Hey there, this is Clay with relationshipinnergame.com, and today I want to tell you about five ways
that you can know whether or not your ex is in a rebound relationship or not.
And these are not an exhaustive list of five ways.
There are probably countless other little tiny ways that you can tell, but these are
five kind of big clues that your ex is in a rebound relationship.
Okay?
So the first way is if your ex has not had a chance to deal with their emotions from
the breakup, right?
So obviously you know that going through a breakup can be a very emotional thing, right?
You probably cry, you feel bad.
There are days when you just don't want to really do anything.
You just feel like, you can't even listen to the radio anymore and they're just, it
just makes life really difficult.
Right?
And sure I'm positive your ex, probably cried as well too, and did all of that thing, but
if they have not really fully dealt with the emotions, you know, though, I cried once and
then boom, the next day they're in a new relationship, and everything is just like, happy, this is
the best thing in the world that's happened to me kind of stuff.
Then they probably have not really fully dealt with their relationship or their, their emotions
from the breakup and the relationship.
Okay.
And the reason that this is a way to you can tell if your is a rebound relationship or
not is because, when you are jumping into a new relationship right after an old one
has ended and you have not dealt with those emotions, you have to eventually deal with
those emotions.
Unfortunately in our society, a lot of people try to just paper over the emotions and the
suffering they're going through from a breakup, by jumping into a new relationship with somebody
else.
And they hope that just kind of, you know, the butterflies and the romantic weekends
and the, all that stuff will just somehow a soften the blow of the pain of the breakup.
But unfortunately that's not really true.
You still have to deal with those emotions and they will come out sooner or later and
kind of weird sideways way is or bickering with the new rebound or whatever it might
be.
Right?
And so that is one way that you can tell that your ex is still in a rebound relationship
and that they are still not quite over the breakup with you.
Okay. and so again, this is not like a definitive kind of thing, but, you know, it is, it is
a very common sign that your ex is in a rebound relationship.
Okay. the second way that you can know that your ex is in a rebound relationship is if
not a lot of time has passed between when they broke up with you and when they started
seeing this other person or got into a relationship with this other person.
And again, time is not the exact metric that I really liked to use because, you know, then
people start doing breakup math.
They're like, oh, well our relationship was five years long, therefore it's gonna take
five months for me to be ready for a new relationship.
But my ex got together with another person after three months and it wasn't five months
and therefore they're like, it's not necessarily about time, right?
It's not necessarily about anything like that again and how you're dealing with the emotional
aspect of the breakup.
And, just for the record, when a breakup happens and somebody gets into a new relationship
almost immediately, it is very unlikely that they're going to have dealt with their emotions
in a positive way, in a healthy way.
Since then.
It's not to say that it's impossible, but it is unlikely.
Okay. so just keep that in mind that if a short amount of time has passed, there is
a very strong likelihood that your ex isn't a rebound relationship, although it's not
100 percent certain or anything like that.
Now the third way that you can tell if you're ex is in a rebound relationship is if there
is displacement happening between you and them.
Okay.
So what is displacement?
What is this thing called?
Psychological displacement.
Okay.
So when you and your ex got together, maybe it took you a certain amount of time to get
your relationship to a certain level, right?
Maybe it took you a couple of months before you said I love you, or, or a few more months
after that, before the two of you, you know, moved in together or got serious or, or whatever
it might be.
You know, there are these certain milestones that relationships have as they get more and
more serious.
In terms of, you know, getting, getting, you know, committed to one another, seeing you
love each other, moving in together, getting engaged, whatever it might be, all the way
up the ladder.
Right?
And it probably took you a certain amount of time to get from one firm from the beginning
to one of these milestones.
And if you've noticed that you and your ex's new partner are hitting those milestones really
fast, like, you know, hey, we've been together for two weeks and we're already moving in
together or something like that, right? that can be a big sign that your ex is in a rebound
relationship because that is kind of psychological displacement.
Okay.
So psychological displacement is when you're taking the old relationship, the relationship
that they had with you and you're trying to elevate this new relationship to look and
seem like the old one, right?
So you might try to elevate it to the same level of commitment that you had an old relationship,
right?
So that might be why they move in together really quick, why they get committed or serious
really quick or something like that.
And so they're basically displacing a lot of the characteristics and traits of the relationship
they had with you onto this new relationship.
And that can be a sign that your ex in a rebound relationship, again, because they are not
really letting these things develop organically.
They're kind of just making them develop as a way to recreate the old relationship with
somebody new.
And that's really very healthy way to have a relationship.
I should not have to explain why that is not unhealthy.
But yeah, it's not okay.
The fourth way that you can tell if your ex isn't a rebound relationship is if they still
have any sort of strong feelings toward you.
Okay.
So they might, you know, they might still say that they love you.
They might still say they miss you or something like that.
Obviously those are strong feelings that show that they still have an emotional connection
to you.
Even if there was somebody else, you know, if they're dating somebody else and they say
that they love you or they miss you, then yeah, there are still unresolved emotions
present.
You know, go back and see the first way of knowing if your experts in a rebound relationship
or not.
but even if your access something like, Oh, I hate that guy, I hate you, or, or, you know,
I'm, I'm so frustrated with you, like my new partner is so much better than you.
All that stuff, right?
So they might be throwing all of these emotions, even if they're negative, right?
Even if your ex still has negative emotions towards you, that can still show, they're
still emotionally entangled in you, even if you're not like in a romantic relationship
anymore, you're still there, you're still in a, in an emotional relationship with one
another where they're still kind of emotionally tangled up around you.
And that means that there are still kind of emotional, receptors, I guess, for lack of
a better word, that are still connected to you, that they don't have the ability to connect
with their new partner.
And so, again, that can often blow up in their face when they are forced to deal with the
emotional fallout from the breakup and deal with that inner rebound sort of situation.
So again, that is the fourth sign that your ex is in a rebound relationship.
It's when they still have a lot of strong feelings towards you and the fifth sign and
final sign that we're going to be talking about today as to whether or not your ex is
in a rebound relationship is if their new relationship there, potential rebound relationship
is really just a reaction to your old relationship.
Right?
So, as an example, like if your ex broke up with you because maybe they didn't think your
career was advancing well enough or something like that.
And instantly they end up in a relationship with somebody who has a really rock solid
career who's like going somewhere, who's got a lot of that kind of stuff figured out.
Then that's kind of a reaction to the relationship that they had with you.
Right?
It's a, it's a reaction to that or if they didn't think that you are going to commit
to them and suddenly they're with this person who wants to like commit instantaneously.
You know, there's obviously just placement there, but that's also a reaction, right?
They, they left you because they didn't think you were going to commit.
And so they are basically reacting against that.
Reacting to that by going with somebody who is like super hyper ready to commit, right?
And so it's, it's a very strong reaction against what they had with you.
And so if your ex is reacting in their new relationship, the new relationship that they're
having with this other person is, is basically a reaction or the opposite or, or somehow
like described as either, you know, better, different, the opposite, something like that
to what they had with you then that is probably a rebound relationship because again, the
relationship is based on how it is different, how it compares to the relationship that they
had with you.
And it's not based off of just a general, you know, affection and attraction towards
one another that sort of has evolved organically.
It's just a reaction against something else.
Okay.
So those are the five ways that you can tell that your ex is in a rebound relationship.
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rebound or how you can get back together with your ex or you can have a better connection
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