- Do you feel sick and tired
of dating the wrong type of guys?
Dates that lead nowhere,
or attracting the toxic type
that takes advantage of you whenever he finds a chance?
Well, if this is the problem that you're having,
you are in the right place.
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that he is not relationship material,
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So ladies, without further ado,
let me share with you the five red flags
that he is not relationship material.
By knowing these five red flags,
you will be able to protect yourself
before you get into a unhealthy relationship.
Instead of entertaining the conversation with a toxic guy,
you will be able just to say,
"Thank you, next."
So the red flag number one,
he throws you breadcrumbs,
then he approaches you
and does not lead or show any interest
in the conversation with you.
For example, if you are on online dating,
he makes statements without any questions.
So he kind of throws in a bone
and does not ask any questions.
The messages usually are extremely short and very boring.
This approach is very common
with good looking or very successful guys.
So he kind of says, "Hi,"
so you would notice him,
would look at his pics maybe.
Perhaps he's very hot
or he's showing off his yacht or car or holiday locations.
He's a bit like,
"Hi, I'm here.
"Check me out, check out how hot I am.
"Check out how successful I am.
"Realize that I'm a really big catch,
"and then you pursue me."
The biggest problem that I see with ladies
is that a lot of these girls assume
that this guy is high value.
Ladies, they are not high value.
Just because he is hot and is successful,
it doesn't mean he is high value at all.
There are tons of men like this
who have no idea how to pursue women,
how to lead a woman,
and how to fulfill a woman's needs in a relationship.
If all he does is throwing you a bone
about any kind of interest and doesn't ask any questions,
all you can really do is un-match him.
Number two, just because he is 40,
doesn't mean he is mature or is looking for a relationship,
or knows how to treat a woman.
The truth is we live in a hookup era.
There are tons of men
who have been having hookups all their lives
and it didn't really advance any further than that.
If in his life,
he had one relationship which lasted one year
and the rest were hookups,
it is a massive red flag.
As basically this guy knows nothing about women
apart from how to get into their pants.
A relationship with this guy can be very unfulfilling.
Yes, you can be high value
and he most likely will fall for you,
and might even be over the moon and love to have you,
but since he will not know himself how to treat a woman,
how to fulfill any of her needs besides sex,
you will feel very unfulfilled with him.
Number three, he only talks about himself.
He doesn't ask any questions,
and when he does,
he doesn't listen.
This is a very narcissistic trait,
very self-obsessed, arrogant,
trying to show off to impress you what a catch he is.
And to be honest,
it's kind of a silly one
because if you want to be smart,
you will listen when someone speaks
because when you speak yourself,
you don't learn anything
as you're only repeating what you already know.
Anyway, by not showing interest in you,
by not listening to your opinion,
he is not fulfilling your relationship needs.
As why would you want to be with a person
who is not interested in you,
who is not interested in what you have to say?
Number four, manipulation and games.
He talks a lot and tries to bond.
He tries to find out about you as much as he can
and shows a lot of interest,
but when it comes to meeting up,
he cancels, flakes, gives excuses,
or manipulates the conversations
in a way that it's very, very confusing.
One day, he pursues you non-stop,
next day, he says he's not looking for anything serious
and loves being single.
And the next day,
he's asking you to meet up and is pursuing you again.
Every day is something new,
you never know what to expect,
apart from him changing his mind once again.
A common excuse from these guys is,
"Well, I'm just being honest,"
yet, in reality,
we are lost and confused,
don't know what we want,
and just give you a ton of mixed signals.
Why is he not a match?
So one of the major woman's love needs
is safety and security, stability,
and all this guy is giving is chaos and unreliability.
Number five, he starts the conversation
with inappropriate questions,
such as implying sexual stuff or asking for nudes.
A lot of questions about your past relationships.
And to be honest,
usually it's not as straightforward.
Usually it's a bit more of a innocent approach
in the beginning.
For example, "Oh, you're so cute,
"I would love to cuddle up with you,"
which is a soft way of testing,
are you easy?
And just by replying to this message in a nice way,
you are opening a green light for more sexual texts
and a lot of inappropriate messages,
which then can lead to all sorts of hooking up stuff.
However, saying that,
these guys are not always bad, bad.
What a lot of them do is they test girls like that
to see will you be easy and continue the conversation
by showing that green light,
or on the other hand,
if he says something inappropriate
and you simply just ignore it,
ignoring in this case would be setting up a boundary.
There is a big chance that he will get the hint
and will change his behavior by showing more respect.
And how to set healthy boundaries with men,
I have an awesome video
which you can find by following the link
either here or here.
So ladies, these were my five red flags
for the guys that are not relationship material.
And once you see one of these red flags,
you basically just say to yourself in your mind,
"Thank you, next,"
and move on.
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