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Okay, so how to convince a man to be with you forever and ever for the rest
of your life. How do you convince him to do that?
You don't. Problems with this mindset.
Number one, if you've got the mindset that you've got to convince the guy,
you're chasing the wrong guy, and number two, even if it was the right
guy, if you have this mindset, he's not going to respect you.
And men don't commit to women, they don't respect.
Now, Trendy, you if you're watching. What we've got to do right now is we've
got to pull a little bit of rubbish out of your head. We've got to pull this mindset
out, and by doing that, what it's going to allow you to do is get an attractive high
value guy to commit to you in a way that fulfills you, in a way that empowers you,
and in a way that he does love and deeply connect to you, in a way that most women
never get to enjoy. But to do that, we've got to first pull this
"I must convince him mindset out of your head," right?
The mindset that you have to have, if you want an attractive guy to choose
commitment with you is the mindset that he has to earn that, right? Attractive
men earn you via your standards. You see the problem with saying,
"I've got to convince him to be with me," is that by definition, if you're saying,
"well, I have to convince him," then you're saying, "well, I've chosen him.
He's the one I want." Right?
And that's going to communicate. If you communicate that you've chosen him,
then it's saying, well, he's already met your standards, and he hasn't done
anything, right? Not relative to you. So you're saying that, "Hey, I've chosen you.
I want you. And you haven't done anything relative to me to earn it."
How can a man respect that? Even if you manage to get this guy into a
relationship, if he hasn't had any standards to jump over, if he hasn't had to work that,
if he hasn't had boundaries around the way he treats you, then you're going to
end up in a relationship that's totally unfulfilling if you manage to get one.
And without his respect, what's even the point? He might cheat on you.
He certainly won't bother treating you well because there's no minimum
standard for the guy to meet. So I want to flip your mindset here. I want to flip it
completely. If you want to get the attractive guy, the one that could
have other women, could choose other women, but you want him to choose
commitment with you and dedicate himself to you, there's a few things
you've got to always remember.
Number one is that attractive men, as I say, commit to women they respect.
Number one, very important.
Number two, attractive men respect women who have standards they
have to meet. A queen is a woman with standards, right?
Men respect, a queen. You must have standards to get respect and
commitment.
Now the third point, which is awesome is that there are lots of attractive men
in the world. And this is a great thing because it means you can actually
apply points one and two. Applying standards means walking away if
the guy doesn't meet those standards. It means making him verbally aware,
letting him know where those standards are and ruthlessly actioning on them
when he doesn't meet them.
And number four. So getting his respect, setting standards for him,
understanding that there's lots of attractive men so you can have those
standards and walk away if they're not met.
And number four, understand that you are worthy of love just by who you are
without having to convince anyone, right? When you combine these four,
you're going to flip this whole scenario. And instead of trying to convince him,
he is going to be working to meet your standards and earn you.
Now, 50,000 years ago, it might've made sense to have this mindset.
You were living your whole life in a tribe with 25 dudes, and there was one or
two attractive ones there. And you said, do you know what I want to get
that one to commit to me full life forever, right? That thinking would
have made a lot of sense. And standards would have been hard
to apply, especially because if you went to apply them and walk away,
primitive woman went away and apply their standards, "I'm just going to walk
away," she'd get eaten by a lion, right? Or maybe even beaten by the guy.
So standards were a nice thing to contemplate, but not really something
she could execute. Now, you have the best of both worlds, right?
You can get the committed relationship with the attractive guy, the guy that's
devoted to you, that chooses you.
And you have the ability, thank God, to walk away. If those standards
aren't met. But you have to use that ability. And if you get too focused on
the first attractive guy, instead of realizing, there is an abundance of
attractive men, abundance of attractive men. And when you put in
standards, one of them, absolutely will choose you and devote to you. When
you realize all of this, you can have the, what primitive women wanted and the
ability to execute in a way primitive women couldn't. So I'd encourage you,
if you want to be seen as a high value woman, if you want that guy, who's going
to connect really connect, so you can have a relationship women navigate to
enjoy. Then put those standards in place.
Don't go for the first attractive guy who hasn't done anything to earn it.
Wait for the guy who's willing to step up to your standards. You'll get the
respect, you'll get the commitment, and you'll get the guy.
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