Besides the obvious reasons as to why it’s so difficult to be the rarest personality type
with extremely high sensitivity, the INFJ HSP experiences a few not-so-obvious struggles that
not many other people can relate to in life. Sure, feeling misunderstood and lonely is one thing, but
what else challenges this highly sensitive type? Welcome or welcome back Psych-o! Before we get
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Alright, let’s get right into it starting with.. Number 1: They feel worldly problems to the bone
Ask any INFJ when was the last time they watched the news, and they will probably recall
a situation in which they had no choice. In other words, most people with the INFJ personality type
steer far away from any type of global news mostly because they are convinced it’s all
misleading bogus.. which doesn’t exactly seem too far fetched. However, when it comes to the
highly sensitive INFJ, mind-bending news reports of suffering and worldly problems can hit them
extremely hard in an emotional way, and it’s not exactly so easy to recover.
Although INFJ HSPs are still prone to taking all reported news with a grain of salt, they
can’t help but to absorb the negative feelings surrounding worldly issues such as war, famine,
inequality, and other tragedies. In fact, when they dive into the topic of worldly problems,
the highly sensitive INFJ can be left to feel even more guilty and hopeless for not doing enough
to change things for the better - something they already struggle with on a daily basis.
Number 2: They see through the facade of life If ignorance is bliss than intelligence must
be torture.. Or at least it seems this way at times in the eyes of a highly sensitive INFJ.
Now, it’s not necessarily book smarts that allows this introverted type to see through the matrix
of the so-called ‘American dream’, but rather their strong intuitive instincts. Most INFJ
HSPs can probably recall a few childhood memories where they didn’t accept the meaning of things at
face value, such as religious stories for example. While everyone around them acts as if they truly
understand how and why certain religious stories came about, INFJ HSPs are left feeling unsettled
with so many burning questions - most of which they figure probably can’t be answered.
This struggle goes for much more than religion however, in fact, most highly sensitive HSPs find
difficulty in conforming to things like the 9-5 job concept and questionable gender roles.
Number 3: They easily get overwhelmed by suffering of any kind
INFJ highly sensitive people have an uncontrollable level of empathy towards
any situation that involves suffering. Similar to the reasons behind their hesitancy to dive into
worldly issues, the highly sensitive INFJ can feel the suffering of others as if it is their own.
Whether it's everyday real life scenarios such as being incredibly moved by the words written on the
sign in the hands of a less fortunate panhandler or actively feeling the feelings of characters
in the movie they’re watching - INFJ HSPs find themselves consumed in the emotional aspect
of all suffering. They’re mind automatically resorts to placing themselves in other people’s
shoes, to fully understand the emotion from their perspective. This can definitely be
a good thing when surrounded by positive energy, however, tragedy and immorality can definitely
make this trait incredibly difficult at times.. Which brings us to the next INFJ HSP difficulty..
Number 4: They don’t necessarily enjoy their supernatural gifts
We have to remember, people did not choose the INF HSP life, the INFJ HSP life chose them. And
although it’s not that the highly sensitive INFJ doesn’t eventually learn to use their unique
empathetic and delicate nature to their benefit.. But when they're stuck in a situation where they
really need to turn off their energy-absorbing tendencies, and can’t.. All of a sudden these
intuitive gifts seem like a true nightmare. For the INFJ HSP, they not only have to carry around
their own deep feelings, but that of others around them. If their spouse comes home stressed, they
will automatically begin feeling stressed also - even if their day was going just fine. It’s not
only exhausting, but it can certainly be annoying to feel out of control of their own emotions.
Number 5: They can feel physically ill from their sensitivity
Not all INFJ HSP’s have the ability to feel the physical feelings of others,
however, some are able to feel suffering to the point of experiencing pain in areas of their
own body where they witness someone else getting hurt. Also known as a physical empath,
some people with this sensitive personality type can expect things like pain in their
temples when beside someone complaining about a migraine, for example. Yet, aside from that,
highly sensitive INFJs can become so consumed by the stress of others that they begin to
feel the physical symptoms of stress as a result. In fact, this tendency to take on physical stress
is one of the main factors that make setting boundaries for this type so crucial. Tying into..
Number 6: They have to make difficult choices to maintain their sanity
Whether it’s moving away from home at an early age,
cutting off contact with intrusive family members, or leaving seemingly enjoyable relationships..
The highly sensitive INFJ is forced to maintain their mental and emotional sanity by making
sure their immediate surroundings are in line with their energy at all times. In fact, most INFJ HSPs
learn this lesson the hard way, usually by getting taken advantage of for their natural care-taking
empathy a few times here and there through adolescence and early-adulthood. Mature INFJ HSP’s
will make some of the hardest and unexplainable decisions for the sake of proper boundary setting.
While it may not always be understandable from the outside looking in, they usually have a method
behind their madness - and it’s almost always to maintain their mental and emotional equilibrium.
Number 7: They don’t have the energy required to have a social life
The question is not does the highly sensitive INFJ have a social life,
it’s are they even able to have a proper social life if they tried? Well, although
high sensitivity comes with a spectrum, where no 2 high sensitive INFJs are the same - every
INFJ HSP requires a substantial amount of R & R to optimally function and feel like themselves.
For most people with this personality type, the thought of spending time with people
after a long week of involuntary socialization seems obscure, as they’ve been waiting patiently
for their peace and quiet in solitude. However, even though this type enjoys their alone time,
it’s not like they necessarily choose to be this way. In fact, being in high-reception
mode day in and day out, constantly absorbing the energy and information of everything around
them quite literally requires energy. If they spend their time with uplifting people however,
they may have a fighting chance at achieving that balance of human connection and solitude.
Number 8: They can resort to serious self isolation
Speaking of finding that perfect balance of human connection and solitude, this sensitive introvert
can resort to complete isolation when in need of a break from their involuntary empathetic
duties. The accumulation of emotional, mental, and physical emotions that most INFJ HSPs experience
can all come to a halt when they distance themselves from all contributors. However,
this defense mechanism can feel so relieving that it can be difficult to step back into the
real world. With most of their symptoms and difficulties being automatically overlooked
and not taken seriously, sometimes this highly sensitive type can feel most like themselves in
the presence of nobody but themselves - and that comfort can become awfully addicting.
Well, that’s it for today PSYCH-Os.. Comment down below if you relate to these struggles
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