How To Become An Alpha Male
I want to start off by saying that I don't like the term alpha male for those
of you who don't know what an alpha male is it stems from the animal kingdom
animals that tend to stay in groups such as wolves gorillas and lions have a
single member of the group who's the one in charge he's the one that calls the
shots he gets a sleep of all the girls he gets to eat the most he's the
strongest toughest and usually the biggest one in the group the reason I
don't like the term alpha male is because what it is in the animal kingdom
is a bit different from what it is for us humans I much prefer to use the term
dominant male because this term basically sums up who the quote/unquote
alpha males of our world are because unlike the animal kingdom the most
powerful and respected human in the room does not have to be the biggest the
strongest or even the oldest there have been short skinny young men and women
who have led large groups of people but what they did have was an extremely
dominant personality so for those of you who want to become the alpha male you
should actually be more interested in the idea of becoming a more dominant
male this brings up the question of well what exactly is a dominant person like
well someone who is dominant will go after what they want for example if they
have a question they'll ask it if they have an opinion
you'll state it if they see a girl they think is cute they'll talk to her if
they see a potential business opportunity they'll open up the
conversation if they have a goal they'll chase after it very hard the important
thing to note is the fact that dominant people actively pursue whatever it is
that they want this is the one thing that separates the dominant people from
the quote unquote beta males in the room the beta males have goals they have
wants but they rarely ever make them public
for example a beta male who likes a girl will hesitate to show her that he's
interested he'll wait and wait until the time is right and finally confess six
months down the line and most of the time the girl turns him down because the
very fact that he waited this long just to muster up the courage is a very
unattractive trait so the question remains well how exactly can you become
more dominant well there's two things that you have to work on number one is
to build confidence confidence is basically how much faith you have in
your ability to accomplish something the
people have low levels of confidence is because they rarely ever win any battles
what I mean by this are we going to war improvement pill well now cover every
single day multiple times throughout the day there are tiny little internal
battles going on within us for example let's say that you're on a diet you
notice that you've been packing on some weight and you decided that it was about
time you changed what you ate later that day you're at your friend's
house and he has a bowl of chips out in his living room and suddenly you have a
little battle within you should I eat those chips or should I resist and stick
to my diet each time you win a tiny battle like this your confidence goes a
little bit higher and each time you lose a battle it drops there are little
battles like this waging dozens of times throughout the day should I meditate
right now or should I just do it later should I go to the gym today even though
I don't feel like it should I read or should I just binge some Netflix if you
want to build your confidence there's literally no better way than to win
battle after battle after battle which in turn will allow you to build new
habits that make you feel better physically as well as mentally and the
very fact that you've been able to make such changes by winning all of these
internal battles is the biggest boost of confidence I know of nothing drills the
belief that you can get things done than winning these internal battles and this
is crucial for becoming a more dominant person the second thing you need to have
in order to become a more dominant person is to hold an incredibly strong
frame now frame is a pretty complicated concept but essentially it's your
ability to stay true to your beliefs despite the obstacle I think the best
way to help you understand what good frame is is by giving you two examples
the first is someone who has weak frame so let's say there's a guy named Jim
Jim's about to go to a party he looks in the mirror and he tells himself look man
you're awesome you're going to have a great time tonight
this is his frame I am going to have a great time tonight so he walks into the
party and immediately someone spills a drink on him by accident
Jim is enraged and spends the rest of the night thinking about how much of a
fool he looks like with a stained shirt on this is an example of somebody who
cannot hold their frame their world is shattered so easily that a simple little
drink was able to ruin his entire night for the second example let's imagine
that there's a guy named John John on the other hand starts with the same
exact frame I am awesome and I'm going to have an awesome time tonight
so John walks into the party and immediately he gets a drink spilled on
him the first thing he does is laugh out loud
he continues to have fun and girls even question him about the huge stain on his
shirt um why do you have such a huge stain on your shirt and each time he
receives a comment like this he comes up with a witty comeback like that's
because I never do my laundry he continues to have fun and although
things did not go as planned he still holds his frame so hopefully now you
have an idea of what holding frame is about now the question remains how
exactly do you learn to increase your ability to hold strong frame one big
factor is of course confidence which we just talked about because the more
confident you are the less likely you are to be thrown off course by a simple
little obstacle another factor is actually linked to how present you are
people who are extremely present in the moment do not get sucked into a
whirlpool of negative thoughts which eventually breaks your frame they're
able to see these events with clarity and see the humor behind it I know you
guys like to joke about how often I bring up meditation but I've never never
but meditation is probably one of the best ways for you to increase your
presence and learn how to hold stronger frame if you want to learn more about
meditation I'll link to my meditation playlist that describes the benefits of
meditation as well as how to go about doing it everyone wants become the alpha
male but what you really should be chasing after is how to develop a more
dominant personality so remember guys make sure you're winning those internal
battles so you can boost your confidence and do your best to increase your
presence so that you can hold stronger frames that's all you need to become
quote unquote more powerful here's a link to the meditation videos I
mentioned before I would highly suggest you check them out meditation is one of
those things that can really change your life