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Hello my beauties welcome back to my channel, I'm your Alexandra if you're new welcome, this is a vibration raising life-affirming
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I want to talk to you guys about four mental habits that we have got to give up in order to be happy and successful
But first I want to give a huge shout out to my friend and patreon supporter Cole who gave me the most amazing
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Let's get right into the video the first mental habit that we have to give up is
Giving up on ourselves and on our dream way too often
I have people telling me that they want to give up and stop wasting their time because they hit a bump in the road
or they were
rejected or
They didn't get what they were asking for in the time frame that they wanted to get it in if you're willing to give up
On something that you love that easily even after a few rejections, maybe you don't love it enough
Maybe you don't want it enough, and if you don't want it badly enough. It will be harder for you to get it
You know who experience failure in their life?
Einstein JK rowling, Oprah Bill Gates
Beyonce if then given up and decided to I don't know walk away from their dream and
Settle for a minimum wage the world would be a completely different place
It would be with much less innovation and so much less art
What sets those people apart is not necessarily their talent or their circumstances?
But it's their refusal to give up they refused to let go of their dreams
They stood back up every time they felt
You can't give up on yourself
and it's as easy as
Deciding right now wherever you're watching this just make the decision that you will not give up on your dream
You will not give up on whatever makes you feel
Alive if you stay strong get over the bumps in the road get over the rejection and get that Cup you will reap the reward
Remember that things will come to you in the right moment and in the right way if you haven't seen results yet
Don't give up because you're about to be there
Usually we're about to get whatever it is that we want right before we walk away from it your manifestation is on its way to
You now stop giving up on the universe because the universe
Won't ever give up on you a good way of train around that feeling of wanting to give up is to just say f it
And just do whatever you want just go for it right when you're at the moment of giving up is the perfect time to go
All-in number two the second mental habit that we have got to give up is holding grudges
We have to give up grudges for the main fact that harboring those feelings those feelings of anger and resentment is
Only going to hurt you not the person that you feel them towards
You're only hurting yourself physically and mentally by holding on to these negative emotions
Forgiveness is the key to freedom telenko the grudge is in essence a step towards self love so to let go of a grudge
first
Acknowledge the problem figure out what the actual problem is that you're holding on to and why you're holding on to it
So tightly that - is to share your feelings
If possible share your feelings with the person that you're holding the grudge against remember to use
I sentences like I feel like you so that the person doesn't feel defensive
Usually when we have a conversation and we say you did this you did that that will automatically make a person feel defensive
And you will not get anywhere it will not be a productive conversation if you can't talk to that person who your grudges held against
Talk it out with other people just get through it work through it
Maybe switch places try to gain some perspective
Put yourself in the shoes of this other person you may not learn anything from doing this or you may learn
Everything and immediately feel a sense of relief that you have some sort of deeper understanding about the situation lastly about
Letting go of grudges is you have to accept the?
Situation for what it is whether you received an apology or not choose to heal. This is your decision
This is your health in your life this person is not
Responsible for how you feel and holding on to the pain holding on to that hurt is only hurting you the third mental habit we
Have to get rid of is feeling FOMO Damo or the fear of missing out is defined as the uneasy and sometimes all-consuming
Feeling that you're missing out that your peers are in the know about or involved in something that is
Better than what you have nearly 3/4 of young adults have
Reported to feeling FOMO, and it's a horrible feeling too often in order to not feel that FOMO
We overextend ourselves to make sure that we're at every social gathering every
Extracurricular every business opportunity in the long run it does us no good
We stretch ourselves too thin and we adopt a short term outlook on life when we need to be looking
Long-term and making sure that we're good for the future almost sucks from unhappiness or dissatisfaction
With your own life that might be a hard thing to accept
But the first step to healing from it into not feeling it is to
Accept that it also comes with the illusion of social media where everyone looks like they're having so much fun and doing so much but
Remember that that is an illusion in that people's online personas are much more fiction than real listen
It is okay to say no it's okay to not show up, and it's okay to not be invited somewhere in fact
There's something to be said about being exclusive with your presence in with your tummy
I used to feel major FOMO when I wasn't invited somewhere or when I couldn't make an event or
extracurricular activity until I learned and understood the feeling of FOMO is being
dissatisfied with my own current
situation and the way to work through - to work on myself and work on my life if my life is exactly the way I
Want it to be I'm not going to be missing out on anything you can stop feeling FOMO by taking the focus off of other
people and putting it back on to yourself in your own life focus on everything you do have your career your job your
Education your hobbies your family your friends your pets focus on the things you do have and you will feel
Fulfilled if you feel fulfilled with your own life
You will not be afraid of missing out on what everyone else is doing a great way to
Actively fight against foam on your day to day life is to stay away from social media from checking in all the time
We check it right when we wake up before we go to bed while we're eating and any
Waking moment really
We're checking social media weaning yourself
From that habit is going to be so beneficial to you so try to get off of your phone or computer
Early on in the evening in the morning
Don't reach for your phone right away
Maybe take a walk or meditate do your morning activities drink some coffee before?
