Matt: Eight out of ten women believe that the first kiss will tell them everything
that they need to know about a relationship and believe me she has
definitely thought about it that first kiss with the girl can seem really
daunting like there's just so much pressure on you to make it perfect and
of course you don't want to get rejected when you go for the kiss but just watch
this video until the end to save yourself some embarrassment and make a
flawless first move every time Matt earnest in here with the attractive man
and today I'll be counting down the top five ways that you can make a girl want
you to kiss her and make sure to watch into the end because the last one is my
personal favorite we've done all the testing and you know what works the main
thing that you need to be comfortable with before attempting any of the
following is tension creating and even playing with the tension that happens
the moment right before the kiss is really gonna make or break how effective
the kiss really is and as humans we're naturally inclined to break any and all
tension which is good news for you because as you create that tension when
you're about to kiss her she's gonna be naturally inclined to want to break the
tension by kissing but if you fail to master the art of creating tension well
that kiss attempt is probably gonna land flat take this scenario you invite a
girl over to your place to watch a movie and then somewhere in the middle of the
movie you lean in and you try to kiss her and what does she do
she backs away right she dodges it does it ever happen to you well I know it's
definitely happened to me a few times what I realized is that the women were
just really into the movie so don't pick a really interesting movie if you're
gonna try to kiss her in the middle of it and I didn't create any moment it
just kind of came out of nowhere there wasn't any build-up anticipation and
there certainly wasn't any tension luckily for you I've compiled five easy
and effective ways to create some tension and make that girl want to kiss
you before we get started make sure to click that subscribe button down below
and hit that Bell notification icon so you don't miss a thing starting off with
number five we have the playful approach this will show off your fun-loving
personality while also being the perfect segue into a kiss start off with a
playful childlike activity and start to amp it
up a little bit more making it just a little bit more essential for example
you can do this through tickling or play wrestling take this for example you're
hanging out with a girl preferably on your couch or on your bed or at least
somewhere private this wouldn't necessarily work that well
in a bar or at a coffee shop if you guys are really hitting it off then you can
try a playful tickle battle you can just ask her if she's ticklish and then start
tickling her and this works really well because she'll probably tickle you back
and it'll involve a lot of body contact allowing you to get very close to each
other which is a surefire way to really ramp up the tension which she's gonna
want to break also if you guys are playfully tickling each other or
wrestling you can also wrap your arms around her which is gonna allow her to
feel your sense of security and make her feel safe and of course make her
automatically see you as a more masculine man which of course is one of
the most attractive traits that a man can have number four is the clever
approach now this one's a little different because it actually doesn't
involve any body contact so if you're a little wary about where to touch a girl
without freaking her out then this is probably the method for you and by the
way if that's you I created an entire video on how to touch a girl and I'll
put the link of that down in the description now this method is really
great and fun because it involves the use of clever games let me give you an
example one time back in college after a party I was hanging out with this girl
at I think was a frat house and I see a dartboard on the wall so I go I pick up
one of the darts and I said hey if I hit the bull's eye you owe me a kiss and I
hit the bull's eye I'm pretty good at darts and it worked she loved it just
make sure whatever you pick whatever game it is make sure you're pretty good
at it and you know make sure you win another option is playing the question
game or 20 questions and I'll put a link of a video where I explain this game
down in the description as well so make sure you guys you check out the
description before you leave this video anyways I know this sounds a little bit
lame but hear me out because girls love talking about themselves that's why this
game works so well girls love this so when you're hanging out with her just
bring up the idea of playing either the question game or 20 questions and just
start asking questions that increase the tension and the intimacy over time
until finally get to the last question which could be something like how much
do you want to kiss me right now well let's find out and she'll probably
answer by kissing you or by saying that she wants you to kiss her and this
approach can be great especially if you're a little bit nervous about going
for the kiss because it can save you embarrassment because it kind of acts
like a safety net because you'll immediately know after asking her that
question or making that bet whether she wants you to kiss her or not just by her
answer to the question and by reading her body language and facial expressions
moving on to number 3 we have the flirty approach which is really great because
it involves talking about kissing before actually kissing her which might sound a
little counterintuitive but let me explain one time I was watching a movie
with a girl and instead of just reaching over and kissing her out of the blue and
her dodging it because there's no tension I waited for a kissing scene in
the movie and I made a comment about it I bet you're not even a good kisser but
I'm tempted to find out eventually it led into a conversation about kissing
favorite ways of kissing who's the better kisser until eventually we had to
prove to each other who the better kisser is and the reason this approach
works so well is because talking about something before actually doing it
plants the seed it plants the idea into her head
it makes her think about it which of course increases the tension now I know
this one involves a little bit more advanced conversation skills so you can
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number two is called the intense approach which is going to use body
language to increase the tension first you'll need her full attention she'll
have to be looking right at you and you guys are gonna have to make eye contact
this is really important because prolonged eye contact not only increases
tension but prolonged eye contact is actually scientifically proven to
increase bonding between two individuals and actually releases a bonding horn
called oxytocin which is a hormone that's also released during orgasm so
once you catch her gaze you can add in a little bit more tension some nuances
such as letting your knees touch if you guys are sitting or pushing a lock of
hair behind her ear now this works really well and will likely end with her
breaking the tension by you two kissing all right before I get to number one
which is my favorite and I think creates the most tension creates the most movie
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number one is called the spontaneous approach which is going to be the
hardest to pull off but it's also the most memorable which is why women love
it so much it doesn't seem forced and it doesn't seem rehearsed and it's
oftentimes how you see couples kiss for the first time in a movie so it's gonna
be really special for her now this could be as simple as walking from one venue
to another venue and maybe you're holding hands and you just stop and you
say something like oh I forgot something and you just kiss her the key here is to
find a moment where you're pretty sure she's gonna kiss you back but she
doesn't necessarily expect you to go for the kiss so for this one you're gonna
want to be very cognizant of where the interaction is going to know exactly
when to go for it so for example if you two are crossing the street and you grab
her hand to show her that you're keeping her safe and protecting her and she
seems okay with that and even when you reach the other side she's still holding
your hand that's a pretty good indicator that she really likes you because it's
very coupley to hold hands especially if you guys switch and hold hands like this
this is more intimate hand-holding which is a good indicator that she'll be
receptive to you going for the kiss by the way when you go for the kiss I
recommend using the 90/10 rule which means you go in ninety percent of the
time which creates a ton of tension because you're right in front of her
face and then she will likely close the other ten percent gap and release the
tension by kissing him the secret to a kiss
90% it away for how long long as it takes now make sure to let me know down
in the comments below which one of these is your favorite or most excited to try
out or that you have tried out and hopefully it worked really well or maybe
you have some other ways of going for the kiss that are really romantic or
create an awesome moment that you're down to share with everybody else hey
I'd like to hear it myself maybe I'll try it and while you're there
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conversation going so you don't run out of things to say and keep the
conversation flowing in a way that builds a lot of attraction and actually
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