hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about seven dangerous
kinds of personality types now let's begin number one the constant controller our first dangerous
personality is a real pain in the neck they're nicknamed the constant controller because that's
exactly what they do they try to control everyone and everything they can get their
hands on even if it's none of their business they insert themselves where they just don't
belong they impose their beliefs their values and their morals onto other people and they
rain down guilds on anyone who comes up short now this controlling nature stems from their
very narrow perspective on the world constant controllers think there's a right and a wrong
way to live your life and they're convinced that they're doing it right so they sit on
their high horse and judge all the people who are living their lives differently whether it's
about the job you've chosen the place you live or the people you love constant controllers are
the first to criticize your choices but not all controllers are that forward and aggressive many
prefer subtle insults and backhanded compliments to get their point across in other words they're
notoriously passive-aggressive and they rarely stop until they feel like they've gotten their
point across but here's the really interesting thing about controllers they spend so much time
criticizing others but rarely take responsibility for their own problems instead they pass the blame
and they make wild claims about how the world is out to get them because they refuse to admit
they might be wrong so how should you manage the constant controller in your life well it's hard
to say but I'll tell you this if you're trying to change them you're barking up the wrong tree
controllers don't listen to anybody especially people they think they're better than so really
the best thing you can do is to take them with a grain of salt don't let their harsh comments hurt
your feelings and don't waste your time trying to please them these judgemental people will always
be judgmental so never let them change who you are number two the roller coaster our next personality
type isn't just frustrating they're incredibly toxic if you spend too much time with a roller
coaster it can destroy your self-esteem and leave you feeling absolutely miserable so what makes
this personality type so dangerous well roller coasters think of themselves as very special
people their gifts to the world they're princesses or kings many roller coasters think they're doing
you a favor just by speaking to you because in their mind you only have one responsibility and
that is to satisfy their every need so it's really no surprise that roller coasters are
needy demanding and cruel but that's not where the nickname roller coaster comes from this
dangerous personality type is notorious for their volatility all right let's say for example that
your partner is a roller coaster one second they might adore you they might love everything about
you but suddenly just 10 seconds later everything changes they start attacking and criticizing you
yelling about how you're ruining their life roller coasters swing between intense highs and intense
lows and they stir up drama everywhere they go but that doesn't mean you should simply go along for
the ride if you have a roller coaster in your life make sure you set firm boundaries and you stick to
them if you let them push you around your dynamic is going to get more and more one-sided and that
can really take its toll on your life number three the vampire vampires suck the fun out of
everything they do because they hate everything they do they're always looking for reasons to be
negative reasons to complain or make others feel bad if you spend too much time with a vampire you
may lose interest in your own passions because they're consistent negativity ruins your fun just
imagine you love eating at a certain restaurant you've been eating there for years you know
everyone that works there and you love everything on the menu but one day you show the restaurant
to your friend you're so excited to eat at your favorite spot but they can't stop talking about
how bad the food looks they say things like how can you eat this or why would anyone pay for
something this bad won't that negativity change your opinion even though you love that restaurant
before you might feel ashamed of it now luckily there's one easy way to deal with a vampire try
to remember that they're consistently negative opinions don't dictate your own so stand up for
the things that you enjoy if it's good enough for you hey that's all that matters number four the
gift giver of all the personality types on this list the gift giver may be the least destructive
but it still creates a subtle toxic dynamic which can damage any relationship in the long
run at the core of any gift giver is a heaping helping of insecurities gift givers are insecure
about themselves they're insecure about their relationships and they're constantly looking
for reasons to doubt the people in their lives in other words gift givers don't have confidence in
the connections they make they struggle with faith and trust so they go out of their way to prove
their worth if for example they'll use extravagant presence and big gestures to keep people around
now on the surface gift givers seem kind and considerate but in reality these gifts create
a lot of tension because gift givers always expect some huge reaction in return but most of the time
they end up disappointed which strengthens their insecurities and starts this toxic cycle all over
again if you know a gift giver just let them know how important they are to you and make
sure they know that your feelings aren't for sale it may take a bit of time but eventually
these affirmations can ease their insecurities and relieve some of that unnecessary pressure
number five the time bomb we all know someone with a short temper whether it's your friend or
your crazy uncle we've all seen the damage that a quick temper can do in a fit of anger you lose the
ability to think clearly you start making rash decisions and you do and say things that you
regret but why are these people so angry in the mind of a time bomb anger may be the only answer
time bombs typically lack emotional maturity and emotional intelligence so they have a limited
emotional range which makes it difficult to work through problems internally instead their emotions
explode outward everything from sadness to embarrassment the disappointment comes out looking
like the same thing anger just think about it this way how often do you eat cereal maybe a few times
a week for breakfast but how often do you eat food several times every day right okay what if every
time you were hungry cereal was the only thing you could eat you'd be eating cereal constantly
right that's what's happening here anytime you trigger a negative emotion time bombs always
feel anger leaving their real feelings jumbled up inside their head now if this sounds like someone
you know there's a few things you should avoid first of all never match their anger fighting back
is just going to escalate the situation and push their temper further out of control secondly you
can use your space to your advantage if they're getting angry just take a break get some air and
give them some room to breathe these personality types do have a quick fuse but if you give them a
chance to calm down most will realize what they did wrong number six the mooch this dangerous
personality type is a master manipulator they're not afraid to take advantage of everyone they know
because they only care about their own personal gain they won't hesitate to make demands or take
things from you because they think they deserve it much like the roller coaster personality type
of mooch has a bloated sense of importance they believe they're better than everyone else and
they get insulted when people don't understand how special they are now naturally that giant
ego breeds things like arrogance self-absorption and narcissism in fact many mooches are proud of
their selfishness and they spend time bragging about how manipulative they can be if you have
a mooch in your life boundaries are your best friend no matter how much pressure a mooch puts
on you don't let them get their way because they'll just keep asking for more number seven
the scaredy-cat our last personality type will do anything to avoid their problems scaredy cats
have an excuse for everything because they're terrified of facing their fears even if it's
something small like trying a new food or visiting a new place every tiny bump in the road becomes
a giant hurdle in their life and that hurdle may take years to get over now while scaredy
cats aren't directly dangerous they can be a huge burden because they make you tackle their problems
for them they're too scared to do things on their own so you get stuck picking up the slack now but
here's the worst part they rarely ever realize or acknowledge how much they rely on others in other
words don't expect to thank you anytime soon so how do you deal with a scaredy cat well you
stop doing everything for them you forced them to either face their fears or suffer the consequences
every time you save them you're supporting this terrible habit because you're giving them a way
out instead give them an opportunity to change encourage them motivate them and help them build
their confidence and that way they can finally start facing their fears on their own hey thank
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