Reaching for your phone and starting the whole social media check this will actively begin to start shielding you
Against FOMO now number four speaking of FOMO the fourth habit that we absolutely have to give up is
Comparing ourselves to other people we all do this naturally unless we put up forward a conscious effort to not
To stop doing it
I probably said this in like five other videos, but I'm going to put in this one also because it is so
Important you will only feel freedom and happiness once you release yourself from comparing yourself to other people the issue with
Comparing yours to others is we often compare our weaknesses against someone else's strengths
We will also compare all the things that somebody has the material things that somebody has to
The things that we have when we do this we will always lose
It is the easiest and fastest way to feel badly about yourself and have an immediate drop in self-esteem
We don't want to be comparing ourselves to anybody else you need to understand that you are far, too
Unique to be compared with anyone else you also need to accept that your version of success
Is probably not the same as somebody else's
And it doesn't have to be the first step to stop comparing yourself to others is to gain awareness
Notice that you're doing it become aware of your thoughts while you're scrolling social media or talking to people
And see what you're feeling are you feeling envious a feeling jealousy are you feeling anger or resentment?
You'll notice that you don't have anything to gain from
Comparing yourself to others, but you have so much to lose once you identify these feelings you have to work through them
Why is it that you feel jealous of this person and what steps can you take to?
overcome that if you notice that you are feeling jealous of a person who has more material things
Than you then look inwards on this gained some self realization from this negativity turn it into something good
So you see that somebody has things that you want
So what do you have to do you have to work?
Harder on yourself find out what you can do in your life find your ikki guy find
What it is that you can do that will make you the money to afford you these material things?
But will make you happy make you feel successful you have to remember the material
Things will never fill us up. You can buy everything in the world and still not feel complete
What really fulfills us is work on the inside?
feeling whole on the inside
So create a life that makes you feel whole and I guarantee that that life that the majority of your happiness
Will not be sourced from the things that you buy when you're working through comparing yourself to others you have to
Constantly count your blessings
When you feel so done because you've been focusing on everything that you lack the best way to turn that around is to start focusing
On the abundance in your life the good things in your life
Gratitude will immediately make you stop comparing yourself to other people
Focusing on what you do have and all the great things in your life will right away
You make you feel better everyone has their own journey. It's not fair to compare yourself your journey to somebody else's
Everyone starts at different times with different places and different
Circumstances, and we can't be looking at their journey because we have to have our eyes set on our set on our Road
Have blinders on to your goal even though a good
80% of you guys probably had this tattooed on your brains because I stayed so much
I'm gonna stay one more time because I love it it encompasses this whole number four mental habit
Stop comparing your behind the scenes to other people's highlight-reel we each get
86,400 seconds every day spending even one
second of that time
Coveting somebody else's life is a waste of time you have not gained anything from doing that from wasting your time
scrolling through Instagram
And wanting what other people how you could be using that time to be with your family be with your friends be with yourself
Being nature learn get better improve work out
There's so much to do in life, and you should not spend 80 of those
86,400 seconds of your day
Wasting it wasting it on nothing if you need to compare only compare yourself to who you were the day before
Strive to become a better person every single day. It should only feel competition with yourself so the four mental habits
You need to give up today, or give you about your dreams feeling FOMO
Holding grudges and comparing yourself to others life is way too short and precious
Just waste any of your time doing any of these four things and thinking in these damaging wait focus on yourself and your journey be
Grateful work harder and keep looking up revel in your current happiness. I hope this was helpful for you guys
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