nowadays with one simple click onto instagram we can see the extensive life of the rich from
private yachts to exclusive events and insanely stocked wardrobes
it can make us feel like we are in the minority or maybe celebrity influence
doesn't actually influence you well here's an article about how rich jeff bezos is because
of his business doing while westeros is falling to the ground no what about the
dreaded online posts on your birthday showing the world how many people truly care about you
the point is success is easier than ever to be achieved or so believes your algorithm there is
such a pressure to live an incredible life full of stories worth telling and money to throw away the
next big trend but are any of these things really a telltale sign of fulfillment and happiness
i mean success can be defined in many ways and i think it's more tailored to the person we're
talking about it could be the amount of money in your bank account it could be how many followers
you have on instagram the size of your social circle all the academics on your cv or maybe
just the experience you have in life in general we tend to think if my salary is just x amount
per month i'm gonna be so much happier even though statistics show that at a certain point once your
needs have been met the bigger salary doesn't actually improve your happiness or what about
the sensation of having a four bed full bathroom in the suburbs of a lovely city but the problem is
with these wishes and desires which are kind of forced onto us by society the best part is the
lead up to them it's not actually having the thing itself and a lot of the time when we finally get
our dream job or a dream house or a dream salary we don't yet feel fulfilled why is that if i'm
trying to give an opinion on this i think it's because the lead up to the moments are actually
where all the fun is for example planning a trip almost always has more excitement than when you're
actually there or when you finally get that little piece of air for paper saying you have a degree
that piece of paper does not equate to the fun that you had during those four or five years
sure it can be nice to finally have your dreams met but is it really that great at the top before
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it's hard at the top this is actually a quote that my brother uses kind of out of humor but
it really seems to be hard at the top with one google search it's really easy to find out that
all of the world's biggest influencers entrepreneurs actors musicians struggle
from a lot of stress anxiety and often depression because of the pressure that you get at the top
if you were a smaller entrepreneur and you make a mistake which inevitably is going to happen you're
likely not going to be held super accountable for it but if you're someone like jeff bezos
every single mistake you make will result in tons of articles and public scrutiny and that can be
really hard on a person's mental health it's almost like the higher the risk the higher the
reward but let's turn it the other way about the higher the reward the higher the risk the risk
of not actually feeling fulfilled in life you want to be a supermodel great i hope you enjoy
constant public scrutiny about the way you eat the way you feel bloated after
workout you want to be an entrepreneur like jeff bezos well need i say no more
so social media really has an impact in my opinion on how we've used success as a society in the
past before social media success was often not something that was necessarily boasted about the
way it is now when influencers get to go on these lavish influencer trips to wonderful locations
it's all over your instagram and when someone's company is doing really well there's lots of posts
about it and of course as they should if your life's going well and you want to talk about it
who am i to judge but on the other hand if you're someone that's constantly receiving
everyone else's good news and everyone else's incredible outfits and lavish holidays
and successful career you're gonna feel like you're left out or your life isn't worth
something because you're not as pretty as them as intelligent as them as successful as them i mean
i'm not even into fashion in fact i'm kind of an anti-fashion person yeah every year i kind of hate
scroll through every single post about it because i'm really intrigued because it's an exclusive
event that i can access social media makes us want stuff that we can't have whereas when we're not on
the internet or social media we're not necessarily being phone this information in our face every day
by the news or by articles that we read seeing all these successful people on social media makes us
think oh maybe if my teeth were just a few shades whiter i would have more followers or maybe if i
had more fashionable outfits i would have more friends as a result even though hopefully these
things are not the case i honestly think a lot of the problem of social media and success
is really the marketing ploys that are all around it kim kardashian is using this teeth whitening so
if you want to be as hot as her you have to do it or this person went on a trip to bali and it was
way more fun than your trip to spain so next year you need to amp up the the fundings
what are my views on success not that i imagine anyone to care but i just want to give
my opinion on how i view success especially after deleting social media which is one
of the things that's kind of artificially giving me opinions that aren't my own well
for starters success is not really about the exterior the way that social media
and celebrities convince us it's all about how you feel from within for me you can't be truly
successful if you're not happy and fulfilled the happiest people in the world out there we probably
don't know who they are because they probably keep themselves under the radar people that don't waste
their their precious wage on clothes to make them look richer the ones that are happy in their own
company because they've done the work from within and they don't feel lonely when they are alone
i think success comes from happiness and happiness is a mental state so for me true success is
working on yourself from within true success is being happy with nothing and appreciating the
little things i once read in a book that i'm in a video about if you want to check it out
by donald miller and he basically mentioned that danish people are the happiest people in the world
because they don't expect a thing they don't expect people to do things for them they don't
expect to have gifts and so when they receive them it's even greater because they weren't expecting
it and i think that's a good kind of thing to live by another trick on success room within
is casual magic which i learned about from jade baller she's a youtuber and how each day we should
wake up and appreciate the small things that are easily accessed by everyone like a blue sky
once in a while or maybe that day where the stars are clearer or the food that you made for lunch an
extraordinary life is really how you view it and if it is becoming a super successful entrepreneur
then that's your vision of success but it's not everyone's and we can't have it all we can't
have success from within and being a hollywood actor and having a great family life and social
life it's just not possible and it's not how life works so okay thank you so much for watching this
video i hope you enjoyed a kind of different take on the word success if you did here are
two videos i recommend and if not that's okay i hope you have a lovely day and bye bye you