what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the
problem but focus on the solution and I'm coming back actual with another
mental health book review so if you're new to my channel I do a lot of mental
health book reviews I truly believe that if you struggle with any form of mental
illness you should really be educated about it I've done a video called the
brain mechanic which I'll link in the info card but the more you understand
about your own brain the more you can overcome your symptoms of mental illness
because you actually understand what's going on under the hood well anyways
this book review is called I hate you don't leave me by hold on forgot the
author's names there's two authors by Stross and Gerald Jay Christman
alright so this book was written in 2012 it was originally written in the 1990s
when they first kind of started diagnosing people at BPD
and wanted to revisit it because there's just tons and tons of new studies on
this and from everything I looked at and researched this is the best book on BPD
it has the most research studies and everything like that yes this book is 6
years old but borderline personality disorder is something that I don't know
a lot of people don't want to touch and I'm really glad that these authors came
together and did this so first and foremost I just want to share about my
experience with BPD and why I decided to pick this book up I never heard of
borderline personality disorder for I don't know until the last year or two
when I started working at the drug and alcohol treatment center and I was
fascinated by this diagnosis understanding the personality traits and
as I started to get more clients with this diagnosis I started to realize that
most of them most of them had some sort of traumatic childhood whether it was
physical or sexual abuse or there were children of addicts and alcoholics so
I'm like wait a second I'm like this is a mental illness that makes people not
want anything to do with that person but it seems like one of the most
preventable so that really fascinated me and if the other thing is I want to make
very clear I have never been diagnosed with BPD but something they talked about
this book is borderline tendencies okay a lot of us have borderline tendencies
and I had a lot of these which I have overcome and one reason I wanted to kind
of read this book was to see how much or how many of these symptoms I had and
what I've overcome because I feel that if I've been able to overcome these a
lot of you can too but the more I understand about it maybe I can relay
more information to you so that's another reason why I read this so pretty
much this book was written in a way for everybody to understand people
borderline personality disorder like I always say that's like I make these
videos so you can have a little empathy like the last video I did on borderline
personality disorder if you go through the comments just a lot of them are
these are terrible people I was married to one I dated one you know stay away
from and stuff like that and it like bums me out like this is a mental
illness you know what I mean and it even talks about in the book like this is a
mental illness that even therapists and psychiatrists like they're like another
personal borderline like they don't want to treat them and and it's really sad
especially when you realize how many of these people developed this personality
disorder based on their childhood like it was completely preventable and it's
not their fault you know what I mean so like this book was written very well
it's a book where anybody can pick it up and have a better understanding and if
you're somebody who knows somebody with borderline maybe it's a parent maybe
it's a family member maybe it's a friend or maybe you've dated one in the past I
really think you should check this book out because it explains why they do what
they do but there's a lot of information in there to help you to help you deal
with a borderline right and I will do more videos breaking down certain
symptoms certain situations everything from black and white thinking
to suicidal threats to promiscuity to all sorts of other things I will do more
videos on that so make sure that you're subscribed but it helps
walk you through different situations especially the suicidal threats like
that's something that I deal with a lot with my clients is these kind of threats
and things like that but also the black and white thinking but I will say this
I'm a big mental health nerd I'm a big neuroscience nerd towards the end of the
book it gets a little bit more sciency when it starts talking about genetics
neuroscience it talks about medications that might help with BPD and things like
that like some of it towards the end might be a little difficult for some
people to grasp but like 90% of the book is for just about anybody and I think if
you are somebody who struggles with either borderline or borderline
tendencies I think this book will help you out a lot too you might get
frustrated might you get upset like that's what happens but it gives you a
lot of truths but I also think that it's important because this book talks about
over and over and over again how curable this mental illness is and my channel is
all about giving you guys hope like when I deal with people who have BPD they
seem hopeless they seem like nothing's gonna help them but this book cites many
different studies especially long-term studies like over ten years and talks
about how people are cured the way they talk about being cured is BPD has nine
primary symptoms you have to meet five of those to be diagnosed with borderline
personality disorder once you have less than five so anywhere between one and
four you are technically cured okay so if you can work on one of these traits
at a time you are in a place where your life can become so so much more
manageable you'll sort have better relationships not just like intimate
relationships like boyfriend/girlfriend husband/wife better relationships with
your family with your friends and all those types of things and I'm really
glad I read this book because I know a lot of people struggle with either
borderline personality disorder or those tendencies
I'm really glad that now I have more knowledge so I can provide you with some
more content so like I said I really hope you check this book out I will link
to it down in the description below and I hope you guys check it out if you do
leave comments let me know by the way the link in there it's an affiliate link
and what that means is that it doesn't cost you any more money but it helps
support this channel so I can make more beautiful videos like this so if you're
gonna get it use that link okay it helps helps out the channel but I would also
like to know your thoughts on it as well and again I do hope that the comments
section in here kind of chills out like I hope there's some more empathy and
understanding like we need to understand most people who are mentally ill do not
want to be mentally ill you know that's what we need to really realize like so
please have some empathy let's have some calm conversations down in the comments
below if there are any topics that you personally want me to cover when it
comes to borderline personality disorder leave them down in the comments as well
I already have some in mind one of them that I think is gonna be a really
awesome video it's called borderline society they talked about it in this
book but yeah that's a video a plan but I want to do a lot of black and white
thinking and all that kind of stuff but lastly the last thing I will say is
check out more books read more books I'll have a link to my entire reading
list on there and if you would like if you would like the next book that I'm
reading right now the book that I started today is from my man Gary
Vaynerchuk it's called crushing it and this is kind
of like a me book not really a you book it's a me book I take a little break
okay cool you know starting up my own YouTube
channel all this other stuff and but anyways while I was listening to it
today I just got I'm like right in the middle of the first chapter like I
really I really think I will do a book review on it because like Gary
Vaynerchuk has this amazing psychology that I don't think a lot of people
understand and I think we can pull from it to improve our mental health and
something that I've talked about many many times on this channel is to quit
working at a job that you hate and Gary Vaynerchuk has this great way
and this great passion of explaining to people how we live in this amazing time
where you can literally do anything you want anything that you find an interest
in and figure out a way to make some extra living and it doesn't mean that
you're gonna do this full-time I don't plan on doing it full-time
anytime soon but like it helps you understand that you know you can work a
full-time job and do this for a couple hours on the side and have a lot more
happiness and for some of you that means that you can quit the job you hate take
a different job that pays less money and you have some other money coming in so
anyways I'll probably do a book review on that so make sure that you stay tuned
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