- [Narrator] Have you been on the lookout
for your one and only?
Has your the one been a subject
of your curiosity for long?
You've seen it on TV,
and read all about the notion of love
in the classic romance novels.
Sweet love.
Falling in love is not always easy for some.
Enter Rachel and Ross.
It's important to state that there is
no right or wrong way of knowing whether you are in love,
or when you may have found the love of your life.
Remember Monica and Chandler?
So how do we truly know
when we found that special person
who we wanna be with for the rest of our lives?
With that in mind,
here are 10 signs that may mean
that you have found the love of your life.
Number one, your brain experiences changes.
Yep, you heard that right.
When you are in love
and feel like you found the love of your life,
you'll experience biochemical reactions.
A study carried out at New York Stony University
suggests that altered biochemical reactions take place
in your brain when you experience real love
and genuine attachment.
Ready for some biology?
When you think about the one,
you will experience a surge of dopamine,
the happy chemical of your brain.
So if you're feeling a rush of happy hormones
when you're thinking about
or around your partner,
then this could be a good indicator
that you may have potentially found the one.
Number two, your pronouns may change.
Ever been asked to attend an event
or RSVP as a couple?
How you respond makes a difference.
Psychologists at the University of Texas
found in their study that those who feel deeply connected
to their significant other
are more likely to use plural nouns
such as us and we rather than singular me or I
when in conversations or when responding to others.
If you notice an increased use
of these pronouns when referring to your potential the one,
this could indicate a deeper connection with your partner.
Number three,
they're willing to fight for your relationship.
In the words of good old Shakespeare,
the course of true love never did run smooth.
Research psychologist Debor Bon
observes that what sets the one apart from the rest
is a willingness to fight for the success
of the relationship.
Relationships are rarely without
their share of difficulties.
However, if you can work through relationship issues
and repair the cracks,
this shows both maturity and willingness
to develop the relationship.
Your willingness to resolve differences among you
can be a sign that you might just have found the one
worth fighting for.
Number four.
They'll show a willingness to compress
in the relationship.
Ever heard the saying struggle is the key to success?
Well, in this case it's more liker sacrifice
is the key to success.
Just kidding.
A study carried out by psychologists
at the Kobe University in Japan found that
willingness to make certain sacrifices in the relationship
was crucial for success.
Relationships where this kind of behavior was absent
or infrequent by either party
were less likely to go the difference.
If you find that you
or your partner are happy to sacrifice
and compromise to ensure a successful relationship
without sacrificing your own morals
or values, then this could mean
that they are the one for you.
Number five, they support you.
According to psychological research,
supporting each other's life dreams,
including your long term goals
and ambitions is a key component
of a healthy and lasting relationship.
Your the one should look up to you,
admire you and respect you.
If your significant other demonstrates
these factors, then they may well be
the air quote love of your life.
Number six, they share a growth mindset.
A growth relationship mindset
includes beliefs and expectations
that relationships develop, change
and grow over time.
Research consistently finds that people
who hold a growth mindset
experience relationship benefits,
including effective conflict management,
constructive ways of dealing with
relationship stressors,
and can even buffer against relationship demise.
Couples who grow together stay together.
Number seven, you are in sync with each other.
How connected do you feel
to your significant other?
This includes being fully present
with that person in both body and mind.
According to psychologists,
just sitting next to your the one for 15 minutes
is enough for you to both synch up.
Whoa, connections are usually felt
when you feel seen, heard, valued,
respected and cherished by your partner.
So if you feel that these factors
are being met, this may mean that you have found
the one for you.
Number eight, your goals and values are aligned.
Do you share similar tastes, values
and goals with your partner?
It's important to state that we don't have to
necessarily be the same
as our significant other in every sense.
If some goals and values are not completely aligned,
this does not mean that your partner
is not the one for you.
If you feel that you're working towards the same thing,
and have open discussions
about what is important to you both,
then this can be an indicator
that they are potentially the one for you.
Number nine, you have strong physical chemistry.
There is no denying that having a tangible
physical connection with your partner
can suggest that they are the love of your life.
Research states that sexual behaviors
are a big contributor to a relationship longevity,
in fact it holds a couple together,
especially in long term relationship.
So if you feel the urge to engage
in sexual intimacy and physical contact
with your partner regularly
they could be the one.
And number 10, they understand your love language.
It's also important for you
to know each other's love language.
Doing so leads to increased feelings
of love and greater relationship satisfaction.
This gives you the ability to communicate to your partner
now to meet your emotional needs,
as well as best meet theirs.
If you feel that your partner
has a good understanding of your love language,
and can meet your emotional
and communication needs,
then this could indicate a good match.
So do you recognize any of these signs?
If so, do you think this video helped you identify them?
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