Visualize you and your partner having sex.
Oh boy.
Yes. So in this vision that you have, what time of day is it? So drop us a note in the
comments below, let us know when you picture you and your partner having sex, what time
of day is it? So we are willing to bet that you are picturing you guys having sex at night.
And that is because most of us default to having sex at night, especially the end of
the night, you're like crawling into bed after the day is over. That's the time that we have
sex, right? But today, we are dressed in our finest jammies.
I don't really have jammies.
We don't really sleep in jammies, but we're dressed in our jammies to talk about morning
sex. Morning sex can have so many amazing benefits. It's really a shame that more people
don't do it. We do know though that there can be some like uphill mental battles when
it comes to morning sex. So today we're going to tell you exactly how to start incorporating
great morning sex into your lives on a regular basis.
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There's so many reasons that morning is a great time to be having sex. So first of all,
sex helps us feel more connected to ourselves, to our partner. It relaxes us, it improves
our mood. It puts a little spring in your step. So starting your day, this way basically
just sets you up for having an awesome day.
People also report feeling more turned on in the morning. And so it can be a great time
if you feel like at other times of the day, you just don't have a very high sex drive
or sex doesn't cross your mind. You may be somebody who actually has a higher sex drive
in the morning.
That's a really good point. Morning sex can also be great for men who have erectile or
orgasmic challenges. So during sleep men tend to average about five erections a night lasting
about 35 minutes each. So that's 35 minutes,
That's a lot of erection.
Times five erections. That's a lot of being hard at night. And so that's why men oftentimes
wake up with an erection. Even those who struggle to get erections at other points in the day.
This is what people refer to as morning wood. Men also report that their erections tend
to feel stronger in the morning. So all good reasons for giving it a try in the morning
when you're ready to go.
Yeah. It seems like the penis is just generally pretty happy in the morning. Ready to go.
Prime. Your penis is primed in the morning.
He's strong. Also, another benefit to morning sex is that it can be easier in a lot of ways.
So hopefully you're waking up feeling rested and relaxed. You're in a good mood. You're
not coming home at the end of a long day, feeling really cranky and tired, or getting
into bed at the end of the night already feeling exhausted and not wanting to cut into your
sleeping time. Also, a lot of us sleep naked. So it's already a little bit easier or you've
got easy to remove pajamas, just button right up. So you can also even hop into the shower
right afterwards, if you're somebody who likes to shower after it's just...
Part of your normal routine already.
Yeah. It feels like it can just fit in a lot easier in some ways.
Yeah.
That's what she said.
So we know it can seem more difficult to have morning sex on a regular basis when you have
work, kids, all days responsibilities all ahead of you. So let's talk about how to troubleshoot
some of the potential morning sex issues.
Yeah. We're going to give you some of our best tips for morning sex. Okay. So one thing
that really gets in the way of morning sex is our phones. Most of us are really in the
habit of waking up. The first thing we grabbed for is our phone. And then you're looking
at social media, you're looking at your emails, you're responding to things. It's just really
easy to get totally wrapped up in the little world that is your phone. So actually leave
a comment for us down in the comments below about this too. Do you grab your phone first
thing in the morning or are you one of those rare people who maybe grabs your partner in
the morning instead?
Yeah. That phone is definitely going to be a boner killer for the guys.
Oh, yes. So our recommendation here is to really get in the habit of greeting your partner
before you greet your phone. So spend a few minutes, even if you're not having morning
sex, just spend a few minutes, cuddling, kissing, snuggling with each other, just create this
routine between the two of you where you're having, even if it's 30 seconds of connection,
that can make a big difference. We really guarantee if you can do this, you'll have
a better morning, even if you don't wind up having morning sex, but often you might find
that just having that little bit of connection right in the morning can lead straight into
some morning sex.
All right. So what if you feel like you just need more time to get your body on board with
sex? So for example, some women experienced lubrication issues in the morning, even if
they are feeling horny. So the solution here is really simple. Keep a bottle of lube in
your bedside table for quick and easy access. And don't let that be a problem.
And we also have a video about lube which we will link to right up here. All right.
Another issue that can come up is a lot of people feel like they want to shower first
thing in the morning. And a lot of times this comes from feeling self-conscious about the
ways our genitals smell. It comes up for women in particular, because we're really socialized
to believe that our genitals are icky, and weird, and smelly, and kind of gross. So first
of all, what we want to say is know that your genitals are perfectly fine. This is some
really crappy socialization that we've all received, but it is not true.
That being said, if it's something that you're just so self conscious about, it's really
getting in the way, a very easy fix is that you can keep some organic baby wipes in your
bedside table for just a super fast cleanup or put them in your bathroom, so you just
hop up really quickly, clean yourself off. Again, it is not necessary, but if it's something
that's going to make you feel a little bit better, go ahead and do that. You can also
make the shower be foreplay. So you can take a shower together, get each other all soaked
up, have a little bit of fun and then move it over to the bed to finish up.
Or you can always do it in the shower too. If you don't have a huge height difference,
like we do, create some problems.
The shower is not our friend.
No. All right. So the biggest issue that most people have with morning sex is probably morning
breath, but this does not have to be a boner killer. It does not. This is such an easy
fix. So here's a super simple tip. Just keep a package of those minty breath strips in
your bedside table, pop one in your mouth and in just a few seconds, you too will have
minty breath just like you brushed your teeth.
Yeah. Not a big deal. Super simple and easy fix.
Yeah. So also, if you're still super worried about it, you can do things that don't require
kissing such as oral sex or mutual masturbation. Also, you can kiss each other, just try kissing
your neck, or ears, or something like that. Kiss all over the body.
Yeah. Another thing you can do is forbid yourselves from kissing, like make it this sexy rule
between the two of you where then it feels like surprisingly hot knowing that you're
not allowed to. Another thing you can do is have sex in positions that don't require your
heads to be very close to each other. So if you have intercourse for example, you could
do doggy style,
Or reverse cowgirl.
Reverse cowgirl, spooning, where there's not even the potential for the two of you to kiss
so you don't have to feel self-conscious about your breath.
Another thing is you could also acknowledge or just kind of learn from experience that
morning breath isn't really a big deal after a little bit of time has passed. So since
you both have morning breath, because let's be honest, neither of our breaths are great
first thing in the morning. They're just not going to be minty fresh.
No.
That's the bottom line. But the reality is you both have it. So it's easier for each
of you to ignore it. Once you started kissing for like 10 seconds, seriously, I guarantee
you, you're not going to notice it anymore. You just kind of acclimate to each other's
mouth and tongues and that's it.
Doesn't need to be that big of a deal.
Yeah. Also, it's not like you're sticking your nose in their mouth.
Maybe that's how you kiss. I don't know.
Yeah. Maybe don't do nose kisses.
So that wraps up our video on morning sex. We hope you are now feeling inspired to get
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See you next time. All right. I'll get it this time.
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All right. All right. I heard it that time. I think I might've gotten it right the first
time.
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