INFJ stands for introversion, intuition, feeling and judging.
They are known for their great sense of morality and truth and their ability to inspire and motivate others to do great things.
However, there are some things that you don't know about INFJ type personality that is truly dark.
Let us explore it here.
1st, Sensitive.
Once an INFJ has reached a conclusion, they are typically very confident in their decision and may have little tolerance for those who continue to disagree.
When their conclusions are challenged, they may react violently and are especially susceptible to criticism.
2nd, Being too severe
We enjoy giving advice and are frequently able to see a situation from multiple perspectives.
If you only want to hear what you want to hear, avoid approaching your INFJ friend.
We provide honest opinions while attempting to soften the blow.
Believe me when I say that our honesty is motivated by good intentions.
However, we can occasionally come across as too blunt, judgmental, or harsh.
We do not intend to be cruel, and we apologize for the times that we are.
Know that if your INFJ friend tells you something you don't want to hear, it is because they care about you and want the best for you.
Yes, INFJs can be too brutally straightforward, but we are rarely malicious.
3rd, Overlooking details.
INFJs, regardless of how practically-minded they aspire to be, have a tendency to become so engrossed in the big picture that they overlook crucial details that can determine success or failure.
While INFJs may understand this in theory, they are not always as attentive as they should be to the details.
4th, Excessive anticipation
Even though we like to pretend we do not have high expectations, they exist.
Not only do we hold ourselves to an extremely high standard, but we also have a tendency to have high expectations for others.
The closer you are to us, such as a significant other, best friend, or child,
the higher our expectations become.
We have particularly high expectations regarding love.
When the initial excitement and romance of a new relationship inevitably begin to wane, we may feel quite dejected.
Then we begin to question our decision to enter the relationship in the first place.
If we're being honest with ourselves, we desire the ideal romantic relationship.
Actually, what we seek is perfection in every aspect.
Obviously, we are not perfect, and neither is anyone else.
If an INFJ places expectations on you, it is because they care about you and want you to care about them as well.
5th, Exceptionally private.
Despite their loving and sensitive natures, INFJs have a tendency to isolate themselves from the world and deny others the opportunity to get to know them and recognize their wonderful qualities.
Even in relationships with family and close friends, INFJs can be mysterious.
When they are feeling frustrated or introspective, they may withdraw from social interaction without explanation, which can be perplexing to others.
6th, Conflict avoidant.
INFJs dislike conflict intensely and will typically intervene to prevent it, but their perspective can become distorted in this regard.
INFJs frequently fail to recognize that conflict can actually serve a useful purpose, allowing a good process of give-and-take to be established and allowing all parties to resolve their problem permanently.
Instead of assuming that all squabbling is harmful, INFJs would do well to acknowledge the importance of open and honest communication.
7th, Stubbornness
Observe the letter J at the end of INFJ.
It is responsible for our preoccupation with planning and focus on the future.
INFJs are capable of spontaneity, but there are times when we simply cannot comprehend a new concept.
Occasionally, a sudden change in plans is enough to throw us for a loop.
If our minds are set on something, it may take multiple attempts to change it.
It may appear that we are inflexible, but in reality, we simply need time to adjust to the new plan or idea.
As long as something does not contradict our deeply held morals, we will likely accept it... eventually.
8th, Moodiness
We know when to be on our best behavior, but the truth is that we are frequently influenced by our immediate emotions.
Although INFJs may appear calm on the surface, we are actually a bundle of intense emotions.
Usually, it's obvious when something bothers us, but that doesn't mean we'll want to discuss it.
INFJs are capable of pushing others away and throwing pity parties.
Of course, we would like to have someone to confide in, but we feel that the majority of people wouldn't understand us even if we did.
Occasionally, INFJs can be as confused about their moods as anyone else.
INFJs, like other introverted personality types, require time alone to sort through their emotions and comprehend why they are feeling a certain way.
If an INFJ opens up to you, they may apologize for discussing their emotions.
This is due to the fact that we tend to keep things to ourselves to spare you the burden.
Nevertheless, the best thing you can do for an INFJ is to allow them to talk if they need to.
INFJs typically feel better after expressing their emotions and concerns.
Do not judge, criticize, or offer solutions (unless the INFJ specifically asks for assistance; sometimes we do need a simple fix).
Try to listen and comprehend our emotions.
And maybe give us a hug.
Sometimes all it takes to overcome our moodiness is a little love and encouragement.
9th, repressing negative emotions and subsequently exploding
We are adaptable to the needs of others and enjoy being a source of solace.
However, we will lash out if we feel we have been wronged.
Usually after a number of minor annoyances have accumulated and our patience has run out.
We tend to bottle up our negative emotions because we would rather maintain peace than tell someone they have offended us.
However, like any other human, we have a limit to our tolerance, so eventually the frustrating powder keg explodes, and the results are typically unpleasant.
INFJs can avoid this type of emotional explosion by addressing minor offences as they occur, as opposed to allowing hurt to simmer and grow.
10th, abruptly eliminating people from our lives
Are you familiar with the infamous INFJ door slam?
It is when an INFJ eliminates you from your life due to extreme pain.
They are acting this way not because they despise you, but because they have decided they can no longer endure the emotional pain you cause.
Keep in mind that INFJs are typically quite sensitive and emotional.
If an INFJ slams the door in your face, they may abruptly cease all communication.
If this is not possible because they see you on a daily basis at home, work, or school, they may emotionally shut down and refuse to let you in.
They may still communicate with you when necessary, but they will appear cold and distant.
INFJs do not exclude others without careful consideration.
As "judges," we are not exactly impulsive individuals.
Despite our "everything is fine" demeanour, other individuals may forget how sensitive we are.
However, even the kindest individuals have boundaries, and INFJs are no exception.
Frequently, INFJs are justified in slamming doors.
And individuals who emotionally abused, deceived, or exploited the INFJ should be excluded.
However, INFJs are sometimes too quick to slam doors.
Sometimes they allow minor hurts to accumulate , and then explode by isolating others.
In this situation, the other person may not even realize what they did wrong because the INFJ did not express their pain.
Dear INFJ, it is difficult to be a deeply feeling person in a world that can be harsh.
Although we have a dark side, we are also capable of immense love, kindness, and empathy.
And on most days, this aspect of ourselves prevails.