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- [Amanda] Hey Psych2Goers,
and welcome back to another video.
Thank you all so much for the love and support
that you've given us,
enabling us to make yet another exploration
into everyday psychology.
So, let's begin, shall we?
Do you often lie to yourself?
Can you tell when and why?
The human mind is complex,
and it can make us deceive ourselves
without even knowing it.
Sometimes evading the truth
gives us a feeling of security in what we do.
But if left unattended for too long,
lying might actually become a part of who you are,
and create problems that are very difficult to solve.
Living a lie can be damaging to your peace of mind.
So watch this video to find out about hidden signs
that you might be lying to yourself.
This will help you identify your behavior
and veer you away from the damaging consequences.
Number one, your emotions don't match your words.
When an accident happens,
do you pretend you're not mad
just to make the other person feel better?
Or when you have tears coming down your face,
are you quick to say everything is fine?
This occurs when we experience situations
where we don't know how to feel,
or don't want others to know
what's really going on in our minds.
According to a study by Dior in 2020,
this happens when you try to convince yourself of something,
but your emotions tell a different story altogether.
Number two, you keep justifying other people's behaviors.
One of the clearest examples of this
is when there's an abusive partner in a relationship
who attacks emotionally and physically,
the affected person says, "It's okay,
they're only stressed because of work
and need to blow off some steam."
If this statement feels familiar,
then it's clear as day
you might have been lying to yourself.
When you want to evade the truth rather than face it,
you end up making excuses for the behaviors of other people.
Number three, you keep justifying your behavior.
Just like the others,
do you also make excuses
to justify your own behavior as well?
You tend to garner strength from these excuses,
using them as rationalizations,
or invented reasons to defend the way you behave
as reported and a study by Sicinski.
Common examples of this
is when people choose a career they don't like at all,
and it's wearing them down,
but they justify their choice,
claiming that they're just feeling stressed.
Number four, you don't like listening
to other people's advice.
This is attributed to the fact
that there are times when we don't even want to admit
that we're lying to ourselves.
When this happens,
people who are lying to themselves
tend to only side with people who reassure their lie
and oppose those who challenge it.
Let's use the career example
where you lie to yourself
about being happy with your choice.
If you shut off people
who suggest looking for different career options,
that is a form of lying to yourself.
Number five, you feel inauthentic.
Do you constantly feel like you've lost your identity
and feel like you're a fake?
According to a study by Dior in 2020,
having this feeling usually comes
with deceiving yourself for too long,
and not really knowing what you want any more.
Things that occur when you feel inauthentic
are that you're friends with people you don't like,
you laugh at jokes you don't find funny,
you go to places where you don't wanna go,
or you don't really know what you want or who you are.
Number six, you make extreme statements.
Do you make extreme statements to justify your situation?
If so, you may be lying to yourself
to have the feeling of safety.
You decide to only consider one vantage point
without considering any other possibilities.
One example of this is when people claim
"There are no good men around."
By claiming this you're justifying yourself
and protecting yourself
from the thought of being afraid to fall in love.
And number seven, you're anxious for no apparent reason.
Feeling anxious for no apparent reason
is a common sign that you're deceiving yourself.
In a study by Bundrant
it was found that people who lie to themselves
and others are always worried that they'll be found out.
Which is why they live
with a constant feeling of unease and insecurity.
People who are anxious for no apparent reason
might be lying to avoid punishment,
avoid shame, or to fit in.
We hope we were able to give you a little insight
into some of the ways you might be lying to yourself.
Do any of these apply to you?
Let us know in the comments below.
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