- Heya, playa.
Have you ever been insulted by someone
and just stood there thinking
what's the best kind of response I can use
to put them in their place, to get back at them,
to show them that they can't speak that way to me?
I'm gonna share that with you right after this.
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Insults are an interesting thing
because you first have to ask the question
where does it come from?
What would drive someone to sit there,
think of an insult, and just hurl it your way?
Generally, I think the reason why people insult each other
is because they can't think of productive
and positive ways to express their feelings
that don't involve hurting someone else.
They have all these hurt and negative emotions,
and they just need to release them in some kind of way,
and more often than not, you end up on the receiving end
which is a sucky experience to go through.
No one wants to be insulted for who they are.
All in all, there are about seven different types of insults
a person can use when they're trying to insult you.
So being able to identify which type it is
will help you kind of figure out the best way
to categorize it and respond back.
There are promiscuous insults which try to imply
you're a bad person based on the number
of sexual partners you have.
Objectifying insults which try to attack
the size or shape or lack thereof of your genitalia.
Homosexual insults which try to say
that by being gay you're somehow bad in some kind of way.
Unethical insults which try to delegitimize who you are
and make you seem like you're a person
not worth caring about.
Stupid insults which just simply call you things
like stupid or an idiot.
Cowardly insults which might look
attacking your masculinity or manhood
or saying it just isn't there.
And unattractive insults which are just straight up saying
that you're ugly in some kind of way.
Each of these different types of insults
might affect you in one of two ways.
On one hand, it might just be a surface level comment
that this person made,
and maybe it's not something to take seriously,
but on the other hand,
you definitely might take it seriously.
It might cut deeply at who you are.
You might feel like it's an attack on your identity.
Either way, most people will find themselves
responding just as negatively back towards that person
with the same kind of insult
or one of the others that I mentioned,
but I think the best type of response
that you can give them is this.
Instead of engaging in their negativity
and playing by their rules
which is they insult you and you defend yourself,
flip the script on its head and say something
like hey, you seem a little upset today.
Is everything okay?
Now I know you might be thinking (loud sigh)
but Josh, that doesn't get back at them.
It's no, the jerk store called,
and they're running out of you type of comment.
I wanna get deeply at them and hurt their feelings.
I know, you wanna hurt them
just as much as they've hurt you,
but I think instead of engaging in that negative cycle,
it's better to break it.
It's better to open up the dialog so that they can be
genuine and honest with you if they choose to.
Asking them if they're okay shows
that their negative comments just breeze on by you.
It doesn't even affect you in any way
because what you really care about is the truth,
and the truth is why they're speaking that way to you,
why they're making those comments,
and what's deeply hurting them
that's leading them to speak that way,
and I'm not trying to say that when you ask them
hey, is everything okay?
They're gonna sit there and go yeah,
I'm glad you asked me, man.
Here's what's going on in my life.
Sometimes people will double down
and say even more mean things,
but what you're simply doing is showing them
that you're not gonna engage in their dialog.
You're gonna create your own.
If they choose to be a part of that happier,
more positive place, that's up to them.
You don't have time to deal with that kind of atmosphere.
If you're someone that's watching this video
and regularly watches this channel,
you're working on being your best self,
and just playing along and insulting each other
is not part of that equation.
What do you think, though?
Have you ever been on the receiving end
of any of those seven categories of insults?
If you have, leave your comment down below,
and let's talk about it.
And what I want you to do next
is check out the video over there on the side
where I break down five insults you should never say.
That video is gonna be just as important to watch
as this one, so go check it out.
On that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.