and today I want to talk to you about five conversation starters for first
dates so let's jump right in and the reason why I want to make this video is
because sometimes things do you think are really obvious easy to remember what
to do you can forget and so this may be a
video that you kind of you know it you already know this but it's good a good
little refresher for you. Hi ladies Jaki Sabourin here your executive
love coach and CEO of engaged in any age company that helps women deliberately
date and consciously create the man of their dreams
I met married my own soul mate match husband Michael after being single for
eight years that I still on the honeymoon and passionate about helping
you get engaged at any age let's jump right in to the first out of five
conversation starters for first date so the first thing I like to encourage you
to talk about is hobbies how come out your hobbies and you're sure you have a
hobby if you're thinking I don't have a hobby old do you read books do you watch
Netflix do you like series I mean if you can you like to cook do you work out I
mean those are all can be considered hobbies so you know maybe you like to
surf maybe you like to ski maybe you like to do Pilates maybe you create
beautiful blackberry jam and maybe you have a Pinterest board
you know Pinterest board whatever it is you can consider it a hobby it's
interesting to you it's something that you're passionate about and that's why
it's fun to talk about your hobbies or your passions because your face comes
alive you get really excited you know I used to do a lot more surfing than I do
now but when I was dating I was always wanting to share about my surfy because
it was so fun for me and I was so excited about being out on the water
that it was just natural I would naturally light up and that's why it's
important to you know to think about what hobby that you want to share and
share that it shows a little bit about what your interests are
but more importantly what it really shows that you're passionate that you're
excited about something something gets you excited and if you're a movie buff
great own it you know just own it it's okay so let's go on to number two and
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like me to make trainings on so the first thing that you can do is talk
about travel maybe you haven't traveled much maybe you have the point is that
travel is such a great topic to talk about so you can you can talk about
where you want to go or ask him where he wants to go or where he's been
I mean traveling just provides just a it creates a real rich conversation because
there's always adventures that happens when you travel and so those are fun to
share because you usually some kind of you know mishap that happened that you
can share about or just some beauty or wonder or something that really stood
out to you and again it's just sharing a little bit about what makes you tick and
what you like so that you can see if there's some compatibility I'll make
sure you sure share your travel experience and ask him about his go
another a conversation starter is the is a really big one for everybody and see
as you talk about food right food I mean if you're a foodie or not it doesn't
matter we all love food and so talking about what your favorite dishes I mean I
I love making chicken parmesan and a homemade Caesar dressing and I love
making fresh salmon I can cook fish like nobody's business after living in Hawaii
for 22 years I know how to make the most tender moist juicy delicious fish any
kind of fish you name it I can cook it do you see how excited I got talking
about food and so just go ahead and talk about that because I had a little
bragging moment there right but it's fun and you know maybe you can say you know
if you're lucky someday if you play your cards right I might be making a
beautiful piece of fish for you and so so have fun with that but food is a
great topic and ask him what he likes and maybe you guys end up
you could say something like another thing is if we were cooking dinner
together what would you be cooking us so that's
kind of a fun thing you can say before the date or on the dates or on the phone
okay the fourth thing that I want to share with you for a conversation
starter for first dates is music music is the big obvious thing to talk about
right but sometimes we forget so I remember asking this guy you know what
what kind of music he liked and he said I don't listen to music I just listen to
the sports channel on my way to work and I was like good to know there really it
was good to know and there was I didn't have a problem with that and but that
was what his interest was so I got to ask him about that and so you know you
can ask somebody who do you see if you were a Beatle which one would you be or
if you were a Spice Girl you know which one would you be you could you can
compare yourself to one of those lovely ladies not compare yourself but you know
what I'm saying like if I was a musician I would be so and so and so have fun
with the music you know know what you johner you love and you have your
favorite song ready you know it's interesting I listen to this song every
time I went into this post office in Hawaii and it was that the remake by
Israel somewhere over the rainbow and it's so interesting I listen to it every
time I win the post office they were always playing that song and I heard it
so many times over so many years that when we got married he Michael was like
what is your what song you know what they were putting together together the
ceremony and they're saying what is your favorite song and I'm like you know
somewhere over the rainbow because that's all I heard it just popped into
my head so I have a favorite song you can share and talk about why it's your
favorite song like I did with the post office and so the last and final um
conversation started that I want to share with you is storytelling so I'm
going to expand on that in a moment but I want to remind you to stay to the end
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storytelling and these don't have to follow any any particular order I'm just
giving you five topics you can speak into if you're going on
first dates and you're nervous okay so storytelling is great when you
tell a story about something you experience you share a lot about your
lifestyle about your your interest about your passions about the experiences
you've had and how you've handled them and so when I was dating I would talk
about this again I was dating you know it's been six years and I'm a single and
so before that I was dating I was went on a surf trip to El Salvador and so I
would talk about that so with that showed about me and again don't compare
yourself to me you have your own great stories even if
it was a trip to a quaint little town up the coast or maybe you went to Oklahoma
City and you you checked out their museum or whatever what the point I'm
saying making is that it doesn't matter where you went and even if you just went
to another neighborhood you've had an experience and you want to share that
because it creates intimacy and intimacy creates trust and Trust creates
relationships and that's why storytelling build trust in to meet that
intimacy fast so that's why I'm recommending that you do it
go find a story you have fun with it and then ask him and tell you a story and
that's a quick way to get to know somebody about their lifestyle their you
know their adventurous spirit if they have one and see if you're all checking
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