- Most people do this.
They work too hard, five days of the week,
they put in too many hours, they come home,
and then when they take the weekend off,
which they've deserved,
they don't ever really enjoy it because of the guilt.
People who have made it, on the way to making it,
they will take action every single day
in the direction of their goals.
Now, I already hear you say, "Every day?
"What, I've got to work seven days a week?"
No, you really haven't.
It's not working seven days a week,
it's taking one action that may be very small
every single day to get to the top.
Let me give an example.
One of my clients who's an Olympic athlete
was telling me that somewhere he read that Michael Jordan,
I think it's Michael Jordan,
even trained on Christmas day.
And, he didn't train on Christmas day.
And he said, "When I read that,
"that someone of that caliber trains on Christmas day,
"I trained on Christmas day.
"I trained on New Year's Day,
"and the next year I actually trained twice on Christmas day.
"Not for very long, but I trained twice.
"'Cause my feeling was, I want to join that club.
"I want to be in the same category as Michael Jordan.
"If he trains on Christmas day,
"I'm training on Christmas day, too."
And he did, and it kind of changed his ability
to see himself in a different category.
Because when you do the things
that very successful people do,
you begin to go into the same category as them.
So, successful people take one action.
It may be that they make one phone call a day.
So rather than saying
"I'm going to work for five days and have two days off,"
they say, "I'm going to do something every single day,
maybe just for five minutes.
I'll make one phone call, I'll send one email,
I'll do a tiny bit of work on my blog post."
Because when you take action every day,
you feel like a winner.
When you become a winner, you don't have to do that anymore.
The thing I hated was to phone a magazine
and to ask them to write about me.
What I didn't tell you is,
I phoned a magazine every single day.
I didn't have a day off.
Every day I woke up and thought,
"Today, I'm going to call someone
and ask them to write about me."
Might be a magazine, might be a newspaper,
might be a news station.
And, I never enjoyed that, but I did it every day.
You see the problem with not doing it every day
is that you think, "I'll do that tomorrow,
I'll make that phone call tomorrow.
I'll work on my blog tomorrow.
I'll put some more attention on my website tomorrow.
I'll do that exercise thing,
that five minutes of whatever I'm doing,
yoga poses, tomorrow."
But you see, when you take action every day,
you can't put it off until tomorrow
because you've committed to doing something every day.
So recently I saw a client who said,
"I want you to hypnotize me to go and do 90 minutes of yoga
"for 60 days without a break."
And I said, "Well, that's a bit hardcore.
"You know, 60 days, you've got to get on a train,
"go across London, do 90 minutes,
"and then go back home or go to work.
"Maybe what you should do is say,
"'I will do some yoga every day for 60 days.'
"But maybe some of the 60 days,
"you're just doing 10 minutes of yoga poses
"in your own house,
"because, I think it's too much of a commitment."
And so he changed to that.
But I want you to get into that mindset of,
"I want to be successful."
Now, mostly we're talking about success in your business.
You may decide that you're a coach,
and every day you're going to do one thing
that will get you another client.
You may decide that you want to be healthy.
And rather than going to the gym seven days a week,
seven days a week you will do something,
even if it's just skipping for five minutes,
or a little stretching.
Maybe every single day,
you're going to do something towards your health.
Maybe you're going to make a NutriBullet, or juice,
or drink more water.
But I want you to understand how very important it is
that a habit of success
is that you must take action every single day
in the direction of your goals.
And it's actually better to do a small thing every day,
because then you start to really feel
that you're succeeding.
The actions you take on a daily basis
determine the kind of person you become,
the kind of life you lead,
the kind of success you have.
So, I want you to think with me
about what you could do every day.
Because most people do this.
They work too hard, five days of the week.
They put in too many hours.
They come home, and then when they take the weekend off,
which they've deserved, they don't ever really enjoy it
because of the guilt, because of the mind saying,
"I should be doing this, and I could be doing that,
and I ought to be doing that."
And even when they go to the cinema,
they're thinking, "You know,
"I've got all these emails that need to be answered,
"all these phone calls I need to make.
"I need to work on my website, my blog.
"I haven't spent enough time with my children."
And they can't enjoy their downtime.
We live in a world where we are more stressed
than ever before.
