Listen, when it comes to women,
they want a lot of things,
but the reality is that
there are certain things they need
that you have to be willing to embrace.
And so, I'm going to lay out for you
the five things a woman needs from her man.
My name is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks
back with another life and relationship advice video.
Today is going to be relationship advice for the men, all right.
Breaking down some things to help you
so that you can experience
more successful happy relationships.
Now, before we begin as always be sure to
like this video, share it,
and comment below,
comment what are the things you feel like
a woman needs or even wants,
let's talk about all of it, all right.
But I'm doing this video because the reality is that
sometimes there's a disconnect.
Well, a lot of times there's a disconnect between men and women
with what the other gender wants.
Now, I have a video that you can check out about
five things a good man really wants from a woman,
but here I'm going to be talking about
what a woman really needs from her man.
And it's important as a man to embrace this
if you're trying to have healthy relationships.
If you're here to play games this video ain't for you,
but if you want something stable,
serious, healthy, successful
that's going to be able to pour into you
the same way you got to pour into her,
then this is a video that you need to take heed to.
So, let's get right to it,
number one thing a woman needs from her man
no particular order,
security, now when we talk about security
it's not just physical security
the act of protecting your woman
because yes, women desire men to be protectors
and providers at least, most of them do.
There's always exceptions to the rule
but most of them desire that,
but it's not just about protecting them physically
it's also about protecting them emotionally, all right.
And so, you have to be mindful
of not bringing toxic energy
to your woman,
not burdening her with unnecessary stress.
You want to keep her or help keep her
in a positive good place
because then that only strengthens her
to be able to do the same for you and the household
if you guys move forward and have kids
or you're married or whatever the case may be.
So, you want to protect her emotionally as well.
Now, security is such a huge deal
because when a woman does not have security
she cannot feel comfortable in that relationship.
If she doesn't feel comfortable and safe
she can't open herself up all the way
the way that you would want her to.
It pretty much causes her to keep walls up
or at least contributes to the wall staying up.
So, you want to make it easier
for your woman to be fully vulnerable with you
and providing that security will do that.
Now, let me make something very clear
part of providing security
is officially committing to the woman.
This is why marriage is so important
but let's just even look at it from the standpoint of
becoming officially boyfriend and girlfriend.
When you're dating a woman, all right.
And you're going off for months
and you cannot provide her with the title,
the official label of
we are together I am committed to you,
then she cannot feel secure in the relationship.
So, once again, now you start seeing her acting funny.
You start seeing her being "crazy"
and I'm putting that in air quotes
because that's what it looks like.
But in reality it's superficial
or surface actions that stem from the fact that
she does not feel secure in the relationship.
Now, this is not to excuse or validate
what can be unreasonable behavior
in some situations, all right.
Let's make that clear,
but it is to shed light on the fact that
as a man you want to be able to
provide her with the security of
I am committed to you I am about you, all right.
And so, initially that can be done
through making the relationship official.
But at some point,
that also has to be done through marriage
because again, she's sitting there wondering
what are we doing here,
where are you taking me, like
what is the deal, what are your intentions?
If you cannot state that clearly to her,
then you are not providing her with
the emotional security
that she needs.
So, be mindful of that
and if you cannot provide that for a woman
then you're dealing with the wrong woman
or you need to do some more work on yourself
to get to a place where you can.
And I say that in reference to the fact that
there are a lot of men
could be you
who have dealt
or are dealing with a woman you actually do love
but because you haven't healed
from past traumas and hurts
and disappointments,
you are afraid to move the relationship forward
in that kind of official...
In that official way
and so again, that's something that
you need to work on and address,
but you've got to get to a point
where you can provide that security.
The number two thing a woman needs from her man
is communication.
Now, I'm sure you hear it or you've seen
plenty of jokes told on TV shows
about pretty much the woman just want to talk, talk, talk
and the man just wanted to be left alone.
And in a lot of situations
there's a level of truth to that,
but the reality is that
and this pours back into security.
If she doesn't feel like she can talk to you
there's going to be a problem.
If she doesn't feel like she can talk to you
then how is she going to feel confident
that you're even into her
and committed to this relationship?
That lack of communication can breed doubt
it can cause confusion
and once you have confusion
then you have chaos, all right.
