we've all seen those romantic comedies when a guy is hopefully chasing the girl
of his dreams despite any hesitations or obstacles in the way the girl might have
a boyfriend or she might think that he's a bit of a jerk at first in the end
however at the end of the movie the woman falls madly in love and the to run
off into the sunset these are the narratives that shape how we approach
women whether or not they are actually interested in us in a world of blurred
lines and dramatic love stories full of ups and downs men are encouraged to keep
chasing the girl of their dreams even if she has made it clear that she does not
want to be in a relationship these stories are a bit misleading because not
all pursuits have a happy ending even after signs that a girl may not be into
you or obstacles are in the way you may be determined to keep pressing forward
and proving that you're the guy for her but is it really worth it at some point
you have to throw in the towel and continue to move on maybe find another
girl if any of the following in this video applied to your situation it might
be time to call it quits and focus your attention and energy on a girl who will
be more worthwhile number one is very clear if she says no so let's be blunt
no means no if you ask a girl on a date and she says no you need to back off she
may only like you as a friend or she may be interested in someone else and that's
okay she has the right to decide who she wants to go on a date with if that
person isn't you don't take it as a personal rejection or a huge blow to
your self-esteem even if she is the perfect girl up until
that moment if she says no it's time to move on or maybe wait three to four more
months before asking again and at this point I want to be clear about something
moving on does not mean that you completely ignore the girl forever and
never speak to her again if you're friends with a girl for a while and then
completely ignore her after she denies maybe romantic or even sexual advances
you're sending her a message that you only wanted her for sex and that's not
cool after she has said no remained friendly and let her take the lead on
things she could have just been having a bad day or maybe was confused but if
that's the case it won't take her long for her to let you know that she's into
you or to make an advance of her own if you treat a woman like she has the power
to make her own decisions which she does she'll be much more likely to take
charge and approach you whenever she is ready number two when to move on is when
she's killing yourself esteem rejection is not fun it's needed though you may
feel like a failure and a girl's rejection can bleed into your feelings
about pursuing someone else so you press on hoping to make things right and prove
that you're a likeable desirable guy well at this point it's really not worth
it when pursuing a girl can be confused with
your self-esteem it's time to put your focus somewhere else you shouldn't find
your worth and whether or not a girl likes you back sure it's a huge
confidence boost and a great experience when that one that you've liked since
high school shows attraction signs but you shouldn't let it affect how you see
yourself think about why you're continuing to chase this girl do you
genuinely want to be with her or you just want to unravel the tensions that
come from being it rejected does the idea of letting go and letting to
pursuit be a failure make you upset you feel like you can't approach another
girl after this specific rejection if the feelings you have about yourself are
driving your desire to chase the girl you need to focus inward it's time to
build up your own self-esteem until the idea of rejection merely slides off your
shoulder take some time to stop chasing this girl and start chasing your ideal
self hit the gym focus on getting a promotion at work spend more time with
your friends and family that actually support you and take these steps to
start building yourself up rather than prove to this girl that you're worthy of
her affection charisma on command actually made a really good video about
why great relationships fail and I highly recommend watching it after this
video reason number 3 - stop chasing her is that she's bumming you out so during
this process remember your best partner will build you up not tear you down even
if the girl is gorgeous she's funny and she's smart she is not an ideal
girlfriend if she's bumming you out and just throwing all of your ideas and
suggestions into the trash you shouldn't have to feel nervous and intimidated
when you send someone a text or ask them a question it might take some time but
you'll be able to find a person who makes you feel comfortable
supportive and positive about your place in life number four is that your friends
keep telling you to quit it talk to your friends about the situation if you're
unsure tell them to be completely honest with you whether or not they think
you're gonna hurt your feelings they'll be able to tell from a third party
perspective whether or not it's time to throw in the towel if they're telling
you it's time to call it quits you should probably listen to them now there
are times when your friends can be jealous because you're spending all of
your time with a girl and not them but if all of your friends are saying a girl
is toxic for you or maybe that you're changing your behavior for them it might
be time to call it quits and the biggest one number five is that you're putting
more work into the relationship than any other area of your life so life is a
balanced relationships can be a big part of our lives so they shouldn't be a
reason to neglect your career your dreams your goals or your relationship
with your family and friends if you are so consumed by a relationship or even
the potential of a relationship with someone it's time to take a step back if
you concerned about how much time you're
spending on your relationship track your actions throughout the day how much time
are you focusing on work how much time are you focusing towards working towards
your dreams and how much time are you sitting around just waiting for a phone
call or a text back when you spend all of your time thinking about one text
message or recalling every word said on a single day time will go slow you need
to speed things up by shifting your focus elsewhere before you know it you
won't even be thinking about the girl that rejected you anymore or another
girl will come into the picture and support every area of your life so guys
remember to be patient be respectful and remember to put your self-esteem and
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ahead and move on