My dear elegant ladies, welcome back to my channel.
Today's topic is a little bit provocative in terms of,
I usually do not use this word trashy,
but I didn't really know what else to name this video.
If you have any suggestions of good words that describes trashy,
but without having to use that word, let me know in the comments below.
But ultimately,
what we want to talk about are people or in our case,
we are focusing on women because my channel is all about helping women evolve
and become the best version of themselves. So in this case,
we actually have to think about women who are acting with poor,
how do you say? Women being of poor quality? No, you can't say that.
Women who are misbehaving, no.
Women who act with lack of class and manners? Well, yes,
but there's a bit more than just that. Anyway,
you all know what I tried to say when I say trashy. But again,
I don't like that word and simply because I almost feel like it's a bit of a sexist word.
And the reason for that is when we say that somebody is trashy,
usually, it's connected to a woman. We don't often say that a man is trashy.
Usually, a woman is trashy and that's what I don't like about this word,
and that's why I don't really use this word on my channel or in general.
So I would love if you can give me a suggestion of another word for trashy.
But anyway,
in this case we will go for this because I really want to go over some really
key aspects of what is it exactly that lowers the impression of somebody who
really seems to lack class and the correct behavior.
I'm not doing this video to offend anybody.
I am making this video so maybe some of you who have picked up certain
bad habits can recognize them and maybe correct them
so that you have better success in life, and better opportunity to reach your goals.
So let's go into number one and for me, a trashy person,
a trashy woman is somebody who is always too much.
And this being too much can be in many areas.
I know that we always think immediately being too much in terms of character or
dress too provocatively or too much and yes, partly.
I mean those things too,
but the human psychology is wired in the sense that whenever anything is of
too much quantity, it bothers us. It becomes,
I guess too much would be the right expression for it, but we don't like it.
We seem to like when things are more balanced,
so if somebody's wearing too much makeup, showing too much breast,
has too much attitude, has too many ticks,
there are so many things that can be too much.
We get put off by that and what happens is that these people might be absolutely wonderful.
If we're talking about a woman, she might be beautiful,
stunning and so on, but if there's much of things with her,
then this woman doesn't necessarily get the man that she deserves or get the man
she wants, or get the circle of friends that she wants to be surrounded with.
Obstacles occur and that's why I'm making this video for us to become a little
bit more aware of things that might be blocking us from own success.
So number one is being too much.
The number two is definitely a neighbor to being too much,
but here we're talking more about being an attention seeker. And of course,
we've all met those attention seekers and who knows?
Maybe we've even been one in the past. I know that in your 20s,
it's a very common age for being an attention seeker,
simply because it's an age where we want to be seen and we want to attract
the best possible mate for us,
and go on to adventures and somehow do a self discovery.
And it's definitely an age where we experiment a lot and we tend to want to
somehow the center of attention and stand out. But some people,
they somehow either stay in that phase or they overdue that phase.
Again, talking about being too much. For instance, there are some people,
and oftentimes it's actually psychological thing. They really need,
they crave, they're obsessed with having all eyes on them the entire time
being the center of attention.
If they go to a room filled with people,
they have to have the attention of everybody.
I think probably the worst is for men when they feel like a woman is so
desperate for their attention that she's willing to do anything,
anything to be seen and to get the man's attention and to be asked out by the
man or whatever it is that she wants to achieve.
And when women have this desperation in them,
it's obvious attention seeking. Women tend to go into the provocative mode,
starting to dance sexual on the dance floor,
making out with their girlfriend, dressing extremely,
skimpy. That's definitely a female version to attention seeking.
And it is very off putting to men.
Definitely one of the most common things that I've heard where men feel like,
"She's really beautiful, but I don't know, there's just,
it's a bit too much, you know?"
So ladies, it is so important that you are able to regulate that. Some of us,
we are naturally a little bit too much, a little bit too flamboyant,
a little bit too feminine, provocative, sexy,
whatever it is and we really have to be aware.
We really have to try and see ourselves from the third person's perspective.
And as soon as we know that, Oh my gosh,
I'm entering my role of letting out all that energy where it becomes a bit too much
and I become this person who was a bit attention-seeking.
When you can really be honest with yourself and admit to yourself.
So when you start working with this self-awareness,
that's when you actually can create change.
The problem is that few people can actually admit this to themselves because
it is a hard thing to admit that you are being too much,
that you are being an attention-seeker. Those are pretty harsh words,
but if you can do it, Oh my God,
you are in for a massive transformation in your life. Number three,
and I don't want to make some of you depress out there.
But this one is a little bit trickier to fix than number one and number two.
I'm talking about if you have bad taste. Now,
bad taste definitely can make any person out there trashy.
If you have bad taste, then you simply have bad taste. However,
the bad news is that majority of the times,
bad taste is simply inherited.
The people we surround ourselves with, those are the people we end up mimicking.
Those are the people we get inspired by.
Those are the people that we learn from. If for instance,
you come from a less elegant household where nobody was teaching you first of all
manners and etiquette, right? That's a given,
but also being role models for you in terms of how to dress and what to do to yourself,
and how to live your life and how to keep your home, and so on.
If you are brought up in an environment where things are in chaos and you dress
in the most shabby way,
and the most strangest way and you do certain things to yourself that maybe
other people would stop and look at you and think why.
If you are born into that type of environment, of course,
you are going to have a higher chance to inherit what I call a bad taste.
because you haven't seen anything else. You don't know anything else.