So, you've got to be mindful of listen,
always keep lines of communication
open with your woman.
It's important that she knows
she can feel comfortable talking to you.
It's important that she knows
whatever questions she has
she is allowed to ask you.
And yes, you can establish this even in the dating phase
by letting a woman know up front
hey, I'm serious about this
so anything you want to talk about feel free.
Anything you need to ask me don't be afraid
like, literally say that to her
because a lot of women hold back
in fear of running the man off
or you know, overwhelming you.
And again, yes,
if she's dealing with the wrong guy then
he doesn't want to talk to her,
but if you're serious about this woman
and again, you're trying to have
a healthy loving relationship
then you want to make it clear.
You should,
that the lines of communication are always open
and with that, you have to be willing
that when she does come and talk to you
to listen, all right.
As well as express yourself
because one of the greatest frustrations from women
is the lack of communication from men
in expressing themselves
how they're feeling and what their desires are.
Now granted, there are many men
who don't do it
because the woman doesn't handle it well.
That she is a poor communicator, all right.
But if that's the case, let it be known,
tell her that's what's going on.
Tell her why you don't communicate
and let's see if we can correct it
and if we cannot correct it
why are we wasting time in this relationship?
If she is a horrible communicator,
if she is bringing too much trauma
from her past into this relationship
and she cannot have healthy conversation with you,
then don't drag this relationship on any further.
But you have to make sure you're doing your part
and that is communicate,
be open to it.
Be open to listen,
be open to expressing yourself, all right.
And learning how we
and when I say we you and your partner
can better communicate with each other specifically
because what may work really well for one couple
as far as communication
may be different from another couple.
Quick example,
one couple may do very well
with verbal communication face to face.
Another couple may need to start
the conversation off with a letter, all right.
It may be easier to express themselves that way
and then they're able to come together sit down
and have a talk face to face.
So, explore the ways
to make it easier for the both of you,
but make communication a priority
because she needs that from you.
The next thing,
the third thing a woman needs from her man
is patience.
Now listen,
I know sometimes that woman might
work your nerves okay,
and it might be hard to be patient
in certain moments with her,
but you have to as a man
learn how to remain poised and calm
and lead by example
and implement patience
in your relationship.
And it's not just patience in
everyday interactions
or helping getting her to understand
something that you're trying to express.
I feel the need to also mention this,
also patience in intimacy, all right.
There's a lot of women
that complain about their man
trying to rush the process
essentially, skipping the foreplay all the time
and want to get straight to it.
And I understand as a man
there might be moments where
that is what you want to do,
but if you rob her of patience
even in intimacy
and allowing yourself to more enjoy the process
of getting to that ultimate goal
that you may desire,
then you're going to diminish
the intimacy between you and your partner.
You're going to make it harder for her to want to engage
and be receptive to you.
So, it is important that yes, you are patient
even in that process.
But again, as always
you talk to your partner
as mentioned in number two.
You communicate
so that you guys can get on the same page
as far as how much patience is needed,
how to better understand each other
and get on the same page, all right.
And so that you guys can flow together
very nicely and seamlessly,
but it is important
that you learn the skill of patience
in your relationship
because she's going to need that from you
and not need you to just fly off the handle
and just get irritable really fast.
That's not going to be good for the relationship.
So, be patient
it doesn't mean, uh...
I guess I'm...
Well, I'm thinking about it, it doesn't mean
get to a point where
you have too much patience.
And I don't know maybe I'm saying that wrong
but I guess what's coming to me is like
I don't want you to become passive in
how you handle certain situations
because you're trying so hard to be patient.
So, there is a line that can be drawn,
but you do have to exercise a level of patience
and again, what that level may entail
is something that you and your partner
need to discuss.
The number four thing,
fourth thing that a woman needs from her man
is leadership, all right.
Now, I know we live in a society where
they want to promote
there is no leader in the relationship
you do it together blah, blah, blah.
And I say that because I'm sorry
that's not my position,
I don't believe in that.
There's a lot wrong with that ideology
and I'll have to do a different video to break that down,
but the bottom line is
even if
you are engaging in relationship
that believe in this dual leadership,
you as a man still have to have
leadership qualities in you.
