Say "I love you" straight out
I love you - That's it
I love you too
You are so stupid - That's good
What?
Hug me from behind! I will love you!
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What can a foreign boy do to steal your heart?
Foreign men seen to be quite romantic. Japanese girls like that.
Treat me like a princess
Princess? Do you want to be carried too?
Maybe not that one
But he should simply look out for me
Walk on the side of the road
Taking tall things down for me, without making a deal out of it
If he did that, I would start to like him
You like gentlemen?
I LOVE gentlemen
What would steal your heart?
The "Ladies first" type is popular in Japan cause Japanese boys don't do it
Open the door or the car door for a girl
Or lift her up like a princess - That's ok with you?
I think it would be fun
And you? - I like boys who can do "Ladies first"
Foreign boys are also quite tall. I like that too.
What if they are more compact?
Compact?
Compact boys are also cute I think.
I heard foreign boys can do "Ladies first"
Japanese boys tend to be passive
I prefer boys to be a bit more pro-active with romance.
What do you want boys to do?
I want boys to say "I like you" and "You look cute" straight out
Pay me compliments!
I love you - That's it!
You are so cute - That! That!
Let me raise a glass to the beauty of your eyes. All ok?
Good in my books
Do Japanese boys not praise girls? - They struggle with that
They don't do it.
Old men do say nice things
But boys our age in their 20s don't say these things.
What was the last thing a boy praised you for?
"You are the cutest in the world" is what my ex boyfriend said
Japanese boys can flatter girls too then
He was a lot older, about 40 years old.
You are so clever - Thank you
You are always doing your best - Thanks
You are so great for trying your best - I am so happy now
I will think higher of myself now
I want to be escorted by a foreign man
Having him put an arm around me
That just made my heart skip too
Do boys not put their arm around your waist in Japan?
There are not many who do that.
When do you want him to do that?
During a date
Or just when we both are walking.
Do it casually
Even when going to the supermarket? - Yes
Things like that - Ok
I think foreign men are gentlemen
So I want...
I want him to pat my head lightly
What happens if boys do that to you?
I would think "He is so cool!"
When do you want him to do that?
When? Suddenly
Not just when he is praising you? - Suddenly!
Let me test it, tell me if it's ok.
You did a good job - Ok
You failed, don't worry - Ok
You are so stupid - Ok
What?
Is that really ok? - All of them will make me happy
He just has to say it kindly - Right
Sorry for being cheeky girl
Swiping hair back is cool - Like this?
Exactly - You heart beats faster then?
It does
I want him to also praise my hair, yes.
Your hair looks great today - I love that
I want him to praise me directly
Japanese boys are more subdued. I also want to be escorted properly
Praise, escort and what else?
I want him to be confident.
The kind of "I will handle it" reliable type
"Follow me girl, I got you covered" - Yes be confident
Being able to handle things himself - I think that's cool
Instead of worrying where to go, just be decisive and take charge
Do you want him to plan out the entire date? - Yes
I like that too - Oooh
So pro-active boys are popular here?
We expect more pro-activity from foreign men than from Japanese.
Like "Come along with me"
YES
What would foreigners do that Japanese men don't?
Surprises. Foreign boys make huge gestures to surprise their girl
But Japanese boys are a bit more subdued than that.
Smaller surprises, what big surprises do you think of?
A surprise trip abroad
Where shall he take you? - Hawaii
Foreign boys are tall. I want him to hug me.
Suddenly? - Surprise hugs
Where can he hug you and where not?
- What do you mean? - Where do you want him to read the room?
It should not be in public...
but then again, if he did it in public without worrying, I might like that even more.
- Passionate - Foreigners are passionate
- I am ok everywhere - You want him to read the room?
I would like him to read the room and not be too public
Like in the middle of Shibuya scramble would not be my thing
Or lift you up inside Shibuya Scramble - No way
I would tell him to stop and put me down
Tell me which locations for hugs are ok
Like you mentioned the middle of Scramble Crossing
No too much
Here in Harajuku while shopping
Well...
If he hugged me from behind while we were looking at clothes together....
I would love him for that
Hugs from behind - Like this....
If he did that, I would be so happy
Could you hug in front of your parents?
In front of my parents? What kind of situation is that?
I would be too embarrassed for that
I am not sure - If he says "I will make your daughter happy"
If he says that he is safe
Sounds like he's proposing
I like boys who can drive, so if he drives me around, I will think he's super cool
What do you look at?
Him driving with one hand like this
Not too much but
But boys who can drive are so cool
What type of car would give you the heart flutters: A Benz?
Benz are nice
BMW? - Yes foreign cars are pretty cool
What if he came with a little compact car?
If I loved him that would be ok too
But if he came with a BMW I would think him to be much cooler
What if he came to pick you up on a bike?
Bike, and I have to ride behind?
But then I would have to wear a helmet and I take care of my hair
I would prefer a car
And you can't see him drive properly - I wanna see that
Hold on... on Japanese cars the driver sits... here right?
Driver is to my right - Let's act this out with me being the driver
Hold on
I gotta reverse...
How did you like that? - Oh I liked him reversing like that.
I would watch him do that
When reversing, touching your seat - That is cool
Him putting his hand behind, that is so cool - Ok
If he did Ladies first quite actively, I would think he might like me
I like small things
Opening doors or letting me have the sofa and not the seat
Sofa and chair?
In many places there is a sofa and a chair right?
If he lets me sit on the sofa, I will be happy
I would get the heart flutters if he just looked deep into my eyes
Cathy your eyes are so pretty too
People with pretty eyes staring at me makes my heart jump
Can I stare at you then - Ah
AAAAAAH - Wow they are pretty
Your eyes are so pretty
Like a sunflower - A sunflower
You have a sun... flower in your eyes
thanks
So I can stare at you too? I don't even wear contacts today
Your eyes are pretty
Saying "I love you" directly and being able to say thanks
I like stuff like that
I love you - That's it
I love you too - Yaay
Harajuku is overflowing with love today
We are not drunk guys
Do Japanese boys not say things straight out?
Many don't. Some boys can't say "I love you"
But if you don't say "I love you" I won't know if you do
Say it - Say it straight
I love you - I love you too
Wooo
How can foreign boys get a Japanese girlfriend?
If you think seriously about it...
Many foreigners will look cool to us because they are foreign
But we might think they are just playing with us
They look cool, they seem popular, they might be just players
Some girls might wonder if he is seeing other girls too
It's important to treat her like royalty
Say "You are my only one"
And if you give her your time, and make sure you are on time, she will trust you
And from there on love can start
Is there anything foreign boys do not do, but they should do.
They do not do? - Some foreign boys are late for dates
being 5-10-15 minutes late
I am late too, so I can't say anything about thatI
I think Japanese girls would wait though.
I waited for her today - I made her wait
How long - Not that long
11 minutes
Tell me how late he can be before he gets the stick
10 minutes - That's ok
20 minutes - No
That's bad
You can't make a girl wait that long
You want them to be on time - Yeah
Be on time. And if you are late, be cute
"Whoops I am late"
Do it in an adorable way. Foreign boys can do that right
They express their emotions well - He just has to make it up to her
How?
Bring a present
It's cold, so maybe he bought her a warm drink from Starbucks
But if he had time to buy that, should he not have bought that before?
That's true
Oh dear
Then hug her and apologise
Will you forgive them if they do that? - I will
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