Hi everyone, I’m Brad Browning, relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver Canada.
You may have come across my YouTube videos or heard about my best-selling “Ex Factor
Guide” program, but today I want to talk to you about something that anyone who has
ever gone through a breakup has dealt with, and that’s the pestering question of whether
or not your ex is still thinking about you.
Well, the short answer to that question is yes.
In fact, most people still think about previous relationships, despite how it ended or how
much time has passed.
The thing is, if you were in a relationship that was emotionally intense, then you’re
going to still think about the person who made you feel that way.
When couples call off a long term, meaningful relationship, both of them will usually experience
a tidal wave of emotions; good, bad, sad, angry, regretful, relieved.
As time passes it won’t matter how you and your ex ended things or what emotions were
flying high, the memories you made together will still come rushing back as you begin
to find your own path again.
As more time passes these memories may become few and far between, but if you broke up recently,
your ex is more than likely still thinking about you on a daily basis.
If you have been in a relationship with someone who has impacted your life, then you’re
not just going to forget about them.
Sure you can return their belongings and replace the things around your house that remind you
of them, but still, it’s impossible to erase someone completely.
This may be a good thing, or a bad thing, but believe me when I say that for these same
reasons your ex hasn’t forgotten about you.
So, if you’re still not convinced that your ex is indeed still thinking about you, here
are some signs to look for.
Calls First on the list, you know your ex still
thinks about you if they call or text you often.
Yes, sometimes communication after a breakup can be necessary, but if your ex is finding
pointless excuses to call you, it’s because they miss you being a part of their life and
aren’t ready to handle the fact that you broke up.
While you should keep communication to a minimum and try the no contact period that I recommend
in a handful of other YouTube videos, sometimes there is no way around speaking with you ex.
In these cases, keep conversation positive and light.
Do not argue or show them how upset you are without them, but instead show them how great
you are doing on your own.
If your ex is constantly starting arguments with you, chances are they are not happy with
the break up and believe it or not, they do in fact miss you.
Always remember that people have funny ways to show they still care, especially when they
are upset.
Actions speak louder than words, and while their words may not be kind, the fact that
they are taking the time to contact you says otherwise.
Secrets
If your ex moves on and decides to keep their new relationships discreet, then they’re
probably still thinking about you, and their decision to hide the new relationship could
be for a few reasons.
Maybe they’re taking your feelings into consideration and think that hiding the relationship
will protect your feelings, or perhaps it’s because they don’t want to completely lose
the chance of getting back with you.
Either way, their decision to keep their new love life a secret was something they put
thought into, and in those thoughts, they were thinking about you.
The Social Signs After a breakup, it’s not uncommon to want
to wallow in your misery for a bit.
Some of us like to play sad songs, watch sappy movies, and read tear jerking stories; after
all, the saying “misery loves company” didn’t come out of nowhere.
If you see links to heartfelt songs or breakup quotes in your ex’s facebook or twitter
updates, it’s a sign that they are still thinking about you and the relationship.
If they’re doing something on Facebook that is out of the usual (like posting lots of
pictures when they usually don’t), then they might just be trying to make you think
they’re doing great.
This is one of the banes of social networking.
Your ex can be discreet and yet, say a lot.
Be wary of this because stalking around a facebook page or twitter feed can turn into
a painful obsession.
Asking Friends If your ex still thinks about you or wants
you back, they’re going to talk about you or ask about you through your common friends.
If they are, you’re going to find out sooner or later.
Information like this spreads through the grapevine, and if it does, you’ll know your
ex has been thinking about you and paying attention to what you’re up to without them.
Seeing Them Everywhere Have you bumped into your ex recently, accidentally,
out of the blue?
Is it happening a lot?
Did you run into each other like this when you were together?
If not, there’s a good chance their reason for being where they are when you are was
planned and intentional.
You may have a sneaky friend who’s leaking information to your ex, or you may be letting
too many people in the world know about your daily plans through your Facebook posts.
Bumping into each other may feel nice, but it’s not going to reduce the pain.
If running into each other becomes a pattern, consider rearranging your schedule for a while
until feelings die down.
So, now that warning bells are going off and it’s clear that your ex is still thinking
about you, what do you do?
What does it mean?
This is important to understand.
Exes don’t stop thinking about their exes.
It’s natural, and something that’s inevitable.
Even if you’ve had a bad relationship, you can’t help but wonder if you’d get back
and consider the proverbial ‘what if…?’
But for now, you need to block your ex from your thoughts, even if they have been giving
you a lot of attention or thought.
Even when your plan is to win them back, do your best not to think about them right now,
it’s for your own good.
If you are hoping to someday make up and have a lasting relationship, it’s important to
reset the image your ex has of you before getting back together.
If you’re interested in finding out more about reseting your image and making your
ex second-guess their decision to break up, visit my website at www.breakupbrad.com to
invest in my Ex Factor Guide program or personal coaching service to walk you through the process
of winning your ex back.
I’m only able to help a limited number of clients at any given time, but you can see
my availability and learn more about my services at www.BreakupBrad.com/coaching, I’ll put
that URL in the description below.
Thanks for watching, I hope you learned something new, and as always, I really appreciate those
of you who take the time to ‘like’ my videos and subscribe to my channel here on
YouTube.
I’m also interested in hearing your comments, so please feel free to leave a message below.
I always do my best to answer each of you, and I’m looking forward to hearing your
feedback.
Well, until next time take care, and good luck!