It's very much a 24-hour world.
Even on planes now, you can answer the phone.
And you see, you need to be able
to really enjoy your downtime.
But you can only enjoy it when you've earned it.
And another powerful reason for taking one action every day
in the direction of your goals
is that when you do that,
you do start to feel that you are allowed to have downtime.
You can enjoy that downtime.
It moves you much more
towards accomplishment and achievement.
So when you start to say, "I'm recharging,"
you begin to understand that this is essential.
It is very, very necessary.
So if you're the kind of person that goes, "Okay, Marisa,
"I've just listened to this today,
"and I don't really want to spend seven days on my business."
That's okay.
You can take action every day towards your emotional health,
your mental health, your wellbeing,
by deciding that every day
you will do five minutes of meditation,
just eating mindfully.
The amount of people I see
that eat so quickly, and then they're always hungry,
or they think, "Well, I didn't even enjoy that candy bar
"'cause I ate it too fast."
The best food I've ever eaten in my life,
is when I thought,
"You know, I'm not really eating potatoes,
"I'm going to eat one of my husband's potatoes."
I was having one, ate it,
it was the best potato I ever ate in my life.
And sometimes when I'm not eating stuff,
I just have a little taste of someone else's,
and because I'm not eating it, I eat it slowly,
and I really savor it.
And I'm doing mindful eating, and it's an amazing thing.
So remember self-care,
one of the actions you are taking every day
in the direction of your goals is self-care.
Looking after you, meditating, juicing, breathing,
drinking water, preparing better food.
So this is not about making you on a treadmill
seven days a week, far from it.
You are like a battery,
you must recharge yourself and you must do it properly.
So let's think of what you could do every day.
I told you that when I wanted to make it in my business,
I needed to be seen.
And so I made one phone call every single day
that took me towards my goals.
I didn't have a day off.
When I wanted to be fit,
I decided that I would do some form of exercise every day,
because I noticed with my clients
who want to embrace fitness,
if they have too many days off, they don't go back.
So over Christmas, they say, "Well, the gym's closed."
They won't go for Christmas or the next day or New Year.
And suddenly they've had five days off,
and those five days become 10, and the 10 days become 40.
But when you never take a day off,
it's actually much better.
So if you're in the business
of wanting to become slimmer, fitter, healthier,
don't go to the gym every day.
But do one thing for five minutes every day,
because it stops you slacking or saying,
"Well, I started that and it wore off."
The amount of patients who say to me,
"It wore off."
"What wore off?"
"Well, I wore off going to the gym.
"Eating healthy food, wore off.
You know, that commitment to meditating,
"it just wore off 'cause I forgot to do it for a week."
Or, "Yeah, I was being mindful and then it wore off."
It doesn't wear off.
What happens is you stop doing it.
You allow it to wear off.
But you see, when you take one action every day,
it can't wear off.
So, let's imagine you're going to meditate
or you're going to be mindful,
and you simply do that every day, some days for 20 minutes,
some days for five.
Let's imagine that you have a business as a coach
where your Monday to Friday job
is about working with clients.
And then when you're not working with clients,
you're working on attracting clients.
But in your weekends,
you could still take five minutes to make a call,
make an email, look through some material,
find a way of attracting more clients.
Let's imagine you have a blog,
and you just decide at your weekend
to work on that for five or 10 minutes, that's all.
Try to do it first, because you know,
when you do what you hate first, you feel like a winner.
So you're beginning to see how this all segues together.
You have learned that your mind does
what it thinks you want it to do.
And so you're telling it what it is that you want.
You are being completely responsible
for the pictures and words in your head.
You are making good things familiar,
and negative things unfamiliar.
And of course you are making
taking action every day in the direction of your goals
familiar, and you're making avoiding things unfamiliar.
So again, let's imagine you have your own business.
It doesn't mean you have to make a phone call everyday.
Maybe on your weekends, you're going to spend 10 minutes
looking at someone who is more successful than you,
looking at their blog,
looking at their YouTube presence, doing something.
I can't emphasize enough.
It doesn't really matter how big that something is.
It doesn't matter if you spend five or 10 minutes on it
and then stop.
It's more the action of winners,
take action every day in the direction of their goals
until they get to the top.
