>>> BACK, NOW, AT 8:40. YOUR CALENDAR IS FILLED WITH
BACKYARD BARBECUES AND BEACH VACATIONS.
>> SOMETIMES THE FUN TIMES CAN LEAD TO AWKWARD SOCIAL
SITUATIONS. SO, MR. MANNERS, THOMAS
FARRELLY, IS HERE, AND HE'S GOING TO HELP US WORK THROUGH
UNCOMFORTABLE ENCOUNTERS. GOOD MORNING.
>> GOOD MORNING. >> WE ALL HAVE A SERIES OF
ANECDOTES AND YOU TELL US WHAT WE SHOULD DO.
THE FIRST ONE IS, YOU'RE ON VACATION, YOU HAVE A BEACH HOUSE
FOR AFOR A WEEK WITH OTHER COUP AND THEY HAVE KIDS.
EVERYONE GETS ALONG GREAT. BUT THERE'S ONE GUY OR GAL WHO
DOESN'T PITCH IN. JUST DOESN'T HELP, DOESN'T DO
ANYTHING. WHAT DO YOU DO?
>> WE'RE GOING TO CALL HIM SLOBY STEVE.
MAYBE YOU ONLY LIKE THE ONE SPOUSE BUT YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH
THE OTHER SPOUSE, AS WELL. IF YOU'VE GONE ON VACATION
BEFORE, CREATE A SPREAD SHEET WITH WORK CHORES.
>> YES. >> AND THAT EVERYBODY SIGN UP.
POST IT IN THE KITCHEN. THERE'S NO SHIRKING THE DUTIES.
YOU HAVE TO PITCH IN. WHAT WORKS FOR YOU AT HOME IS
FINE. BUT ON VACATION WITH FRIENDS,
EVERYBODY NEEDS TO PITCH IN. >> I WOULD REPRESS IT.
I DO -- I WOULD BE DOING STEVE'S CHORES.
>> I'M DO IT, STEVE. >> LET'S MOVE IT TO ONE HERE
WITH PARENTS LOOKING TO FILL THE DAYS WITH KIDS.
PLAY DATES ARE POPULAR. SOMETIMES A PARENT WILL DROP
THEIR CHILD OFF AND SAY SEE YOU AT THE END OF THE DAY?
IS THAT OKAY? >> LEAVE THEM ALL DAY LARRY.
NOT COMPLETELY UNACCEPTABLE. YOUR CHILD IS NOT A COAT THAT
YOU LEAVE AT THE DRY CLEANER TO PICK UP WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE.
A COUPLE OF HOURS, FIVE HOURS IS RIDICULOUS.
YOU NEED TO PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN. >> UNLESS YOU SAID UM FRONT, I
NEED SOME HELP TODAY. >> DIFFERENT STORY.
>> SUMMERTIME, GOOD TIME FOR REUNIONS.
LET'S SAY IT'S GIRLS GET AWAY. ONE FRIEND IS WEASELING OUT OF
PAYING. HOW DO YOU FIGURE OUT A WAY TO
GET HER TO CHIP IN? >> DO WE HAVE A NAME FOR HER?
>> YOU KNOW IT. IT'S CHEAP SKATE CINDY.
>> SHE CAN DRINK, TOO. >> SHE CHIPS IN, SAYING I ONLY
HAD A SODA. HERE, WE LOVE ALL-INCLUSIVE
VACATIONS. SO, DO A DIY VERSION OF THAT.
HERE'S OUR BUDGET. EVERYONE, THIS IS YOUR SHARE.
YOU PAY UP FRONT AND THERE'S NO PULLING OUT THE WALLET EVERY
TIME AND NO AWKWARDNESS. >> SUMMER OFFICE PARTIES.
GET TOGETHERS. THEY'RE CO-WORKERS, THOUGH.
IN OUR CASE, IT'S DIFFERENCE. BUT A LOT OF WORK ENVIRONMENTS,
YOU'RE NOT THE CLOSEST OF FRIENDS.
WHAT'S THE PROPER ATTIRE? >> IT'S IMPORTANT TO BE ABLE TO
LOOSEN UP A LITTLE BIT. >> SHOULD I WEAR A BIKINI?
>> I THINK YOU SHOULD WAX FIRST. >> DONE AND DONE.
>> I WOULD NOT RECOMMEND THAT. IF YOU HAVE A VAVOOM VILMA --
>> THESE ARE GETTING BETTER. >> YOU WANT TO BE AWARE THAT
THIS IS THE IMPRESSION THAT PEOPLE ARE GOING TO CARRY AWAY
FROM YOUR PARTY. TEST OUT YOUR SWIMSUIT.
TEST IT OUT IN ADVANCE. WEAR IT IN YOUR SHOWER AT HOME,
SO YOU SEE WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE WET.
>> WOW. >> THAT'S A LOT OF RESEARCH.
>> ESPECIALLY IF IT'S A NEW SWIMSUIT.
>> DOES VAVOOM VILMA DO THIS? >> SHE DOESN'T CARE.
>> TEN WOMEN NAMED VILMA WERE JUST HIRED ACROSS THE COUNTRY.
>> THIS BRINGS UP A GOOD POINT, BECAUSE SUMMERTIME WORK.
WE KNOW THAT SUN DRESSES ARE IN AND SANDALS.
WHAT IF YOU HAVE A CO-WORKER THAT DRESSES LIKE A BEACH
VACATION. >> ONE OF THE THINGS I HEAR, IS
SO MANY WORKPLACES ARE AT BUSINESS CASUAL, PEOPLE DON'T
KNOW WHAT THE DRESS CODE IS. IT'S NOT UP TO YOU TO DICTATE
SOMEONE ELSE'S DRESS CODE. LET H.R. TAKE CARE OF IT.
IT'S NOT YOUR DUTY. >> I'M FOR THAT.
DON'T CONFRONT.