You still have to be able to provide that
when necessary and in certain situations.
So, if you want to have
more successful relationships
you got to learn how to stand strong as a leader
that's going to entail things like,
being more decisive, all right.
Because an indecisive man
I hate to say but he can be a very weak man.
And I say that with all due respect
because I have in my past been very indecisive
and when we can't make decisions
one, it's like an anchor weighing us down in life
because we're now...
We're now paralyzed by this one situation
that we can't decide what to do about it.
But if you're in a relationship
that becomes even more annoying
when that woman is looking to you
to make a decision and you can't.
That does not show good leadership.
So, you do need to learn how to be decisive
you need to learn how to be more poised, all right.
You need to learn how to be confident, all right.
You need to learn how to lead by example, all right.
There's a lot and learn how to communicate
it goes back to communication
because good leaders
know how to communicate to their team,
know how to communicate to everyone involved
and get everyone on the same page.
So, all of those things and more
are going to help you become a better leader
and that is extremely important
because she needs that from you.
Again, even those who...
Even the women who are trying
to run the relationship, all right
and I'm not saying you should entertain that,
but that's your decision as a man.
But even those women
want the man to be able to take the lead
when necessary.
So, regardless of
what kind of woman you're dealing with
it is going to be important
that you develop the skills of leadership.
Now, the fifth thing
and after this fifth one
I got one more important point to make.
So, don't stop after the fifth one
keep watching.
But the fifth thing a woman needs from her man
is attention,
but not just attention, all right.
But the fact that you pay attention
now let me break that down for you.
So one, she needs attention as in
you are showing you know, giving your time to her
you are present in the moment with her.
You are...
Making her a priority in your life,
you are giving her the attention that she desires,
you're reaching out to her,
you're communicating,
you're taking her out on dates,
things of that nature.
She craves that attention from you.
If you're the man she chose to be with
then that means she wants that attention from you
and you've got to be willing to give it
or to make time to give it.
And I say make time because I know for a lot of you men
you may live busy lifestyles
and sometimes it gets
very easy to get caught up in work
and other obligations
and start to neglect the attention
that you need to be giving to your partner.
So, I encourage you to take a step back
and create a structure
that gives you the balance
of giving the attention and time you need to,
to your work, to your purpose because that is important.
And hell, purpose is priority
plain and simple.
But you still need to be able to give your woman time too,
but now when we talk about paying attention
like I said, you need to be present in the moment
and you need to learn how to read your woman
read her in the way that
you're picking up on the little things.
One thing about a lot of women
they don't always want to have to communicate
everything to you because they're hoping
you will be able to pay attention
and figure it out by monitoring them
or watching them and noticing
maybe certain patterns.
Maybe certain things they said that they like
that you if you're paying attention will pick up on
and now can use that to now
do nice things for her,
she likes that.
Even if she's not expecting that from you,
it warms her heart
when her man notice something on his own
and was able to now put it into play
and put a smile on her face.
That shows her that you're very in tune with her.
Women crave that
now again, it doesn't mean that
women should not be more expressive
about their needs and desires.
I always encourage women to do that,
but I still want to encourage the men
learn how to get in tune with her,
learn how to read her
and understand even her body language
because that is going to really make her feel good
that's going to strengthen that relationship
strengthen that bond.
And again, it will work in your favor
in the overall quality of the relationship, all right.
So, those are the five things
but I want to make one last
final overarching point.
What she needs from her man
is masculine energy, all right.
I am big,
I am huge on the dynamic of
masculine and feminine energy.
It's important as men that we tap into that
we cultivate that we learn how to master it
because that is what she ultimately needs from you
and a lot of things that we already discussed
play into you standing in that masculine energy, all right.
So, make sure that,
that's something that we dive deeper into
and yes, I will provide more information
and videos about masculine energy
how you can improve it,
how you can master it
so that you're going to be winning
not just in your relationship,
but in your life overall.
So, just remember the importance of
you tapping into
and walking in your masculine energy.
So, those are the five things
a woman needs from her man.
Again, comment below
let me know if there's anything else that I missed.
Ladies, you can add to the list, all right.
Comment below give your feedback,
but again, like this video, share this video,
and I look forward to seeing you in the next one.