hey guys I'm super excited today. this video is about how to make a man miss
you and I have two of the best relationship coaches with me.
so today I have Jason silver from attract great guys and Mark Rosenfeld from make him
yours so mark is a relationship superstar he's from Australia he's here
in the United States he's touring the country I'm so privileged to have you
here I'm so excited he has over 250,000 subscribers on YouTube and he is
honestly one of the most authentic nicest people I'm so like it's gonna be
all over the place and Jason and third-wheel Jason is my main man Jason
has he's killing it his content is amazing I love the stuff that he does
and so today I asked them if they would do a video with me and you know talk
about how to make a man miss you and so let me let me set this up one of the
biggest challenges that that the people that work with me have is that they get
into a relationship with a man and things are going so well in the
beginning he's super thoughtful he's texting he's calling he's doing all the
right things and you know the woman might be a little bit more reserved
she's taking her time she's seeing what he's about and then she falls in love
with him she decides to get into a commitment with him and then all of a
sudden everything changes he's not so interested in her anymore he's not
texting he's not calling he's not planning you know all of these amazing
dates like before and heard of this happening to this is oh my gosh it's
like the biggest thing and it seems like the biggest thing is like peace I
understand he's so busy but like you know he doesn't text me good-morning
anymore he doesn't call me he doesn't plan dates I want him to be like he was
before I want him to be to miss me the way I miss him so I want to ask both of
them for some advice on what they think a person should do in this situation
so Jason I want to ask you why does this happen why is it that all that like he's
so invested he's so thoughtful he's so into her and then he gets into a
commitment and everything changes why does that happen
I think it's hard to give like the one overarching reason because it is really
specific and dependent on the situation but I think oftentimes for men it's like
this huge mountain right to be able to get into a relationship with a woman
that you value and so you're really working hard right you're trying to
prove and be your best self because ultimately you're trying to win the love
and affection of someone that you care about that you want to spend a long time
with and what happens I believe is I think that we take people for granted I
think it's a very normal common thing I think that in general I think that
people take things for granted it's like a human it's a natural thing that as we
get something or attain something whether it's a new relationship or an
object or an achievement it just starts to feel normal and every morning let's
say where we moved to Hawaii and we're looking at in this beautiful or
Australia if you haven't seen where mark lives mark lives in Boosh Mick I woke up
it's so nice in Australia can you invite me to I'm we've got boats we're going to
kangaroo next month we're gonna train the three of us are gonna do a repeat
so I guarantee you that if I went into Mark's backyard I would be blown away
with just the romantic beauty of the Australian sunset and Mark might look at
the backyard and say I wonder if it's gonna rain later now I'm not saying that
you don't stop and pause and appreciate but it takes effort right you actually
have to put effort forward to not take things for granted and I think that it's
a very easy thing and then what happens is all of a sudden he's taking you for
granted and you resent that and it kind of just creates conflict so at the end
of the day I look at a relationship forming as you know what are you giving
to the other person and if two people go into relationship giving to another I
look at it as a making as making emotional deposits into their bank
account so saying I love you or you're beautiful or doing something for someone
basically adding value to someone's life is like making a deposit and then asking
for a favor or forgetting a birthday or saying something mean or being in a bad
mood and kind you know putting out that negative
energy that's taking a withdrawal and if you if both partners are both focused on
investing in the other eventually you're gonna build a vault of love you know
that's kind of how I look I love that I love that yeah yeah absolutely women
come to me all the time with this dilemma and they say I want this to
shift I want to be back how it was and my first thing if I'm working with a
client is okay well how was it in terms of you you know what were you doing
differently how was the balance different because so often before we've
committed we're both working for each other we're both leaning in at times
we're both leaning out at times there's no games to this this is just what
happens is a natural flow of a relationship and then once the
commitment is there there's this this lean in from her she's giving more time
more attention more of her love than he is returning and and this lean in it
because of this single commitment it gets messed up and I say as well as
making the emotional deposits you've also got a balance that was something
Esther Parral talks about which is leaning back which isn't because you're
intentionally creating space or anything like that
it's just doing the same things you were doing before that made him so attractive
and made him feel like if he dropped the ball he could still lose you you know
commitment shouldn't be a thing where okay I've kept you know she's committed
to me now I can treat her however I want right that's sure that's gonna totally
lose a guy's interest because even though he's getting the great experience
he's not driven by that need for work and that need for that a little bit of
fear there you talk about so eloquently when a guy has to still feel like oh you
know I'm as good as my last couple of weeks he's still gonna feel like even
