.
I want to say this.
Yes, it is important to break the touch barrier and understand how to touch a girl before
you guys get intimate, but it's not as important as you think.
I'll go into that a little bit later.
For now, I want to help you understand how to make it so you're never going to be creepy.
When you first break the touch barrier with a girl... real quick, I want to note this...
the reason why you feel awkward or you feel like it's creepy is very simple.
You don't have a lot of experience with touching girls or being touchy feely with girls or
having any kind of touch relationship with girls.
What I mean is maybe you didn't grow up with girls that were friends where you guys hugged
hello or you're playfully flirty with them.
Maybe you didn't have a girlfriend growing up.
Maybe you're still a virgin.
Whatever the case is, you don't have enough experience with it and that's why you don't
feel comfortable doing it.
I know that sounds like common sense, but I think it helps guys at least understand
why they feel so weird about it.
It's okay to touch a woman when you guys are talking but it has to be done in a very careful
way as to not scare her or make it awkward.
I know there's a lot of talk right now about the me too movement and doing anything inappropriate.
I don't think you have to worry about that.
If you're watching this video, I just don't think you'll ever be in a scenario where you're
going to be creeping out a girl or doing something that's gonna be weird, especially after watching
the advice on this video.
Of course, what I'm talking about here, the type of touch I'm talking about is obviously
not in the workplace.
It's obviously not with a girl who you don't know or haven't had a conversation with.
This is for you, if you're on a date, this is for you if you're going up to a girl at
a bar, this is for you if you meet a random girl and spark up a conversation, let's say
at a store.
That's when we're introducing this kind of touch that I'm talking about.
Don't worry, as long as you're doing it proper, it's not gonna be weird.
It's not going to be creepy.
But understand that's going to take a lot of practice.
Like I said, you are probably watching this video because you don't have a lot of experience
with it and don't feel comfortable with it yet because you have not had physical interactions
with women.
The more you do it, the more comfortable you're going to be.
Here's the secret.
Are you ready?
When you're going to touch a girl, you have to have a reason to do it.
When it comes completely out of nowhere or with no context, it's going to be creepy or
weird.
If you're just talking and out of nowhere, you just go to hug her or you just touch her
and there's no reason behind it, this is strange.
I don't think you're going to be doing this.
I don't think that most people think to do this.
But still it has to be said to make it not creepy.
To make it not awkward, there has to be a reason.
What is that reason?
The best reason is you doing it with an emotion.
There has to be an emotion attached to it.
Let's say you're excited and that's gonna be the most popular one that we're going to
use, especially for this example.
Let's say you're excited about something, maybe it's something that you're saying or
something that she's saying.
Here's where you can introduce touch in an easy way.
Here's an example.
Let's say, you're on a date, you're sitting at the bar, you're talking to a girl and she
says that she recently went to a Bulls game.
You can look over her as you're talking to her and with the back of your hand, or even
with the front of your hand, you can touch her shoulder very lightly and go, no way,
I love the Chicago Bulls or I love whatever.
That's just an example.
It doesn't matter what she says.
Something where she says something and it gets you excited or just feeling happy about
whatever she says.
You can introduce touch very lightly with your hand to an appropriate place.
Her elbow, her shoulder, her arm, something like that.
As you're saying that thing that's making you excited oh, no way.
No way you like that.
Oh, wow, that's interesting or whoa, that's crazy.
Again we're doing it with the reason within context.
And so when you're doing it with that, it makes it less strange, because it's apparent
that the reason why you're touching her is because of that.
It's interesting, she won't be thinking that logically.
She's not going to go, wow, that was a very non-creepy touch because he did it in a way
that attached to an emotion.
Obviously not.
We're just breaking down the kind of scientific levels of it.
But what's going to happen is when you do touch her, she's going to understand on a
human to human level, that when you did it, it's not so strange because it came out of
an exclamation.
It came out of a feeling.
T something you can practice when you're talking to her.
Here's the thing.
I wouldn't do that all the time.
I wouldn't be just sitting there like oh, no way oh, that's crazy.
Oh blah blah blah.
It's going to get a little weird when you're doing it over and over.
Once in a while is fine if you want to break the touch barrier and then you can move it
to the next level.
For example, the next level might be a hug.
This is only specific to when you first meet her as an approach, not for a date.
It's gonna be a little strange doing it on a date.
You'll see here in a second why.
Basically, what you're going to be doing is if she says something that excites you or
you think is cool, same concept here but you guys are standing because it's an approach
at a bar wherever.
You're gonna go, no way oh my god, you know what I knew it.
I love you.
I love you, get over here, give me a hug.
You're saying it with getting a little bit of a consent and then you're going to just
go for it and it's going to be just an easy hug.
Put your arm around her and give her a hug.
If you have built rapport and you guys been talking for a little while.
This won't be weird.
This won't be creepy.
You're doing two things here.
One, you're doing it after you build rapport and two, you're doing it attaching it to an
emotion.
And this can break the touch barrier.
Most guys think that you need a lot more than that looking at a whole escalation sequence
of first, you should do something with your hand and then a hug and then move to holding
her hand somewhere and then dah, dah, dah.
You don't need that.
Instead, you can just do this and then eventually, when you get down to it and you've built enough
of a connection with the girl you're talking to, you can just create a silence and then
go for a kiss.
Here's even more news.
You don't even have to do the things that I just said.
It is not necessary to do any touching whatsoever before a kiss.
You could absolutely have a great time with a girl, have a great conversation with a girl
and then you can go for a kiss and it's not going to be weird because you didn't initially
break the touch barrier.
But the reason why I made this video is because still, I think it is important for every once
in a while to be able to break the touch barrier and make someone feel comfortable with you.
It also helps gain rapport when you break the touch barrier.
It helps them feel more comfortable with you.
It's a good technique there to get people more comfortable when you're talking to them.
That's why I made the video but just understand, that it's not even absolutely necessary.
And on top of all of it, I don't want you to be doing this just because I'm telling
you to do it.
I know this is gonna sound kind of complicated here, but just hear me out.
You should only touch a woman in the ways that I described here when you're feeling
it.
When you're feeling like you want to do it.
Don't just do it to do it because I told you because then it's gonna come off very robotic.
You should be in the moment.
Hopefully you're in a moment where you're excited, where you feel like you want to just
reach over and be like oh no way and lightly put your hand against her arm or you want
to go no way that's so cool or this is interesting and bring her in and give her a hug and be
excited in the conversation.
I'd rather you do it in a more natural way so it's not so forced.
Don't watch this video and then just apply the technique blindly.
Understand how it's done.
Go into an interaction, if you're feeling it or it feels right or it feels unnatural,
then you can go for it.
And if it never feels natural to you and it doesn't come to that moment, don't worry.
As long as you're breaking the kiss barrier, that's the most important to being out of
the friend-zone and taking it to a more sexual level after you guys have been talking for
a while or after a date.
My program Hooked, which you can check out at www.getherhooked.com.
I'll put a link in the description down below.
That teaches you how to get to the point where you're able to build enough rapport, build
enough sexual tension where the girl you're talking to is going to want to kiss you.
She's gonna be excited for you to kiss her.
If you want to just skip all this touching stuff and go right to really build attraction.
Go check out the Hooked program at www.getherhooked.com.
It teaches you what to do to be the kind of guy that can build tension and get her interested
enough so that you can go on more dates with her and get her really invested in you.
That's the trick.
You want to get her really invested.
Check it out in the link down below.
Remember that if you want to break the touch barrier, do it with a reason that's going
to make it so it's not creepy and do it if it feels natural.
If you have any questions down below, write a comment.
Let's hear from you.
I'll see you on the next video.