If you’re hoping to get back together with your ex, there are 5 key things you absolutely
MUST keep in mind… or else it’s almost guaranteed they’ll be gone for good. So,
in this video, I’ll explain these 5 key concepts in detail… by the end, you’ll
be in a much better position to start reeling your ex back into your arms.
I, of course, am Breakup Brad Browning… I’ve been helping people like you overcome
breakups and win back exes for more than 12 years now. Through my coaching and my best-selling
Ex Factor program, I’ve helped over 150,000 people get their ex back, and hopefully you’ll
be my next success story!
Now, let’s talk about the 5 critical things you need to understand when it comes to getting
back together with your ex…
Key #1: You must control your own emotions!
Now, I’m covering this point first because it’s one of the single most common mistakes
I see people make that has the potential to DESTROY any chance of ever getting back together.
Don’t get me wrong, I totally get it -- breakups are painful and emotional, and you’re probably
really hurting right now. In fact, some studies have shown that the pain and heartache of
a bad breakup is second only to the loss of a loved one in terms of how much it can affect
your life and your mental state… so, it’s understandable that you’re going to be feeling
emotional and heartbroken right now.
BUT… if you want to get a second chance with this ex… you MUST learn to control
your emotions and keep them to yourself as much as possible. There’s nothing less attractive
than someone who is outwardly showing a “woe is me” attitude after a breakup… and that’s
likely the reaction your ex is expecting you to have after the breakup. Maybe you’ve
seen friends who post sad song lyrics on Instagram after they were dumped… sometimes people
will just outright complain to the world about their heartbreak and how their ex ruined their
life by leaving them. Again, it’s a natural reaction to feel this way. But it’s also
totally counter-productive to your goal of getting them back.
Ideally, you actually want your ex not to know that you’re interested in getting back
together. If they’re unsure about your emotional state following the breakup -- if they assume
you still want them back, but don’t see any signs from you to support that assumption
-- you’ll create some intrigue and mystery that will spark their curiosity. Better yet,
if your ex doesn’t know that you want them back, they’ll likely be more receptive to
your future attempts to re-connect with them and probably less guarded about seeing you
in person.
Key #2: Have faith in the No Contact strategy.
If you’ve seen any of my previous YouTube videos, or if you’ve watched my full free
tutorial video at BreakupBrad.com, you’ll know about the 30-day No Contact strategy.
But despite hearing me rave about the benefits of using No Contact to get your ex back, many
people still think their situation is special enough to warrant an exception. But, I’m
sorry, for 99% of you watching this… No Contact is going to need to be a key component
of your strategy to win back your ex.
Yes, there are few certain situations where No Contact isn’t advisable -- I’ve made
a video about this type of scenario previously, which I’ll link to in the description. But
chances are very very high that you’re going to need to apply No Contact for at least a
few weeks if you’re going to be able to get a second chance with your ex.
There’s a simple reason why No Contact is so effective and so important: it forces your
ex to feel the full consequences of the breakup, without allowing them to slowly learn to adjust
to life without you around. A lot of people worry that going silent after breaking up
will allow their ex to forget about them or move on… but that’s actually a totally
backwards way of looking at things. The simple truth is that your ex needs to miss you in
order to want you back, and in order to miss you, you need to disappear from their life
as suddenly and completely as possible.
If you’re still in doubt about the importance of No Contact, watch a few of my other past
videos on the topic… I promise you that, in 90% or more of all breakups, it’s going
to be a critical part of your strategy to get back together.
Key #3: Trying to use logic and reasoning to convince your ex to change their mind.
You’re probably going to feel like telling your ex they’ve made a mistake in breaking
up, or that you need to tell them how much you miss them and still love them… maybe
you’ll feel inclined to explain why things would be different if they gave your relationship
another chance. All of this is very reasonable, but it’s also completely opposite of what
you should be doing if you want to get them back.
Here’s the thing you need to remember: your ex has already made a decision. Even if you
were the one who originally initiated the breakup and you’ve since changed your mind,
the fact is that they’ve decided you’re better off apart. Nothing you can say -- no
amount of begging, pleading, apologizing, promising to change -- is going to help change
their mind. In fact, at this point, doing any of those things -- trying to talk your
way back into your ex’s heart -- is only going to make matters worse and further reduce
your chances of getting them back.
What you need to do instead is to tap into their emotions and fundamentally change how
they feel about you and your potential future together. This happens when you use strategies
like No Contact to make them miss you, to help them forget about those logical reasons
for breaking up… it almost NEVER happens simply with words. After this video is over,
go to www.BreakupBrad.com and watch my full free tutorial video, in which I explain how
to use subtle psychological tactics to shift their perception of you and how they think
about you as a romantic partner.
I know this sounds a bit like psycho-babble nonsense, but I promise you… after coaching
literally tens of thousands of people like you through a breakup over the course of the
past 13 years… this is the only way you’re really going to get them back. So please don’t
try to beg, plead, or convince your ex to change their mind… instead, use the techniques
I explain in my free video tutorial and in my Ex Factor program to tap into their subconscious
mind and make THEM feel like they NEED to take you back.
Key #4: Focus on yourself and the things within your control.
Now, this is another point I’ve mentioned many times in my past videos here on YouTube,
but it’s a very important one so I want to include it again here. There is absolutely
no point in worrying or analyzing things that you have no control over… so don’t bother.
For example, you might learn that your ex has been seeing someone new. Or your ex might
block you or unfriend you on social media. Or maybe you’ll hear some negative, hurtful
rumour through a mutual friend. And as painful as these things might be, and potentially
even damaging to your chances of getting your ex back… they’re all totally outside of
your control. There’s no point in stressing about them, or spending hours analyzing them
over and over in your head… instead, focus on what you CAN control. Focus on doing the
things that WILL improve your chances of getting back together, and do your best to forget
about everything else.
While you’re engaged in No Contact -- which I now like to call “Dynamic No Contact”
to stress this point -- work on yourself. Be social and make new friends. Achieve your
goals at work or in school. Pick up new hobbies or learn a new skill. Hit the gym or get a
makeover or go buy some new clothes and get a new haircut. Just do things that will keep
your mind off the breakup, improve your own lot in life, and make yourself even more attractive
and appealing to your ex.
Key #5: Don’t try to rush the process.
This is another mistake that I see many of my clients make, unfortunately. Changing your
ex’s mind about the breakup and getting them to come back to you isn’t usually something
that happens overnight -- it’s a process that often takes weeks or even months. And
if you try to rush things, cut corners, skip ahead… it’s usually going to backfire
on you. Sometimes catastrophically. So, try your best to have patience and avoid caving
in to your desire to break No Contact or spam your ex with messages…. Stick to the process,
take it slow, and play the long game. Remind yourself that by being patient and having
faith in the process, you’re giving yourself the best possible chance at getting your ex
to come crawling back to you.
OK folks, that’s 5 key concepts to keep in mind when you’re trying to get a second
chance with your ex… if you want to know what your odds of success are, now is a good
time to take my free 5-minute quiz at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz…. Take the quiz, and you’ll get a detailed
scoring report breaking down your chances and suggesting your next steps. Again, it’s
at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz.
Thanks for watching, thanks for subscribing to my channel… and I’ll talk to you in
the comments below! Bye for now.