with the commitment he could blow this great thing that he's not early and with
you just doing your own passion spending more time with your friends keeping you
fitness all those attractive things that God feels that space that he can cross
to get more in his emotional bank account with you yeah I totally agree
and so I think you know in if we're putting this in Antonio's terms as as
I've said in other videos I think what happens is you know the guys trying so
hard in the beginning he wants to win your affection he wants your attention
he wants to have your love and so he's working on and he's working on it and
and you know women are a little bit more reserved they might not you know they're
trying to see who this person is and so when they decide that yeah I'm gonna be
in a commitment with this person or this you know man asks you for a commitment
then all of a sudden they are thinking that let me text him good morning and
they are trying more they're putting more investment so that they're working
harder towards this and the man is kind of like it's kind of like they're
leaning right they're leaning back and so they're doing all of the work man
doesn't have to do any more work and you know one of the things that we were
talking about before this video was I think that whenever I've been in love or
whenever I've fallen in love there was always it was always with the person who
I felt a little bit afraid of the fact that that person has other options a guy
can't think that he has you because if he just knows like oh you're totally
smitten you're totally in love you want to get married he's just like okay I'm
busy now I got to work I got it you know you're texting him good morning
he doesn't have to text you good morning so the the thing that we've talked about
in other videos is that if you just back up a little bit and focus on being an
independent an independent woman that doesn't need him and focus on the
experiences that you have when you're together making those experiences great
that reminds him of why he's he's with you as opposed to asking him all the
time why didn't you text me like I know you're changing I know you're changing
used to text me all the time in the morning used to call me every morning we
should plan dates you're changing what's wrong when I start hearing that when a
man starts hearing that he's like I have to I have to worry she's mine yeah you
know he doesn't feel like he has that all if I don't step up my game
commitment or no commitment she gonna go yack on the loser he's like oh and when
he feels that because you're still doing all your stuff you're keeping yourself
literally being authentically you in the relationship with him and without him
then he feels that pull to lean back in and like I still got this prize they're
not gonna like to lose yeah and you just said it I think what
we're really talking about is we're talking about mating value and this is
something that is a little bit taboo to talk about because I think at the end of
the day a lot of my clients just want to fall in love and be authentic and it's
very difficult to view dating as though as though there's almost like a
marketplace where someone has a certain amount of value and I have a certain
amount of value it's it's a thing right when we actually go out and when we date
we're looking for a deal we're looking for a value and there's one person in
your life today who has the best knowledge and understanding of what your
market value is you know who that is you thank you thank you I mean I didn't
expect me to get that I was hoping yeah I think at the end of the day what you
guys are really just talking about is that if a man is ignoring you if a man
is not giving you what you really need then if you don't have standards
if you don't lift yourself up and you stay with this guy what does that say
could you imagine the woman you value most little well she gonna do that ya
know I always say you got to put yourself respect above your feelings I
love that I love that let me use it go to please because if they if yeah it's
authentic to feel that but if you're just feeling and feeling and feeling and
you're not respecting yourself in the process and your value people will
interpret your value about yourself and that's how they'll see you so you know
there's been women you've seen their video where I got ghosted where it's
like I really like her unfortunately so myself prestigio oh yeah what if you're
watching this video you're crazy what are you doing in all seriousness I
this sometimes way you have is the self respect first yeah sure and it's like
dammit I I like you I put myself out there but you're not giving me back what
I need so self-respect comes first when the guy feels that he's like all over
the girl whatever when the person feels that they're like all I'm gonna lose
this person they're putting self-respect first that's when they reinvest and you
get your authentic self respect meant by a man who
Matthew and if he doesn't respect you or if he doesn't meet you at that point
then what no a man who will absolutely and so to boil it all down so what do
you do when you feel like this guy is not appreciating you he's not respecting
you he's not valuing you like he did before rather than going towards him and
saying come back I want you I need you you need to step back a little bit and
go towards you go towards you because he's you know think about it this way if
you were telling your best friend if you were telling your sister advice and they
told you that like this is what's happening you would say don't you know
he doesn't deserve you he's not giving you what you need he's you would tell
her to back up and let him appreciate you and so the bottom line is back up
start focusing more on you and let if he values you if he loves you if he wants
you you will see a change in him and he's gonna notice he's gonna be like
what's going on here if you don't notice that then it wasn't meant to be anyway I
mean let's be real right yeah full agreement cool that's it okay so we have
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a lot man appreciate it cool we're good