- A man's account of a terrible first date
recently went viral.
He took a woman out to dinner.
She ordered lobster and an expensive glass of wine
totalling 180 bucks.
The guy, who's a student,
got pasta and a beer totalling $20.
His date became outraged and called him rude
when the check came because he refused to pay
her portion of the tab.
Is it okay to order expensive items on the menu
on a first date?
- If you're going on a date, and he picks the place,
buddy, you gotta know the lay of the land.
If there's lobster on the menu,
whatever's on the menu, you should know.
(audience applauding)
- I disagree.
I totally disagree.
So I have this boyfriend who is a complete scrub,
and he used to come out with my family and think
it was a free for all.
He would order the caviar, lobster.
I'm like, what are you doing?
By the way, grounds for dismissal right there.
I just think it's rude to go in so brazen and bold.
(applause)
- Adrianna, I could not disagree more and here's why.
As I think that it is important when you go on a date
for a woman to simply be yourself.
If you would take yourself to dinner and have lobster
and a great glass of wine, then you certainly should
do it if a man is taking you to dinner.
The only time it becomes and issue, is if you start
going out with somebody and suddenly now you all
brand new, and you ordering stuff you have never
had in your life.
- I agree with the combination of it.
If you're gonna take a woman out fellas,
you got to know the lay of the land.
If it's out your league, don't go there.
If you ain't got lobster money,
then you gotta go somewhere the lobster's affordable.
See Red Lobster.
- [Woman] Right.
(laughter) (applause)
- By the way, if she knew he was a student,
even more the reason to hold back.
He doesn't have a huge income.
- But sometimes men need to be put on the spot.
- [Audience Member] That's right.
- Right?
Listen, when I first started dating my husband,
I invited him to my house for dinner.
And he said, so can I bring something?
And I said, yeah you can.
Why don't you grab a bottle of Opus One wine.
- Opus One?
That's fancy. - Opus One.
And not only did he bring one bottle, he brought two.
And it took him about five years to tell me
that he almost had a heart attack when he realized
the bottle of wine was like $250 a bottle.
- By the way I would've said bring a bottle of wine
and the quiz, or my internal test would've been
to see what kind of wine he showed up with.
- No men 'aint that smart, you got to tell 'em.
- That's why I ended up with my husband.
- You got to tell 'em baby, you got to tell them.
- Now we ain't, a bottle of wine.
- It shows that they have that sophistication.
- Silver Oaks is $79.
And it's delicious. - That's a great wine.
- So is Yellow Tail.
- And then at the same time, like Adrianna said,
if it's a student, come on now, don't jam him up.
- But Steve, if I'm high maintenance all day, every day,
why all of a sudden, just because I'm going on a date
with you, now I need to fall back?
- I understand what you saying but the ignorant
part was was when the bill came,
he want her to pay.
- That was horrible.
- See we've lost the art of chivalry.
Let me give you the rules gentlemen.
And I don't care what nobody tells you.
This is rules.
If you invite a woman out and ask for her company,
automatically you should be willing to pay for the meal.
- Yes.
- 100%.
- That's the rule man.
I've never gone out with a woman and not paid.
- You're a stand up guy.
- And that's cause your a gentleman.
- I wasn't raised, I can't.
I dated a girl years ago
and after the club
I asked her out and she said yeah.
And she said so where do you normally go?
And I said Denny's.
Usually the only thing open after the club is closed anyway.
So we go to Denny's and I'm sitting there and I'm sweating.
You know, cause I got a twenty.
And so I just waited on her to order
and she ordered the grand slam.
Now at Denny's that's a $1.99.
So I'm cool but then she said,
but you know what though, wait a minute, hold up.
I think I'm a try the spaghetti and shrimp dinner.
I wasn't ready for that and I looked over
and that was like $8 and something.
So I'm going okay hold up.
If she eat shrimp and order something else, so
I had the special, the $1.99 special.
It was just praying that she filled up
so I kept asking for water.
They kept bringing water, kept sliding it over.
(laughter)
(applause)
- And that was it man.
- But it shows that you were a gentleman.
I don't care what the money was.
I don't care how much it cost.
It shows that you were a gentleman from day one.
- She was fine.
I was gonna let her eat the whole $20.
- Priorities ladies, priorities.
- Oh she was fine.
Ain't no doubt about that.
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