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hello series potatoes having spent the
past few years prioritizing self-care
trying out new habits and creating
different routines to optimize for
productivity
i want to share 10 things i wish i knew
about self-care and productivity
10 years ago starting with
vegas to vacuum
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this seems like a lifetime ago
i used to spend any time i could hang
out with friends getting wasty face and
dancing till sunrise
though it was mostly responsible i did
lean heavily on partying and drinking to
escape feeling feelings
and my own thoughts these days i look
forward to vacuuming on the weekends
drinking warm tea lattes and sleeping
before
10 p.m though sometimes irresponsible in
a sense where i'd forget to eat i've
been living purposefully and pouring my
heart and soul
into creating meaningful content all
that to say who you were doesn't define
who you are
and who you are now doesn't define who
you will be in the future
learning to love and accept myself and
my past including things i may not be
the most proud of
was one of the hardest things i had to
embrace early on in this personal
development journey
although i no longer drink live a
completely different lifestyle and would
not do
wear and consume most of the things i
did were and consumed back then
i'm grateful for the opportunities that
continue to help me learn and grow to be
better
being in our 20s and 30s most of us have
not lived half our lives yet
and if we're not satisfied with who we
are now there's still time for us to
change and be
who we want to be just imagine for a
second that person you want to become
that business idea or that creative
project that's been on your mind
if you got started on that today where
would you be
in 10 years
what you do is what matters not what you
think or say
or plan you can plan all you want cue
diving board by shel
silverstein but none of that matters if
you don't actually
die this isn't to say that planning is
useless it's more about what you're
planning for
before diving it'll of course be helpful
to know where and why you're diving
a north star can give you a sense of
direction for where you'll head
and having a purpose cause and belief
for why you're doing what you're doing
that shines so brightly even in the
darkest of times when your fears and
doubts are running wild
can give you courage to keep going the
more you take leaps of faith the easier
it will become to dive and the better
you'll get at managing
resistance it's like a mental muscle you
have to continually train and this is
what making a video
every week for the past five years for
this channel and for beauty within has
taught me
show up every week even if
and especially if you don't want to i'm
working on a series of videos for the
end of the year on how to find what's
important to you
but until then choose progress over
perfection and know that done
is better than perfect you'll stumble
you'll fall
and you'll probably make mistakes along
the way but there's beauty to that
and this is how we ultimately learn
in school the cool thing was bragging
about how many all-nighters we pulled
nowadays it's how many hours we're
working and how we're all
so busy like so busy
like perfectionism i wore being busy
like a badge of honor
being busy made me feel successful it
made me feel important but it was all
an illusion at one point i almost became
a meme of myself for how often
i was changing my life due to an
incredibly unhealthy cycle
of burning out and resetting i've
learned the hard way that busyness does
not equal productivity and that i
was approaching time management all
wrong managing my time led me to being
busy for the sake of being busy
while managing my energy helps me be
more intentional
with my time and therefore more
intentional
and productive with my work if this
topic seems up your alley here's a video
all about time versus
energy management quoting greg mcgowan
author of
essentialism what if we stop celebrating
being busy as a measure of importance
what if instead we celebrated how much
time we had spent listening
pondering meditating and enjoying time
with the most
important people in our lives
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having identified years ago was most
essential to me which is family
spirituality and work this last one here
is purely because i spent my youth
parting my face off and i just wanted to
start doing something with my
life it helped me prioritize what was
important and learn to intentionally say
no to things that weren't
with work i used to write out a 10 page
to-do list
now i list out the three most important
things that need to be accomplished each
day with friends i used to value
popularity and quantity
now i care about depth and quality with
fashion i used to care about being
trendy and buying whatever caught my eye
now i choose to dress comfortably and
invest in timeless pieces
looking back i realized i spent most of
my life drifting around without
questioning my lifestyle habits
only to realize most of the things i
grew up thinking made me happy didn't
actually spark joy
so i sat down with a pen and a piece of
paper and asked myself what brought the
most happiness and joy
what i've learned is that the things
that make your heart sing usually
don't cost a penny whether it's taking
yourself out for a walk in nature
calling a loved one or sitting down and
working on
your craft so what brings
most joy to your life
being a co-host and co-producer of a
skincare channel for
almost four years i've learned that skin
care is so much more than products and
achieving that lit
from within dewy glass skin though there
are temporary and quick fixes
those good things in life including
getting healthy happy and glowing skin
has more to do with how we take care of
ourselves over time
if i could go back 10 years and tell my
younger self three things
it'll be the best and most important
product you need to start using
now and every day is sunscreen
hydration is key and less is really more
a 10-step skincare routine may make you
feel better but just like how
accumulating more stuff may make you
feel
better temporarily it's not necessarily
better for cleansing i've been loving
roy's u2 clean foam that starts as a
cream and lathers into a dreamy cloud of
velvety mousse
there is hydrating and humectant
