sometimes we rationalize the fact that
we're doormats pushovers or just
horrendously insecure behind the facade
that we are nice we self-sacrifice to
the extreme we insist that our
self-inflicted pain is martyrdom and we
silence ourselves when literally no one
asked us to because we are being nice so
six signs you're a nice girl in your
relationships are one you don't feel
safe expressing your true feelings babe
do you have a chance to read my
screenplay oh i didn't get to it yet oh
okay
sorry is that okay yeah no it's fine
it's okay don't worry about it babe it's
okay
okay babe it's okay it's fine don't
worry about it babe just stop worrying
about it it's totally fine it doesn't
seem like it's okay it's okay
it's fine babe stop worrying don't worry
about it it's okay that you can't do it
yet babe two you don't speak up for what
you want madam president it's up to you
should we engage in nuclear war
ma'am the enemy has breached the shore
they're here
madam president we need an answer now
they're invading i repeat they're
invading yeah
what do you think
three you believe that being feminine
means being passive so you never
actively pursue or say what you actually
want to do babe what do you want to eat
what about this restaurant babe what do
you want do you want a potato do you
want bread you want both oh
man you're crazy okay i'll put in that
order do you wanna watch our shows what
show do you wanna watch babe babe what
show do you wanna watch that's a great
suggestion mabel just watch what i want
to watch okay babe i'm gonna lift you up
babe
okay babe let's go to the couch babe
i got you back
now
we cut off
four you're prone to obsessive thoughts
romanticizing and fantasizing about new
partners or relationships that will save
you hello fair maiden let true love's
kiss
awaken thee hold the scoundrel for true
love is i
step back tiny peasant this princess is
mine
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oh my god fair princess which one of you
will put me on your horse and lead me
back to my castle introduce me to the
mother impregnate me with 15 children
and love me till the day i die
i think this one right here no i think
you do that no
i didn't mean what i said about you i'm
just a scoundrel no he's very happy no
no
he's he's he's your prince he loves moms
five you self-abandon to make others
happy what's that congress there's
someone stuck in the whale well we can't
leave them alone
and finally you try to control other
people's experiences so that you can
feel secure so being a nice girl doesn't
mean that you're actually being nice it
means you're trying to control the
perception that other people have of you
means that you're like conforming to an
identity that you think is expected of
you it's also projecting a false image
of yourself and if it helps you like
really want to shed this compulsive need
to be nice guess what it's pretty
manipulative ooh does not feel very nice
being a manipulative liar about who you
are does it there you go go to therapy
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