And then of course, when they get to the top,
they pay someone else to make phone calls, answer emails.
There are no shortcuts, particularly with social media.
A lot of people think, "Well, I've got a presence,
and if I go on there four times a week, that's okay."
When you're on your way to the top,
you actually need to do that seven days a week.
It's actually the attention to little things
that bring about success with big things.
So, so many of my clients don't really understand that,
and work too hard Monday to Friday,
and don't do anything at the weekend,
and then look at other people who overtake them
and become more successful
because they put some attention into the little things.
It makes you feel like a winner.
So I want you again to think about what you can do.
Maybe your thing is to be more successful as a parent,
or to be more successful
in your relationship with your partner.
And therefore, you can do what I call,
this thing called "deep listening,"
which means you have five minutes
of really paying attention to someone else.
That's the goal.
My goal is to be a much better parent,
much more aware of what's going on with my kids.
Or maybe my goal is to really make my relationship
much more beautiful and committed.
And the way to do that is something called "deep listening,"
where you really listen to someone else
and feedback what they're saying.
Again, really just for five minutes.
So rather than think, "Well, I'll have a day off from that,
"and, it's my Sunday, and I've had all week of work,
"and I don't want to do anything this weekend except veg out."
I really recommend you still take action
in the direction of your goals,
because it will make you feel so much better about yourself.
And of course, when you feel better about yourself,
you start to feel that you deserve success.
When you feel that you deserve success,
because your actions are taking you towards it,
you start to conduct yourself
with an air of someone who is more successful.
Your thoughts tend to radiate out from you
and right back to you, people who pick up your thinking.
So, often when I see someone who's very, very famous,
all the people around them are slightly in awe of them
because they have an air of success.
It isn't just that they wear beautiful clothes,
and look as if they've been steamed,
it's that they have this thing that permeates from them.
They have this air of, "I'm successful."
They also have an air often of, "I'm a good person
"and I'm a nice person," in the same way
that very spiritual people kind of emanate this calmness
that makes us all feel very calm around them.
Successful people kind of emanate this air.
But it's all the little actions they take
that allow them to do that.
So I hope you're getting this.
So, let me repeat one more time, where we are up to today.
You are now telling your mind exactly what you want,
using very detailed, very specific,
up to date, relevant words.
You are absolutely making sure
that the pictures and words in your head are positive.
You are making positive behaviors more and more familiar,
and you're making negative behaviors
more and more unfamiliar.
You are fully committed to doing what you don't like to do,
and you are fully committed to doing that first.
And now here's a new habit.
You take action every day in the direction of your goals.
Every day you do one thing in the direction of your goals.
If your goal is fitness,
that means you do a little something to do with working out,
even if it's skipping
or going on a rebounder for a few minutes,
you do that every day.
Maybe you juice every day.
Maybe you chop up vegetables
and prefer to prepare healthier food on a Sunday,
so you can take that to work.
Maybe you're more organized with buying the right food.
So if your area is losing weight,
then you take action every day.
If it's your business,
you send an email, you make a phone call,
you look at someone else's blog,
you look at someone else's material,
you think of what you can do to attract clients.
You look at your business and just work out what you can do
by looking at other people who are doing what you want to do
and copying what they do.
And if it's in your relationship,
then every single day you take action.
That action may be simply complimenting your partner,
making them aware that you know where they're at
by saying, "I love the fact that you did this,
or I was fully aware that you did that."
It's not difficult and it's not the action.
It's the consistent every single day doing something
that makes you a winner, and recognizing in the beginning,
once you take a day off, then you take two days off,
then you take three days off, and then you procrastinate.
And the minute you commit to taking action every day,
you cannot procrastinate.
So when I had to, I mean I didn't have to,
I chose to ring a magazine or a radio network
or a TV station every day, I never wanted to do that.
But because I committed to doing it every day,
I couldn't take a day off.
There was no day off.
Part of the commitment was I make one call every day.
It took minutes.
And when I did it, I felt good about myself all day
because I joined that club.
People who make it, on the way up, take action every day.
And that's what I did.
And I really invite you to do that, too.
Because I see, over and over again,
how it changes my client's lives,
how it makes them more successful.
And I know it's going to change your life.