Hey
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This video is about the monthly cycle
I'm not going to use any
names of body parts, I'm just gunna use the words "bleeding" and
monthly cycle
I'm also going to be talking about how it can effect people that
don't have their monthly cycle and would like it
first I'm going to talk about being dysphoric about having it
if you really cannot deal with the
reality of the proccess or whats happening
internally
you can kind of warp your perspective on it
or just make it a little bit easier to deal with
something that I found really helpful in the past was
imagining that I had a cut somewhere like on my leg
or something that
was causing this issue
and
it just made it a little bit easier to deal with
another thing you can do is just see it as a symbol of fatherhood
instead of motherhood
if that bothers you
there are men who carry children, and men who
have biological children via eggs
and stuff like that and just know that it's not
soley a female thing to have
also know that a lot of cis men bleed from their genitals
for a lot of different reasons
dealing with the physical aspects is a little bit different but there are a lot of things you can do to
ease the dysphoria from it
there are underwear liners, online and instore available for men
I will put a link to
some that I found on amazon
they're made for holding other fluids and
stuff like that.. so
I can imagine that they do help
there's also a brand called THNX
and I think their website is called SHETHNX
I don't know if I'm saying that right
they have
underwer that is specifically for
bleeding
there was a trans guy on that website who talked about
how
it's helped him and stuff like that
I just thought it was useful to know and informative
so I'll put the link to their website in the description as well
it might be worth looking into something called the mooncup
you've probably heard of it already but
it's basically just like a silicone cup
that is used in the same way as tampons
you don't have to buy gender specific packaging every month
you don't have to change it as often either
you can leave it for like.. 8 hours
it can be quite.. intimidating
when you first see it
or use it
But yeah..I can just imagine that it would be a lot more helpful
it's also cheaper in the end because you're paying for one product instead of one product every month
so I would really reccomend looking into that
and just know that
there are probably a lot of other guys that use them
so don't feel embarressed or ashamed if you have to
another thing you can do is set aside some self care nights for yourself
(or days) just around the same time
where you just do things that make you feel better about yourself
even small things like buying a hot water bottle that is marketed towards men
to ease cramping
and, um
I don't know.. drinking tea that is also marketted towards men
I know that kind of stuff is super gender specific
for me, I feel like
if I have a reminder that something was made for men and I'm using it, I feel better about myself
you can also ask your doctor whether there is something that can help
I don't want to put any suggestions out there incase they're not the right thing to use
but
yeah just go to your GP or doctor and ask if there's anything they can do to help
I know that the monthly cycle can be difficult for people that don't have it aswell
it's totally normal to feel like you
would like it or
feel like you're missing out by not having it
one thing to remember is that there is a lot of cis women who don't experience bleeding either
for a lot of different reasons
there are also a few physical things that you can do to help the dysphoria of not having it
setting aside self care nights again, is really helpful
you can set aside a couple days a month where you just really take care of yourself
whether that's like.. using a hot water bottle, drinking tea, buying chocolate and watching a movie in bed
I know it's like so stereotypical but
sometimes those things really help
there's also no shame in buying sanitary towels and being able to experience that aswell
I found a video a couple months ago and I think it's called
"how to stimulate
your monthly cycle" basically, for transwomen
I will put the link to that in the description and it might be really helpful aswell
just know that it's not weird
and it's totally normal to feel like you want to experience that aswell
more people are realising that it's not a gender specific thing
which is great
it might not be talked about that much but that's just because
people don't like talking about things that make them dysphoric all the time
you should always be able to find help in support groups
or on blogs
through youtube
or anything else
if you don't have someone to talk to about it, and really feel like you do need to talk about it, then you can message me
and we'll try and figure out something together
and find a way that helps alleviate some of your dysphoria about it
I hope everyone is doing well
I hope you're having a good day and week and month and everything
and yeah, I'll see you soon