ingredients like roy's patented and
copper
hyaluronic acid or dpha and glycerin as
well as skin nourishing emollients like
jojoba seed oil and squalane
it leaves my skin feeling smooth
protected and
so refreshed after cleansing i press in
a layer or two or three of
roy's lightweight essence the s3 extra
mild lotion that's the gentler sister of
the u3 toner that you may have seen me
use in a previous get unready with me
video
also formulated with dpha this is one of
the most gentle
and hydrating toner essences i own
essences like
s3 help prep the skin to better absorb
products you apply afterwards
like this brightening serum from peach
and lilies which has peach extract and
niacinamide then i lug
everything in with make prem safety
moisturizer that only has 12 ingredients
and applies like an absolute
dream it's like the warmest hug for my
face and leaves my skin feeling
so supple and nourished and glowy
and of course our trusty spf neogen's
been my go-to
for all of 2020. all that to say have
fun with skincare just like how you'd
have fun with self-care
find products you absolutely love and
adore and discover brands with missions
you align with i was able to meet the
team behind uroy last year through
beauty within and immediately fell in
love with their take on skincare that's
rooted
in japanese minimalist philosophy they
believe in keeping only what is
essential
to bring balance to your skin and life
if you're interested in checking them
out for yourself you can go to
urroyskincare.com and use rowena 15
for 15 percent
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quoting the oatmeal creativity is like
breathing when you make stuff
you're exhaling but you can't exhale
forever
eventually you'll have to breathe in or
you'll be dead in other words you need
to inhale to exhale and you can't pour
from an empty cup
self-care as i've learned over the years
really is learning to take care of
yourself
so that you can be your best and most
authentic self
so that you can help serve others and
make the world
a little or a lot brighter but we'll
seldom get to the ladder if we don't
get the first part down just like how
you make time to do
many many exhaling activities make time
to do some
inhaling activities like doing nothing
and staring outside your window watching
the cloud pass
or meditating or reading or spending
time in nature
any activity that helps you slow down be
present
and ground you schedule more of that
into your week
as with all things if it's important
enough to you
you'll make time
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just like how we can't be off all the
time because then absolutely
nothing would get done and we'd be the
mashes of the mashed potatoes
we also can't be on all the time
nobody likes triple fried potatoes or
maybe some of us do but it's not
sustainable
nor is it healthy this is why we strive
to be somewhat in the middle
say a productive potato half productive
half potato but of course always sweet
well i used to believe i had to keep
every single pillar in my life balance
between work
family friends as well as spiritual
mental and emotional health i've learned
that the priorities between these
pillars ebbs and flow and that it's okay
it's less about making sure every pillar
is getting equal attention
and more about doing what you need to do
when
you need to do it while honoring the
seasons
in your life
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when you watch movies do you have it
playing in the background while you're
scrolling on your phone
or are you fully engaged whether you're
a passive movie watcher
or an active movie watcher can actually
tell you a lot about yourself
and this of course expands beyond movie
watching alone
whether we passively or actively live
our lives affects everything that we do
from lifestyle habits to relationships
to work
at one of my lowest points having lived
on autopilot for way too long
i decided i no longer wanted to be in
the passenger seat of my life passively
existing
instead i want to be in the driver's
seat actively living my life
in other words i wanted to be more
intentional mindful
and present in my day-to-day so cherish
the present
actively watch movies and choose to be
in the driver's seat
the secret to life is to put yourself in
the right lighting
for some it's the broadway spotlight for
others
a lamp-lit desk in a world that's
telling you to be many many things
don't be afraid of being different and
thinking differently though you may feel
left out or alone for thinking
differently
it won't be for long we're all on our
unique journeys on this beautiful thing
called life and although our paths may
appear similar
no two paths are the same so don't be
too hard on yourself
be mindful when you catch yourself
comparing yourself with others and try
not to let others opinions get the best
of you
at the end of the day what you think of
yourself is much more important than
what other people think
of you
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be kind exercise compassion and have
empathy
not only when you want to when you feel
like it at all
the time especially when you don't want
to and especially
if you don't feel like it when you're
frustrated by yourself
remember to be kind when you're
frustrated by others
remember to be kind when you're
frustrated by anything no matter the
cause and no matter the circumstances
remember to be kind don't treat people
as bad as they are
treat them as good as you are i used to
think fighting fire with fire was a sure
sign of strength
if i'm out at a bar and someone was
being rude to my friends i'd yell even
louder back
but i've learned over the years that
true strength isn't loud
it doesn't need to be fiery and it
doesn't need to be aggressive
being able to see every person you cross
paths with
first and foremost as a human and meet
them with gentleness and grace
regardless of the circumstances that
to me is true compassion it's
unconditional
it's understanding it's accepting and
our world
can absolutely benefit from more
unconditionally
kind souls and with that thank you so
much swedish potatoes for joining me
and thank you again to uroy for
sponsoring this video i'll see you guys
in next week's video december and
january
will be pretty poppin i'm excited for
you guys
hug bye
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