Like the old saying goes, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.
The philosophical INFJ knows this to be true on many levels.
With a strong belief that you can make life what you want of it, INFJs have no problem
with brainstorming their next moves, and then taking action.
What happens when they take on too much?
How can the INFJ balance each aspect of life to save themselves from potential burnout?
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Number 1: Accept the need for structure We get it INFJs, you want to live a spontaneous,
magic-filled life and sometimes balancing the different aspects of living isn’t so
glamorous.
However, deep down, INFJs need organization and structure in order to really live out
the life of their dreams.
In fact, with the INFJ’s Judging side, they do crave organization, structure, and discipline
naturally.
Yet, instead of following a rigid schedule that makes the INFJ feel boxed in or unsatisfied
with the mundanity of day-to-day life, it’s better to set goals that they can achieve
when they feel like working toward them.
Goal and habits are the secret to an INFJ’s satisfaction in life, and by setting small
attainable steps, soon enough, they’ll find that it’s not the inflexible life they anticipated.
If they fail to include something in their life that they want to make time for, don’t
schedule it; especially if it’s a creative pursuit.
INFJs do need creativity, but it is better when it is organic, rather than forced.
Number 2: Notice the extremeness of their ‘all or nothing’ habits
There’s no doubt INFJs are known for their all or nothing approach to life, and this
INFJ redditor explained it perfectly.
“A few years ago I decided that I needed to lose some weight.
Most people would eat better and start an exercise routine.
Me?
I hired a personal trainer and worked out two hours a day, six days a week.
I was running, swimming and cycling every day, even though I hate swimming and running.
I even went so far as to buy a $1,500 road bike.
I threw myself into it with everything that I had.
I didn’t even feel like the same person.
I took something that should have been healthy and made it unhealthy because of going to
such an extreme.”
INFJs either all in or all out in the way they eat all the food or nothing at all.
They either awake early and have an incredibly productive day or stay in bed all day..
You get the jist.
In fact, this all or none tactic doesn’t only apply to their habits but also to their
judgements towards other people by either enjoying their company or avoiding them at
all costs.
Once an INFJ begins to realize all the ways in which their all or nothing approach can
become kind of self sabotaging it’s much easier to find balance.
Number 3: Practice staying in the present moment
When INFJs are at work, they’re thinking of what they need to do once they get home.
When they’re commuting home, they’re thinking in detail of what they need to do once they
get home.
Once they’re finished doing those things at home, they start all over again by thinking
about tomorrow.
One of the best things the naturally future-focused INFJ can do is focus on the different aspects
of balance they do have in their lives.
For example, that commute home can instead be perceived as a little alone time to break
up work life and home life.
Instead of already mentally placing themselves ahead of the day, week or month, they can
focus directly on what they’re doing in that time and place.
Sure, INFJs need to plan, but they can schedule in a time just for planning rather than spreading
it out throughout the day, which brings us to..
Number 4: Create daily routine Like we said, over scheduling is a problem
that INFJs know all too well.
However, when INFJs are reaching burnout, they tend to swing in the other direction,
becoming complacent and lost inside their head while attempting to live without any
form of schedule in their lives.
Sometimes INFJs find it difficult to find the right balance for the simple reason of
not deciding on a set routine and end up getting stuck in a rut of being over scheduled some
days and completely under scheduled on others.
By creating simple habits INFJs can find that balanced foundation to start and finish each
day which has a profound effect on other areas of life.
They can start by test driving different combinations of daily routines to get things done and not
feel consumed in one area of life..
Even if it’s starting simple with a glass of water each morning.
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Number 5: Take inventory INFJs are known for overloading their schedules
and then pretending they’re okay with it.
Instead, by taking inventory of obligations and responsibilities in life INFJs can decide
what is best to keep structured and what is not.
It may be difficult because of the characteristic INFJ tendency of an “all-or-nothing” approach,
but by taking the first step to realize they may have a bit too much or too little structure
in their life will help them find that compromise they need.
In fact, it’s not only INFJs who become much happier when they have their routine
with work, social events and necessary appointments all in check, because it leaves guilt-free
time slots open for personal and creative pursuits.
Whether they take the approach of categorizing by urgency of tasks, day by day or week by
week, checking in to see where they are in terms of things they want to do as well as
things they need to do is a no brainer.
Number 6: Make balance a conscious effort When INFJs set their mind to something, there's
no stopping them.
Seen as one of the beneficial sides to their all-or-nothing approach, once there's a conscious
effort behind a motive, they excel beyond their initial expectations.
Balance is one of those things that, if taken seriously, can truly benefit a perfectionistic
lifestyle approach such as that of an INFJ.
Yet, balance is not a feat to be accomplished.
It’s not an end-goal or final destination.
You do not just acquire it one day and have it forever.
It’s a journey, something that you have to work on every day.
It’s something that you have to practice to become better at.
By making it a priority, an INFJ’s people-pleasing ways and natural tendencies to take on more
than they should becomes less important in comparison to their own mental and emotional
equilibrium.
Number 7: Trial and error So what is the right balance when it comes
to structure and the INFJ?
Well, unfortunately it takes some experimenting to really find their rhythm.
Though the amount of structure one can handle may vary from INFJ to INFJ, it’s believed
that all INFJs tend to share that common inner struggle.
They desire some form of repetition in their lives, but they also wish for those moments
when they aren’t sure what is going to happen or what they’re about to create.
This is where that spontaneity comes in.
Avoiding a schedule altogether, or creating a packed one that leaves no personal time,
creates an unbalanced, irritated and frustrated INFJ headed straight for destination burnout.
Finding the perfect balance may take some time, but it can be achieved no matter where
they are in their life.
Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today’s video..
So, have you achieved a comfortable balance in life as an INFJ?
If so, let us know in the comments below how you did it!
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