Reddit Relationships Cheating.
Is it possible?
My wife is cheating.
Edit.
Thank you everyone, who commented so quickly, this weekend has
unfortunately become pretty shitty.
appreciate all your advice.
I'm 23 and my wife.
She's 23.
We got married in July, 2019.
Some random Facebook account just messaged me a huge long message, saying how my
wife had been speaking to him for over a year, sexting, sending nudes and nearly
meeting up before he called it off, as he felt guilty about it, he said,
she said that she considered leaving me that she wasn't in love with me.
And, that she told him that she was pregnant before she even told me.
(Planned Child.)
I have no idea what to do.
I hate confrontation, so I don't want to bring it up and cause a huge argument
if it's not even true, but at the same time, if it is true, then I want to know.
Also ,I now have a one-year old daughter who I love too much to hurt and have
her brought up with divorced parents.
Does this sound like a prank?
Didn't think someone would go through the trouble to make a new
Facebook page, just to message me.
They see us to protect their identity.
So they're not involved in any arguments and that he just wanted to
tell me, Oh, he also sent me nudes.
No face.
But I am 99% sure they're of her.
And I haven't seen them before.
I have screenshots of the messages.
Any advice would be helpful.
You know what's worse than growing up with divorced parents.
Growing up with parents who resent each other, are actively cheating on
each other and scream at each other.
Every other weekend.
Don't fall into this trap where you hang on to a toxic relationship for
the hell of it, because you somehow got into your head that your children won't
be better off, that's stupid, show her the messages and see how she reacts.
You will know what's going on.
then, if her reaction is very poor, you know what to do.
When I was 2, my mom cheated and my parents got divorced.
I had an amazing childhood.
My parents married young and were not good for each other.
Don't let that sway your reasoning at all.
I promise co-parenting works. Now,
I'm 23 and a step-parent to an amazing kiddo.
I love like he's my own, my significant other's ex cheated on him and he left.
And met me, now.
We all have a solid relationship and it's all about the baby.
No one else.
All I'm saying is don't use that as an excuse.
Plenty of kids grow up with divorced parents, and it's so much better in
the long run, also who wouldn't love Christmas twice?
Or sometimes, it means the opposite that there is constant clear communication and equality in a
relationship, been with my husband 10 years, and we've never had a single fight.
We talk constantly, discuss any issues, or gripes immediately, do our best to
compromise, and consciously work to make sure anything that is bugging
our partner, is something we fix.
For example, he got annoyed that I leave empty soda cans around.
So I work hard to make sure they're in their recycling right away and
do a sweep of my areas once a day for stragglers, I got annoyed that
he take off his socks inside out.
So, I'd have to turn them right side before they went into the laundry.
So, he got into the habit of taking them off differently, stuff like that.
We know as an issue because once something bothers us, we bring it up.
We don't get defensive.
We just make a plan to
fix it. We understand new habits can take a while.
And, sometimes it takes a few reminders, but we always get there.
So yes, no FIGHTING
Doesn't absolutely mean that things are good, but I roll my eyes.
When people say that couples who never fight aren't talking to each
other, have no passion must not like each other because it creates
this false narrative that fighting is a healthy part of marriage.
I know this is something you don't want to hear, but once you do
confront her, you need to do this.
Don't mess around.
Seriously confront her, regardless of fears, staying in the dark is scarier.
Get a paternity test.
I don't care if you think your daughter looks like you, that's no indication
your wife could just have a type.
So don't be an idiot.
This might not have been the only guy she's had relations with.
So, if she's found out to be cheating, Get a paternity test.
If you don't, when your daughter gets older, she might get one of
those ancestry DNA tests and find out herself accidentally you aren't
her father, you know, as a father, how damaging that would be for her.
So don't just do it for you, but her as well.
Police use a tactic of not revealing all the information they
have and giving the person being questioned, the opportunity to
confirm things that they might not have all the evidence to prove.
So, you can say you received a bunch of photos that are definitely her.
She doesn't know exactly which pictures you have, and exactly what they show.
If you show her what you received, she would try to spin
a new lie to try to explain what you have to confront her with.
So, don't drop everything you have at once.
Hold back, the more damning bits of evidence.
Let her spend her lie, then drop a bit more evidence.
Once she is convinced that she is caught, she might admit to stuff
that you do not have the evidence to.
Absolutely prove.
From the extra details you provided her tattoo and engagement ring.
It seems like those pics are 100%.
Her, your wife taking nudes.
That you've never seen before during your relationship is not a good sign.
Sorry to say.
She purposely didn't include her face in those photos because they were
going to a stranger and women will understand that risk, hard pill to
swallow, but the Facebook stranger story seems very credible and he gave
you documented proof, at this point.
What could your wife tell you that would make more sense?
Tell her, you know, she tried to have an affair and told
someone she didn't love you.
Tell her, you have the pictures and texts do not tell her how you know, or
how much, you know, even act as if you know who it is, then walk away from her.
When she comes to tell you, tell her she has a, one-time
only to tell you the truth.
If she lies, you are done.
If you find anything else that she didn't tell you, you're
done, don't say anything else.
Her reaction will let you know, in your gut.
You know, no one will go through this much trouble.
Don't do the pick me dance, the only.
chance you have of saving your marriage is to be strong and assertive.
If you act weak or needy, she will not respect you.
And the chance she will cheat is very high.
You also need to get an attorney, even if you don't divorce, she
needs to know how serious this is.
If it comes to it, it's better to divorce.
Now, then it would be in 5 or 10 years.
Now, she isn't invested in any retirement you have, and you probably will not
need to pay alimony, while it's sucks
You cannot put your head in the sand and ignore it.
Good luck.
You're going to need it.
Bro, You have to act quickly on this one.
If there's evidence, your wife is cheating on you, you have to grab
that fast and make copies of it.
You need to stop being a pussy and take matters into your own hands, because
if she's willing to cheat on you once.
She would do it again.
She could get a disease and give it to you.
She could try to take your kid away and live with the person she is cheating on
you with, or some other heinous thing.
I would get a paternity test in secret.
All you need is some of the kids' hair and some cash for the testing place.
Then you have to get with a lawyer fast and start divorce proceedings, and
also Sue her for custody of the kids.
If it's yours, this will get messy.
Things will suck.
You will have to grow some balls and take action.
Get all your ducks in a row with the lawyer first.
And when you have a case, Then present it to her to throw off guard
and file for divorce, never trust someone who is willing to go behind
your back male or female, EVER
You owe this dude who told you a beer my friend. This concludes
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