A couple days ago I went live to talk about that day Meghan went
to see Harry playing polo and she allowed the nanny have a day off.
Well, I learned very quickly that the general public is
really concerned with the do's and don'ts of baby handling, as you're about to find out.
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And speaking of which, we were talking about how Meghan tackled some very basic motherhood tasks.
In this case, how to handle a baby properly. This is a very sensitive topic for many
reasons, because the first thing that happened, even before I made the live,
was that people began to accuse me of mommy-shaming Meghan.
I mean, whatever mommy shaming is.
But I would never criticize anyone who has barely 60 days as a mother,
even if many people pointed out that this,
OF COURSE, was the worst way they've seen anyone handle a baby. At least, since Michael Jackson.
All I want to do is an exercise in thinking, because when it comes to newborns,
there are many factors. For example, by the soft shadows on the pictures we can
guess that it was a cloudy day. But even so, it would be advisable to bring a hat or something.
And Harry is really creative on that topic.
It's great that even holding her son in such an uncomfortable position,
with a posture that must be hard to maintain for a long time,
our Duchess managed to spot the camera, even if it was quite far away.
We know that this was a long distance shot, because of the grain of the picture. That
subtle pattern of dots that is all over the image. And someone asked if there was any kind of footage
or video of this event. And yes, there is one! and I managed to include it in this summary.
You can see for yourself the actual frame, and how far was she from the photographers.
I don't know if you can make out the camera clicks. But yeah, even so,
she managed to stare right into them, like she could smell their presence.
But again, the topic was really hot in regards to what is the actual experience of a woman holding
her own baby after 60 days. And I got all kind of comments, even from nurses, who claim that there
is this natural approach to baby holding that just happens within a couple days of giving birth.
And by the way, if you think that sixty days with a newborn doesn't sound like much,
it's because you haven't spent sixty days with a newborn. That's for sure.
Because it's normal that at this very early stage, you will be holding your baby a lot.
This is how they calm, with your smell, with your movement, with your warmth.
And yes, they are going to grow, but you'll get experience rather quickly,
always making sure that you can hold them comfortably for rather long periods of time.
So that's why so many people, including myself, have so many questions about
Meghan holding Archie this way. She looks so awkward and uncomfortable,
that it's impossible not to notice the expressions of the couple next to her.
Those are expressions of anxiety and doubt. I don't know if they have experience holding
babies. They are Charlie Gilkes and Anneka Taylor. Harry attended their wedding in 2014.
But their faces reveal their anguish, not to mention Charlie's posture that suggests he's
seriously pondering the possibility of pointing out to Meghan that she's doing an awful job.
And this is where we stumble upon some inconsistencies in behavior. I pointed
out about this kind of baby carriers, that are lightweight and really convenient for the task at
hand. And... you might remember that Meghan used to have her blog, named The Tig, where she did
all these reviews and blog posts about places, cuisine, fashion and other lifestyle topics.
I must say, from what I've seen from The Tig archives that it was
very well done. The design, the writing, was quite good. In fact,
I've been thinking about making a video about all the way that The Harkles could redeem themselves,
and one strategy that could work very well for them to make money, is Meghan making The Tig 2.0
It worked for Gwyneth Paltrow and Goop. A lifestyle blog.
And I mention The Tig, because it showcases one of Meghan's character traits,
that is a massive attention to detail. This is very important because it helps us take a look
at how Nutmeg's brain works. This is a very important tip in behavior and body language,
because once you establish a behavior baseline, any deviation from that should be noted.
Back to this image, you wonder that... since Meghan has such an attention to detail,
and she used to do her due dilligence
in the lifestyle industry, why didn't she think about something like this?
You can imagine that as a new mother, she would be getting and reviewing all
the necessary gadgets and stuff to make her life easier. So having such a sloppy moment,
is strange both from a motherhood perspective,
AND an established character trait perspective. It's something that just doesn't fit with her.
Again, this is not to bash Meghan. We have all been amateurs at everything,
but anyone can tell you that after sixty days of realizing that your life completely changed
thanks to a small person that came out of you and has just become your master and commander,
you would look for any means to make your life easier, no matter the situation.
And no, I don't think that Catherine's facial expression had anything to do with Meghan's
improvised baby yoga. Because you can't look at
Kate on those pictures and not remember that The Office meme.
But the simplest explanation is usually the right one, and maybe she could not
stand the sunlight of that day, even if we already established that it was cloudy.
In Meghan's deFENse, any mother or father will prioritize that their baby be comfortable no
matter what. Up to the point of not having any problem with being uncomfortable themselves,
such as this picture that Meghan is trying to interact, smile, look at him...
Well, I don't think babies can understand what sunglasses are,
but maybe he's finding them at least amusing.
But you can't help but feel that his whole weight is not being correctly supported. And that's
the feeling that makes you cringe with these pictures. I think nobody would mind that Meghan,
or any mother or father, be uncomfortable so that their baby can feel good and have a good time.
But it doesn't look like this little person is in a comfortable position, and this could go as far
as to not being in a safe position, depending on the person's experience holding babies.
And of course, the question arises. How much nanny help was involved up to this point.
Because that would seriously cripple Meghan's technique, especially in situations like this.
Some have claimed that Meghan was not supposed to be there. That allegedly
she rushed to the place just because she found out that one of Harry's ex girlfriends
was around. I don't like gossip of any kind, but that sort of not-so-blind
items makes you wonder as to why Meghan looked like she actually, rushed out of Frogmore Cottage.
So, make of that what you will.
If there is one thing to get from this video is the fact that character traits do not usually
change drastically over time. Especially, if there is no reason for them to change.
So, if you see that someone's behavior footprint suddenly changed,
most probably is not an internal change, but an external force. Something external influenced
their behavior in a way that changed their usual behavior, body language and attitude.
The next obvious question would be to find out why that person felt so affected
by those external circumstances. That way, you will be able to connect faster with them.
That will help you get to know people better, and get to know yourself better, too.
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