This is Tripp from Tripp Advice.com and today we’re talking about how to be smooth with girls.
When you’re first learning how to get better with women and dating
it’s easy to be very choppy and make a lot of mistakes. Of course this is completely normal but
it’s best if you can learn how to make things go smoothly. That way, you come off more attractive
and confident which is what girls are looking for in a man. Today, I’m going to give you
some easy techniques to be more smooth in conversation and your overall approach.
First, I want to give you my PDF of my list of “33 Conversation Starters”. This will help you
start a conversation in a smooth way. Get that right here on the screen or in the description
below this video. It’s a full list of examples of what you can say to open up conversation
with a girl that you’ve never met. Now, here’s my first tip in order for you to
be more smooth with girls. What I want you to do is slow down. A lot of guys mess up
an interaction with girls because they’re moving at 100 miles per hour and can’t relax.
The best way to do this is to focus on your breathing as much as you can. Naturally you might be
a little nervous when you’re talking to a girl. Breathing will help relax you and
keep a clear mind. I want you to talk slower, like I’m doing right now. When you slow
down your pace of conversation, girls will follow what you say much easier and it will
make you appear ten times more confident. Think about it. Watch the President of the
United States make a speech. Are they talking super fast? No. They’re clear, concise and
enunciate every word that comes out of their mouth. This will take some practice. You won’t
get good at this overnight, but I urge you to slow everything down and focus on what
you’re saying while still paying attention to the girl that you’re with. Along with
this you want to focus on your body language. You also want to move slow and not make a
lot of sudden jerky movements. Think James Bond. Think Leonardo DiCaprio in the scene
in Titanic at dinner. You know what i’m talking about. He moves with confidence.
Meaning, there’s purpose behind his movement. You can put your hand in your pocket and
your other hand can be gesturing while you’re talking to a girl. And it’s best to keep eye contact
the entire time that you’re talking to her, so she knows you’re paying attention.
And looking at her while you speak also captures her attention. Also, being smooth
has to do with being non-reactive. When a girl teases you, or gives you shit for something,
you don’t act defensive. But you tease her back or act as if it didn’t even bother you at all.
Or if you go to kiss a girl and she pulls back your’e not going to say “Wait,
why did you do that? I thought we were having a good time.” No, instead you act like it
almost never happened. Keep talking to her and try again in another five minutes.
Think about it this way; being non-reactive just means that there’s not an issue happening.
Everything’s cool and that you don’t need validation from the girl that you’re with.
Why? Because you already know that you’re the man and you don’t need to seek approval
from others. That is smooth. Another factor of being smooth is how comfortable you are
in a specific environment. If you appear nervous, not friendly, or shy when you’re around
a group of people or a noisy environment, it will appear unconfident. But imagine for a second
you enter a bar or a party or some sort of rowdy place and you appear as if you
can handle your own. You move slow, you smile, you shake hands with the people that you meet
and you enter the room with presence. Even though there’s hustle and bustle going on around you
when you meet a girl you like, you act as if nothing is happening anywhere
except with you two in that moment right there. Nothing phases you. Now don’t get me wrong.
You’re still human of course, you're not a robot. You're not stoic. It’s still
good to have energy when you talk to people. But you’re still in control. For example;
an insanely drunk person who might be the life of the party is very much the opposite of smooth.
That’s not the guy that you want to be. Now let’s go back to conversation again.
Remember, when you’re smooth you’re relaxed, have a calmer energy and focused.
In terms of talking to a girl, you want to make sure conversation goes smoothy.
Meaning, you don’t have awkward pauses with “umms” and “likes”. You’re confident behind
the things you say and believe. Let’s set an example for a second. Let’s say you’re
talking to a girl at a bar and she says to you “So I don’t get it. Are you here alone or something?
Where are your friends?” There are two ways that you can respond to this.
You can respond in a weak way and say “Oh, um my friends? They um, I mean, I don’t
know, they’re somewhere. I came alone, but yeah, I’m not sure.” Okay that was a very
exaggerated version of someone who is not smooth. But I just wanted you to be able to
get the point. Here’s how a smooth guy would respond. “My friends are somewhere around
here I’m sure. But what does that matter? You’re my new friend. I still didn’t catch
your name by the way." Do you see the difference there? It’s to the point. It’s confident.
And it’s not phased by what she’s saying. Instead, you deliver a witty little response
to flirt with her and you keep a strong frame throughout. That my friend is smooth.
If you want to learn more about how to be smooth with women, then check out my
“33 Conversation Starters” and start talking to more women today. Get that free PDF right here
on the screen or in the description below. It will lay out all different kinds of things to say
to start a conversation with a woman so you aren’t frazzled any longer. Press like if
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