Hey Fitlifer, Drew Canole remember we're in this together, it's mindset Monday and on
this Mindset Monday, I'm going to talk about healing guilt.
Guilt is absolutely one of the worst things that you can experience as a human being.
It will hold you back from accomplishing your weight loss goals, it will hold you back from
that job promotion, it will hold you back from that ideal relationship that you're looking
for and today I'm going to show you how to eradicate yourself of guilt.
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The only way guilt can exist is to believe that it really happened; most guilt comes
from the past, so what we do is we take these little memory deposits, maybe it's an event
that happened with your mom or your dad, whatever it is and we form our memory around it.
So that memory, every single time we have it, it changes.
One memory is not the same every time, it's like scanning a copy of a picture, once you
scan it a hundred time, the image changes.
So what you do is you form an impression in your mind every single time that you have
this memory and it starts to build up, it starts to become real and it's based on your
opinion of that time when you actually had it.
So let's say you were four years old, your opinion as a four year old child has changed
dramatically over the course of your life.
But for some reason you're still holding on to the guilt as if it happened yesterday.
Listen, I get it, I've been there completely, I was abused as a child, I had all these traumatic
experiences and I was holding on to it my whole entire life until I realized this concept
of this opinion that I had when I was a child.
So we need to erase that opinion, we need to get rid of it, cause in getting rid of
that opinion that you had as a four year old child is going to free you from becoming the
mature adult that you are today, so how do we do that.
Number one, from taking this bag of bricks that you've been carrying around, also known
as guilt and releasing them for good is to develop a positive affirmation.
My affirmation is I love you, I'm sorry, Please forgive me, and I'm listening.
And then when I say I'm listening, I'm silent for 3-4 seconds, I say it again and I do this
consciously throughout the day, and by saying this over and over and over again, it weakens
my ego from holding on to those past memories that I've formed in my mind that have created
this rock like substance of the past.
So let's get rid of the past, let's put that completely behind us.
And here's number 2, this one's a little bit tricky, if somebody hurt you in the past and
you haven't forgiven them or maybe you have forgiven them but you're still holding on
to it, it still shape shifting your current reality, you're still depositing those memories
in your memory bank, here's what I encourage you to do, and this will free you, grab a
pen, grab a piece of paper, and write that person a letter, expressing how you feel,
expressing the way that you saw in detail is that four year older, how old you were
in the situation, write it down, get all your feelings out on that paper and apologize to
that person.
I know it sounds crazy, it's like 'You want me to apologize to this person that did this
to me so long ago that I've been had guilty feelings in my whole entire life, you want
me to do that Drew?'
I do.
And number 3, always remember that the way people see you in your experience is a reflection
of their own consciousness.
Every single event, every single thing that they've been through their own life, is like
a set of sunglasses and they see through the sunglasses to see you as a person.
So it's clouded by all the insufficiencies, all the insecurities of their own being.
It doesn't affect you; in fact, they're judging you based on their experience, they've probable
never even seen the real you.
You know the you that I'm talking about, the spiritual you, the you that not everybody
knows about them, maybe one person in this entire earth really has seen the real you
and you're afraid to go there.
I totally get it cause I've been afraid my whole entire life to really be that me.
Well you need to let all that go and part of this guilt video is to release that and
to start living from that dwelling place of light.
That's where I want you to go, I want you to really start to be the real spiritual you,
the you that wakes up in the morning as completely energized, full, fueled, and ready to go for
the day.
Live from that state.
Worrying about what others think dis-empowers you on values.
I often get a lot of emails from a young man asking how to get more confidence, how to
get more strength, how to really be that authentic male and it all comes down to recognizing
that I am a true spiritual being and when I recognize that every single thing I do if
I live from that spirit side of my life, then the rest of it will just fall into place and
that's what gives me confidence, that's what gives me strength, that's what wakes me up
in the morning and gets me up out of bed, allowing me to do this for you on a daily
basis.
It's living from that spirit spot.
So that's what I encourage any, you know, young male, any young woman, trying to find
their way, trying to find their purpose, they're confused about what school to go to, what
to do with their life, anybody in this particular type of situation, start living from that
authentic spiritual spot and the rest of it will just unfold.
Guilt is a game that a lot of families like to play, they enroll you in it, 'feel guilty
for me because you didn't do this' now because you didn't do this, will you do this for me.
People get caught up in this guilt net, and it's really really hard to escape and then
they live from a spot of guilt, resentment adds up, all these things and people start
to take it on from a physical aspect.
I believe the vast majority of America and this obesity problem that we're dealing with
could be tied back somewhat to this guilt epidemic.
So how do we release ourselves from that net that's casted in the family and the corporations
wherever you work, different things, people use this game of guilt.
How do you break free from that net?
Simple, step to the side of it and expect no flare up.
Don't expect there to be a big argument or anything like that, you can simply step to
the side, and allow it to pass.
You don't have to play that game and when others see that you're not playing that game
of guilt, they won't throw that net at you anymore.
Either people will approve of you or they won't, don't ask them for their approval because
when they don't approve then you're going to have to spend your energy which is very
very valuable explaining yourself to them.
It's like metaphysically taking your energy or that spirit source and throwing it down
to drain.
It's a game you don't want to play.
So work on these guilt things over the next week and let me know how it goes, leave a
comment below this video and start focusing on who you really are living from that spirit
spot.
You are authentic, you are an original creation, there's no duplicate out there like you on
this planet, you're an individual, you're a magnificent creator and an infinite being
that is sent here to do great things, I believe in you, I've probably never even met you but
if you're watching this video there's a reason for it, I believe I've come into your experience
for a very distinct reason and I'm happy to be playing this role, so I'm Drew Canole,
remember we're in this together, and I'll see you next week.