I mean certainly,
you have access to internet and magazines and you can see beautiful things there
and so on.
But if you are not fed with it in your own environment then it's really hard
sometimes to make that environment your own.
Now there are exceptions but I'm talking on a general level. The good thing,
however, even though that was a bit of bad news,
the good news is it can be changed.
It can be learned and you can definitely reprogram yourself at any point in life.
You can just start again with self-awareness,
again of searching for it, reaching out for it, being aware of it,
incorporating people who are perhaps role models in this department.
Maybe you can even attract people with good taste.
If you didn't grow up in a household with good taste,
then you can definitely create a circle of friends who have better taste and
they can inspire you and teach you.
Because all of this can be taught. I mean, after all,
I run an elite finishing school. This is exactly the things I'm teaching.
Number four,
this really belongs to a lot of women out there and you know,
we also have them in high society.
It's not necessarily only in other type of social classes. This is everywhere,
but it doesn't mean that every person in the affluent society is necessarily an
elegant person. Ladies,
I'm talking about that some of the most,
if we're going to use the word trashy in today's video,
one of the most trashy behaviors is being somebody who cannot live without drama
And I'm talking about those who are like,
you can almost see that that's what they live for.
That's like what they find the most exciting in life.
The people who love the drama, we have of course a few silent ones.
But oftentimes, this person likes to be heard, is opinionated,
really lives on gossiping and especially malicious gossip,
always like to talk about what happened there, what happened here.
You know all that drama, definitely watches reality trash TV.
If there is a physical fight,
this person has definitely been involved in at least one physical fight in her life.
She has definitely pulled out somebody extensions.
She has definitely had a total catfights.
But even if it wasn't physical,
this person is involved in drama on a regular basis and always fighting with
somebody. It's almost seems like drama seeks that person.
Although what's really happening is that that person is seeking drama because
that person cannot live without drama.
So if you are somebody and you're realizing that,
"Oh well actually yeah,
there's a lot of drama in my life."
Maybe it's not just by accident and the more
drama you fill your life,
the more you're actually procrastinating from other things that are more
productive, more fruitful,
things that will actually take you towards your goal. Because ultimately,
being involved in drama is actually just another way of procrastinating in your life
You're religiously entertaining yourself with pointless,
negative things that are doing nothing than just dragging you down,
keeping you on the bottom level of things.
I don't see any successful person who is actually involved in drama.
People who are successful, people who are of a certain caliber,
they don't have time for that and they don't even want to feel their energy
space or their head space with such useless thing.
I mean, if you think about it,
you have X amount of energy in your depot a day. Why?
Why would you dedicate,
let's say 30% of it on some stuff that doesn't even make sense or won't make
sense in the future? We should really be investing ourselves,
our time in the things that matter, in the things that take us forward in life,
not things that are dragging us back, holding us back,
making ourselves just like filled with all this
trash.
Today's topic is trash, so here we go.
No more drama.
Make 2020 your most drama-free year if you're somebody who has the drama tendency.
Lastly ladies and I am going to talk about number five and it might be a little
bit similar to drama, but you know, it's kind of the nature of it.
I'm talking about that whenever a person drinks too much,
that person does become trashy. And it doesn't matter again,
social class, where are you from, what's your name.
It's just the law of life. Certainly,
a lot of us can behave under the influence of alcohol,
but only when we are on the level of being just tipsy.
As soon as we climb up to being wasted,
that's when little miss trashy is coming out and making you regret things the next day.
I mean, there's a lot of physical and chemical reasons to why that happens,
but obviously ladies,
we end up doing things that we oftentimes are not proud of the next day.
If we are wasted, I'm talking now,
I'm not really talking about if we had a few drinks or if we are tipsy.
Some women really allow themselves to get drunk and I'm talking really drunk.
I must say though, it happens to all of us,
we all somehow end up drinking too much once in a blue moon,
especially if we haven't eaten properly or there's been a really long night.
But there are a certain types of women who simply cannot drink and they have to
get ridiculously drunk every time they drink or majority of the times,
to the point where they're so wasted,
they cannot behave properly and they really behave in a very,
very trashy way, and embarrass themselves.
I think if you're somebody who have that tendency,
you should definitely aim for an alcohol-free 2020. Because really,
if you are trying to elevate yourself and you're trying to reach a certain level,
do we really want to be that person or do we really want to reach the next level?
The answer lays within you and only you know what you should be doing to take
yourself in your transformation,
on your level up journey and just really make your dream life happen.
Only you can take that action and only you know what's really going to take you
there, ladies. The point of the story is exactly what I said in the beginning.
It's all about self-awareness. Self-awareness, when
you can be honest with yourself, when you can really admit to yourself,
"you know what? I did a mistake,
I'm going to fix it."
How did I come to all of these things and why am I so
passionate about transformation? Because certainly ladies,
I have done my share of mistakes. I wasn't born picture perfect.
I wasn't the way I am today.
This is something that I worked on over years. But you know what?
The thing that I was able to do is that I was always able to admit to myself,
but of having the courage of looking at yourself from an honest perspective and
say to yourself,
"It's not good, but I'm going to fix it."
That's when you become a doer and that's when you pull
yourself together, and that's when your life is going to start to happen.
And that's when you are going to start having success in this journey.
So ladies,
I hope you have enjoyed this video and I definitely encourage you to watch my
next video where I talk even more,
how you can make your dream life happen in 2020.