- The other day, we were riding an Ubers, and we were
talking to the driver, and he's a very very interesting man.
He was talking about how he's been married for 30 years.
He's got four kids, and also four grandkids.
You know, I'm always fascinated by people when someone
is sharing his story, and as he was talking.
So I was asking him, "So what are your secrets on
how to stay married and not killing each other?
Right, in the process. And he shared--
- 30 years
- Yeah, for 30 years been married, so I asked and
he shared with me three powerful secrets, and today,
I wanna share those with you.
(bright music)
So the very first secret that he shared with me is this
He said, "Just put the toilet seat down."
(clapping)
- Brilliant!
- Brilliant! Don't ask why, don't analyze it,
don't question it, you just fucking do it.
He said, "That buys you 10 years." 10 years of
happy marriage, simply put the toilet seat down.
- Oh my God. That is so profound!
- Is it so profound?
- So profound! (laughs)
- I have to ask, why does it bother ladies so much,
because like after we pee, we put it down? Like
- Cause it's dirty. And not only that, like sometimes
when use washroom at late night, it's very dark. We can't
see, we could literally fall into the toilet.
Like it's no joke! Like you guys just flip it up, and
then just after you pee and just walk away, and then
don't even wipe it, it's like ...
Like we have to clean after you guys, like what the hell?
- This is very real, it's true, it's true.
- Right? I talked to you so many times.
- I do it now.
- Sometimes you do.
- Sometimes, yeah. Sometimes, sometimes.
But so that's the first secret, right?
Put the toilet seat down, period.
- So good, so good.
- It's so good. He said, "That buys you 10 years."
I was like good, okay, good notes. I was taking notes.
(chuckles)
So the second secret is this, he said,
"Whenever you argue, argue naked."
I said, "What does that mean?"
He said, When you're in a fight, when you're fighting with
your wife, he said, argue naked. He said,
It accomplish two objectives. He said, first,
when you argue naked, you are,
you're not wearing anything, you're not gonna walk
out of the argument and say, "I don't wanna fucking
talk to you" and you slam the door and you walk
out of the house, or you walk downstairs.
No, you stay in a damn room to communicate.
- That's true, that's true.
- That is very profound.
- It's like you wanna walk out, oh wait a minute--
- Wait a minute, I can't.
- You're don't wear anything. (chuckles)
- So you stay there. You talk, you talk it out, right?
He said after you talk and you argue, the second thing is,
as it gets heated, and you argue with each other, he said
"Make sure you have a hat", he said.
Make sure you have a hat in your bedroom. He said,
"If you argue, the lady, you grab the hat,
you just throw the hat to the guy to the penis area.
If the hat stays, argument is over.
Make up sex, done, right? That's what he said, literally!
(laughing)
He said, the hat hangs, argument is over, right?
- It's very raw, but it's true.
- It's true. Here's the thing, he said, "If the hat
doesn't hang, doesn't stay there, it's hilarious as fuck."
He said, "There, you laugh, you joke, argument is over"
Right?
- Won't it turn into another fight? Like what baby?
No, I'm not attracted anymore? You can't even do this?
I don't know, right?
- I'm almost, like you know, another fight so.
So he said, "Argue naked." I thought
that was pretty profound.
- I like it.
- Right? And number three, secret number three is this.
He said this. He said if you are arguing, was it?
- He said because when little boys growing up.
- Yes.
- Whenever their mom try and talk to them,
they always touch them.
- Yeah, like when you--
- Physically touch them.
- When you manage a little baby, your mom is holding you.
- Yes, yes.
- As you're growing up, your mom is holding your hand.
So men, even we are like grown up adults,
we still have a lot of those--
- Little boy inside, yeah.
- We're just like little boys, right?
So when lady, when you try to communicate with your spouse,
your husband ... If we're like doing something,
we're playing video games, we're watching a movie,
waiting on the computers. Just talking,
it doesn't get our attention.
- Yes.
- So, but if she touches me, now she has my attention.
Like, so do this, do this, do that.
- Yeah, yeah, yeah.
- And then I'm listening. So, if you're not touching
the man, he's not listening. That's what he said.
I thought that was also so good.
- I think it's true to a degree for sure.
- It is so good, 30 years of marriage, just like that.
Oh, he also gave us one extra tip.
- Oh yeah?
- Yeah, I just remember. He said, also once a month,
you write a letter.
- Oh yes, I remember now.
- He said once a month, you write a letter and just sharing
with, and he said you actually write it,
and you actually mail it. And you talk about
how much you appreciate your significant other.
How much you appreciate your wife and husband.
He said, sometimes when you're so busy,
you don't communicate anymore.
A lot of thoughts of when you took the time to do this,
you just mailed it once a month,
and he said also, after all these years
you collect a lot of these memories.
- Wow.
- And he said it's very very profound.
- Wow.
So those four things, so mail a letter once a month.
That's it. Those are the four things, that's his secrets
on how to stay married for 30 years.
Four kids, four grandkids, and
he is a very happy Uber driver.
- He is.
- He's so like funny, he's energetic.
- So passionate.
- So passionate, and we were chatting and it just
gave me the idea and that's why I wanna make
this video for you, so there you go.
So comment below. By the way, we haven't made
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- Or unbox the (mumbles), I love to do that.
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