hey everyone welcome back a Christian
I've received often ease well since
moving to Singapore is how do you stay
positive about moving to a new country
alone and basically how do you do it and
I think for a lot of people who haven't
had the experience of growing the
prospect of moving to a new country
completely on your own can be very
intimidating and just because I grew up
in a few different countries doesn't
mean or doesn't make it less scary for
me to come to Singapore on my own in a
sense I wasn't afraid of coming to a new
country I wasn't afraid of the newness I
I mean I don't think I have a sense of
fear when I came here but there have
been some struggles as you would expect
you know completely relocating you know
opening bank accounts and getting a job
and making friends and finding a church
all of those things are guaranteed to be
a little stressful when you move but I
guess today I'll just chat about how I'm
handling it seeing as surprisingly quite
a few of you have asked me this question
so I believe if you're asking that
question then perhaps you're also
interested in relocating to a different
country I'm not going to touch on how to
find a job here because it's very
different from industry to industry
company to company but basically as a
quick summary
I created a portfolio I'm in designer
and then I you know touched up my CV and
I just sent it out to a whole different
bunch of companies in a few different
countries Singapore being one of them
and then I had an interview on skype and
at the end of
second interview I was given the job and
then I had like a month to pack my bags
and move here so I'm not saying it's
necessarily easy or difficult but you
need the skills in whatever field you're
working and if you want to teach English
and find out what the companies you want
to work for other schools require do you
need a degree in English or deed need
some sort of degree for me I have
honours and information design so
without my degree I wouldn't you know be
able to come here so just check what
companies are requiring and obviously
since I'm not a Singaporean citizen I
had to get an EP which is an employment
pass so my company sponsor that after I
got the job but every country is
different so and every industry is
different so just do your research and
honestly the best advice my mom gave me
was how to say in English and I forgot
to say Hoya bro to be wanted which is
like throw your bread on the water which
just means like go for all the
opportunities try everything and
whatever happens happens and whatever
door opens is meant to open the one way
I've been dealing with all of these
changes and knowing like have I made the
right decision like what am I doing here
is through my face and a lot of you who
watch my videos and follow me on
Instagram you know that I'm really
unashamed of my faith because I have a
relationship with God and I've seen him
work in my life and just having that
faith to hold on to knowing that I'm
here for a reason has really carried me
through and there have been some days
when I come home from work and I'm
incredibly lonely
don't cry don't cry okay and I'm just
like wow God like I'm here and I'm super
super lonely but that's normal I mean
I've only been here for two months
knowing that I'm here for a reason I
came all this way and I don't know what
that reason is yet like I believe God
put me in Singapore for a reason just
having that as a comfort helps already
for the days where I feel like what am I
doing here miles away from home having
something to hold on to knowing
something greater than yourself helps
because if you always focus the
tension on yourself in the sense of like
I'm unhappy or you know everything
should be working out for me why isn't
it working out for me then of course
you're gonna be negative and depressed
but in my case I'm like wow you know I
might be having a bad day but I know I'm
here for a reason and let's keep working
hard let's keep living and doing what I
need to do so that I can have a greater
purpose whether that means enriching
people's lives through my job whether it
means just one person I have to meet on
the street for one day whatever it is I
know I'm here for a reason and that
helps me get through feeling negative
and other things just putting yourself
out there socially yeah it is difficult
to move to a country completely alone
and it's hard to make friends but you
guys are my youtube family and I have no
shame in telling you that I am on all
the dating apps and not necessarily for
dating I'm not on tinder anymore it's
not the greatest site I use other apps
like what well I've had a blank
yeah like OkCupid and coffee meets bagel
I feel like they people put more effort
into their profiles like they're more
serious about friendships or
relationships it's not for hookups which
is not my thing
but I'm trying to find all the ways that
I can make friends and people have
contacted me through my Instagram on my
youtube so if you're watching me and
you've messaged me and we've met in
person hello and thank you for being my
friend um so yeah using any form of
social media or going to meetups there's
a website called meetup comm where
there's a bunch of events happening in
your air so there's badminton clubs and
there's art clubs and there's language
exchange clubs and there's church groups
and there's volunteering I'm joining
those groups really helps meet people in
the circles that you enjoy it is way too
hot in here I just dropped my remote
okay so sorry for the aircon buzz but I
cannot uh hum this anymore
Tahaan is a Singlish for like handle so
yeah I'm making a video on Singlish so
check that out later but yes cannot hug
this weather anymore hmm yeah so I'm
just praying myself out there helps a
lot too
to make friends but also it's so
important to remember not to tire
yourself out because yes just now I said
I'm lonely but also I have a lot of
people who I can hang out with but I
think why I'm lonely is because I try
and do so much and try and meet people
every single day that the one or two
days a week where I don't have anything
to do I come home and I'm like who do
really dunno
and I've lived alone almost for seven
years and I wasn't really a homebody I
would go home and I'd be like yes I am a
load let's chill and now I come alone
and I'm like I'm alone so having a
balance is very very important so don't
pack your schedule too full and the last
thing I want to touch on is family I
have a really good relationship with my
parents and if it weren't for Skype and
whatsapp to be able to message my
parents a few times a week or my mom
every day I mean people are very
surprised when I saw them I talk to my
mom every day like we message every day
she's my best friend and I love her very
much but um having a good relationship
with your parents hopes they were if I
have a problem and I just want like some
adult advice to bounce my problem off
it's always nice to reach out to my
parents and if you don't have a good
relationship with your parents I'm sure
there are people who you can trust like
maybe siblings or your friends or new
people that you're meeting but it's
always important to have a support
circle to help you get through hard
times finally um a lot of people have a
romanticized
idea of moving to a new country
especially if it's Japan or Korea
because you see it in kpop you see it in
J dramas and and you have this image of
this country being like amazing it's not
like that so either lower your
expectations or don't have expectations
because you can google the country all
you want and see amazing videos and see
amazing photos and dream your dream life
but life is life like not everything is
going
perfect not everything is gonna work out
your way my housemates are super noisy
and the fridge is disgusting I'm
actually moving out talk about that
later but just thinking realistically
about things and not letting it get you
down with thinking of solutions try and
number one lower your expectations
and change the way you think about
things don't romanticize the country be
very realistic and if something becomes
too big of a problem then try and solve
it yeah I think that is it for now if
you have any other questions about
moving overseas or just handling your
emotions while relocating then feel free
to comment and I will reply if I can and
be sure to check out my website which is
Lindy Britta's calm and follow me on
Instagram if you want to see my
Singapore adventures okay guys thank you
well I just moved the table thank you
for watching and I will see you in the
next video bye