Hey there! Look, do you struggle with
overthinking? Do you catastrophize a lot?
Well look, it's in human nature and many,
many people do this, so you're definitely
not alone!
But many people have also learned how to
get free of that particular struggle, and
that gives them an edge!
That's an edge that you can get too
because the fantastic news is we can all
learn to get free of that struggle!
By the end of this video you'll have
ideas and practices I know you can do to
help you with how to stop overthinking
to reduce stress and anxiety, and it'll
also help with how to stop
catastrophizing too. And stay with me
right till the end because at the end I
will show you how you can access a
fantastic free five-step process for how
to master your composure in conflict
pressure and stress in the moment. I
think that will be of massive value to
you.
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If you knew me 15 years ago you would
know that I was a chronic over-thinker. I
was an absolute champion at it! But the
work that I did with my coaches was
transformational to how I was around
this, so I've been on the receiving end
of that kind of coaching, and also the
clients that I've coach have experienced
the same shifts. So this stuff works!
Tip number one is don't fight it, ease
out of it. There's a fantastic phrase,
a metaphor, which I love for this. I first
read it in Jamie Smart's book Clarity. I've
got no idea whether it really originated
with him or some place else but that's
where I first heard it, and it goes like
this:
You cannot shake a snow globe clear!
You know what a snow globe is right? It's
one of these things pictured here.
That's such a perfect metaphor for
this, because so many of us try to beat
our overthinking habit by wrestling with
our thinking, by trying to arrest our
thinking, but you know my experience is
that thinking resists arrest! And that's
just like trying to make the snow globe
clear by shaking it even harder. So let
that idea go folks and learn a new idea
in its place, which is to stop wrestling
with our thinking and to simply let it
go. People who are good at this tend
to practice ahead of time getting into
the kind of state where they can let it
go and let the mind
settle, which brings us to tip number two,
which is practice letting the mind
settle. Let's quickly cover off that
how you can turn that into a daily
practice. Every day just go somewhere
where you can be at peace: a room, the
garden,
somewhere where you can ask to not be
disturbed. Close the door,
sit comfortably, no distractions okay,
no phone, no tablet, no TV, no radio, no
music, just you and the silence. Dim the
lights if you can and then just sit
there for five minutes in stillness and
silence. You'll be surprised at the
restorative power of silence! don't try
to think of anything, but at the same
time don't try to not think of anything.
Basically do not try to arrest thinking!
Just let go of all resistance, and if you
defocus slightly and transfix on
something that will probably help as
well. And have the experience of letting
the noise settle. By the way I'm really
interested to hear any ways that you've
experienced that help you beat the
overthinking habit. If you're okay to
share that please do share it as a
comment. I'll read all the comments that
are left and I'll reply to as many as I
can. Tip number three is to learn to
not be afraid of your thinking and not
particularly get engaged with it. Syd
Banks, whose teachings became popularly
known as the Three Principles of Mind,
Consciousness and Thought always said
that if the only thing people learned
was to not be afraid of their experience,
that alone would change the world.
And since our experience is created in
thought then we're talking about the
principle of Thought here. People who are
good at this, who are good at getting free
from overthinking know that any
overthinking we do is simply an overuse
and a misuse of the principle of Thought.
So when you can experience that
overthinking really is just Thought and
it's not what's happening in the world
right now, then it's easier to let go of
it. Tip number four is to experience
that this moment is the only one we have.
Overthinking and catastrophizing, if you
think about it, is us creating the
fear-based story about the future
created with a
negativity bias, and it's guessing,
and it's second-guessing what the
future is.
Well we cannot know what the future is
and besides it isn't here yet, we're here
in this moment I find it extremely
transformative to remember that I am
here now. I'm not in a fictitious, guessed,
second guessed future, and this moment is
the one that warrants my attention. This
moment is the only one we have and it's
the only one we have any guarantee of.
Literally, the only one we have ANY
guarantee of, so let's be present with
this moment and remember that our only
real decision is about whether we use
this moment well. Tip number five is
actually a few things that are worth
remembering. It is worth remembering a
few things around this, for instance that
the future is unknowable. The fact of the
matter is the future can surprise
us in all kinds of ways that we could
not anticipate today. It's worth
remembering that the world isn't
inherently against you. It's also worth
remembering that you are more
resourceful than you realize, and anybody
who thinks back to any really difficult
situation in their life where they found
it in themselves to do things that maybe
they wouldn't do on a daily basis, is a
great way of remembering how resourceful
we can be when we need to be. Now if
you'd like to explore how we could
create results together I would
certainly love to hear from you.
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Other than that thank of your time and
I'll see you again next week.
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