The topic we're going to address is, how
to make your husband
feel more secure? And I'm Paul Friedman, I
founded The Marriage Foundation. We've
been doing this for over 20 years
and I want you to know that the
insecurity that he's feeling
probably isn't caused by you
as much as what's going on in the world.
Men are being attacked it seems from
every angle and it's true
that it used to be a
"man's world." You might say this
is the reaction the pendulum is swinging
but men are told now to not be masculine.
They're told that they're sexist,
racist, misogynists. It's
a little bit difficult. They never know
what to do
if a man is a gentleman. He could be
accused of
hitting on a woman. So in general,
it's very difficult for men these days
and as his wife, you want the man.
You want the real man. There's a
deep sub subconscious reason
for a gender
specific person
to marry the other gender.
Men are marrying women
who will provide them
unconditional love or at least the
effort should be made by you to give
unconditional love. And truly
that effort will make you much happier.
Your husband will see the outer
sort of indicators that that is your
intention
but we only feel unconditional love when
we give it
because of how our mind is set up with
its filters and all of that.
So you want your husband to feel
worthwhile. Let's exchange the word.
Instead of secure, let's change it to
worthwhile
or let's come up with another word
important,
valuable.
A thesaurus comes in handy right now.
Before I go any further I would ask you
to subscribe to this channel so you
could learn about
marriage, and I don't say that
tongue-in-cheek
other people don't understand marriage
and we do.
Your husband's need for
love is the paramount need
that he has. He is a soul. You're a soul
and a soul possesses a body
and possesses a mind. We're not a body
and we're not a mind
but we've lost track of that in this
material world. And when I say material
world
I don't mean it's just about money but
we operate on this
plane of materialism
where feeling good is important, where
possessions are important, having safety
is important all these things are
important,
What we have done is we have lost touch
with what is
most important which is that sense
of love. I'm going to give you an example.
No doubt gone to weddings as I
have
and there's a moment while the couple is
exchanging vows.
And I know you've experienced this where
you just
feel this overwhelming love. I
love
talking about it because I get chills
because
every wedding you go to you get that
feeling
and that love is so powerful.
Think about this now. The mind doesn't
know where to go with it
because love is much bigger than the
mind.
The mind deals in the material world.
Love is above the material world.
It's transcendental. It's
metaphysical. It's spiritual.
Love is why we get married
and guess what, when you learn
how to love unconditionally as a woman
your husband will be so
enthralled with you because you will be
giving him
everything that he's ever wanted. Now I
am not talking about act
unconditionally loving, talking about
be unconditionally loving and let all of
your actions
your actions are thoughts, speech
and then actual things that we do.
Let those come from this
love that you become
and I guarantee you, your husband will
not be insecure at all.
He will understand by your being that
and again
don't tell me you have been because
if you tell me that I am telling you
right now
if we were sitting in my office together
in a couple of sentences, I would have
you admitting that
"No, you don't
do that." You don't love unconditionally
even though you may act that way.
It's very different. If you
were loving him unconditionally
he would be secure. It is just
how it goes. What am I talking about?
What is this guy talking about?
So as I said before, you're a soul, he's a soul.
The soul is nothing but love
but we behave from a place
of thinking mostly, not mostly
a place of reacting. Something happens, we
see
something, we hear something, we feel
something and we react.
We don't even think about it so it's not
coming from the heart.
It's calculated from the mind and that's
what I'm talking about.
You need to come from the heart. How do
you do it?
Now this is something they should have
been teaching us when we were growing up
and no one knew about it much less
taught it to us. So you could read one of
my books,
you could take the course for women. You
could
for sure listen to these videos and you
start to get a sense of it.
It's a very deep topic but marriage is a
very deep
thing. It provides the ultimate
in terms of giving us our needs of love
and happiness
so of course it's deep. Literally, the two
of you should be
floating in love and happiness
that's what marriage is a vehicle for.
So, you want to
help your husband feel secure. Don't
do things but
redirect your own energy. Become
this heart which is after all what you
are anyway but become it.
It's a process granted and the course
for women really helps people through it
but there's other ways. I'm sure you'll
be creative and come up with something.
So my name is Paul Friedman, please like
the video.
Please leave a comment. Thank you for
visiting and I hope we see each other
again. Take care!