I wanted to weigh in on how it's so healthy and
all kinds of stuff about confronting the person
who has traumatized you, especially narcissists and
how it can help you in negotiation, that's all coming up,
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So, I am intrigued by this whole thing with Marilyn Manson,
also, his real name is Brian Hugh Warner,
he's been accused by a lot of women I guess now, at this point,
of being extremely abusive and Evan Rachel Wood,
I remember when she was with him and
she was this really, really young girl,
it intrigued me because I had seen her in various movies and,
she was this young, beautiful girl and here she was
with this interesting looking figure, older man, and
apparently, she now comes out,
she came out not that long ago, saying that
he had groomed her from a very young age and
had been extremely abusive and it was very traumatic and
it took a very long time to get over it and
by her coming out, there were a lot of other women who
then came out after that, and accused him
of doing a lot of the same sorts of things.
Well, after the “Me Too” movement of 2018,
there's now been this culture of that and,
I get asked a lot of times, I do a lot of different interviews and
I get asked a lot of times, about whether or not
society has contributed to narcissism and of course,
Who knows? But it could be.
The reason why, I want to just kind of rant on this,
“Rebecca rants”, this is like my unofficial little extra thing,
I'm like having like a little segment here,
it's called “Rebecca Rants” and
in some ways, I think that it does and
I think that it's like okay and
people are allowing other people to get away with this and
to a certain extent and the reason why I'm saying this is because,
here is this guy, who's been accused of
some really, really horrible things and what happens?
Kanye West has him appear on his new album “Donda”,
you know, Kanye West could think,
“Oh, I don't want to have this guy on my new album
because if I do nobody's going to buy my album”,
but he doesn't think that.
Why doesn’t he think that?
if Marilyn Manson had been accused of something
that society would have ostracized Kanye West for,
such as like, maybe child pornography, or something like that,
he wouldn't have had him on his album,
but because it's a crime against women or something against women,
nobody has a problem with it and
so, maybe there is something to that.
I don't know. This is just me ranting,
you can say what you want to say about it,
no scientific data behind it,
but I'm just saying that this is just my thought.
But the reason why I think that it ties back to
negotiating with narcissists is because,
here Evan Rachel Wood comes out,
she finally has the strength to shift that dynamic with this guy and
then what happens is that other people come up and
line up with this guy, like a flying monkey does and
that's what happens, you see this in real life too,
you finally have that strength to come out and
feel a little bit stronger and start to stand up to
whoever the narcissist is in your life and
then what happens is, you get surprised
because somebody out of the woodwork
will stand on the side of the narcissist and you go,
“Whoa, where did that come from?” and
it may take you aback, it may destabilize you for a minute and
it may make you go,
“Whoa, maybe I should have done this”
or maybe “I'm scared again” and
it can stabilize you, it can weaken you,
it can make you question,
you have to stay firm, you have to stay strong in your position.
Mindset is everything when it comes to negotiating.
When you're hearing it and you're writing it,
you're using two of your senses and
I want you to also check out my video,
my interview with Bob Proctor, because
in that interview he talks about all of that and
it's really really great, had a huge impact on me,
it's one of those interviews that actually
had a really huge impact on me personally as well.
So, two things I want you to do, mindset is everything and
also check out my video, my interview with Bob Proctor.
So, don't get surprised when a flying monkey
comes out of the woodwork and does that.
So that's number one.
Number two, is I'm actually proud of the fact that
she was like okay, now I'm going to get onstage and
I'm going to sing this song and she sang the song
by the New Radicals, “You get what you give”
for those of you who know the song,
kind of toward the end of the the song,
there's this section where a bunch of different names are listed,
Courtney Love, and then after Courtney Love,
the name Marilyn Manson is listed and
when Evan Rachel Wood went to sing that song,
she actually flipped him off,
it was like a message to him.
So, she decided, you know what?
I'm still going to stand in my power
regardless of what's happening here.
Now, obviously, she's not still negotiating with him and
she's not like at the table and she's not still in it,
so it's a little easier.
She's got some distance and I just,
I also want to point out something else which is,
there's still one more step for her and
the one more step for her is,
it’s like, she shouldn't even care at all anymore,
like, she erases him from the CPU and
like barely even remember his name and
she moves on completely and
she may never even get to that step.
I mean, I know that there's a lot of healing that
probably needs to be done and I'm definitely not a therapist and
I'm sure she's doing whatever she needs to do to heal,
but hey, she stood in her power and
she's doing what she needs to do and she's out and
she's like saying, it's not okay, and,
and the fact that Kanye West is basically saying
I don't really care that he's being accused of doing all these things,
I'm putting the guy on my album and it’s whatever,
it’s not an okay thing either.
I mean, I get that it's alleged at this point,
but even with alleged, where there's smoke, there's fire,
usually or whatever,
but even if it's just accused,
Why go there at this point?
Are there not other singers that are available right now?
That's my thought on that.
When you're starting to shift that dynamic,
when you're starting to stand in your power,
when you're starting to move forward in the negotiation process,
it's going to get harder before it gets easier,
you got to play the long game,
they're going to line up their army of flying monkeys,
they're going to say things that
are going to try to take you off your game,
you have to expect that, don't be thrown off by that,
Just keep going, alright?
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