I was 18 years old when I got married I
Belonged to a very conservative family a Baloch family. We're good daughters. Never say no to their parents
My father wanted me to get married and all I said was if that makes you happy
I'll say yes, and of course it was never a happy marriage
Just about after two years of getting married. I made a car accident
Somehow my husband fell asleep and the car fell in the ditch
He managed to jump out saved himself I'm happy for him
But I stayed inside the car
And I sustained a lot of injuries list is a bit long radius Allah off my right arm were fractured
the wrist was fractured shoulder
Bone and collarbone were fractured my whole ribcage got fractured. I couldn't breathe but that injury that changed me and my life
Completely was the spine injury many people came to rescue
They gave me CPR. They dragged me out of the car and while they were dragging me out
I got the complete transection of my spinal cord those two and a half months in the hospital were dreadful I
Was at the words of despair one day doctor came to me?
And he said well, I heard that you wanted to be an artist, but you ended up being a housewife
I have a bad news for you
You won't be able to paint again next day doctor came to me and said your spine injury is so bad
You won't be able to walk again. I
took a deep breath and
I said it's all right
The way today doctor came to me and said because of your spine injury and the fixation that you have in your back
You won't be able to give birth to a child again that day. I was devastated and
That is where I started to question Mannix distance. Why am I even alive?
One day I asked my brothers
I know I have a deformed hand
But I'm tired of looking at these white walls in the hospital and wearing these white scrubs
Bring me some colors bring me some small canvas. I want to paint so the very first painting
I made was on my deathbed where I painted for the very first time
What an amazing therapy it was without uttering a single word I could paint my heart out. I could share my story
People used to come and say what lovely painting so much color
Nobody could see the grief in it only I could
And that day I decided that I'm going to live life for myself. I am NOT going to
Be that perfect person for someone. I am just going to take this moment and I will make it perfect for myself
But I'm going to fight my fears
I wrote down one by one all those fears, and I decided that I'm going to overcome these fears one at a time
you know what was my biggest fear divorce, but the day I decided that this is nothing, but my fear I
liberated myself by setting him free
And I made myself emotionally so strong there the day I got the new that he is getting married. I sent him a text and
I'm so happy for you, and I wish you all the best and he knows that I pray for him today
Number two was I won't be able to be a mother again, and that was quite devastating for me
But then I realized there are so many children in the world all they want is acceptance
So there is no point of crying just go and adopt one and that's what I did
I gave my name in different organizations different orphanages and I waited patiently
Two years later. I got this call from a very small city in Pakistan
I got a call and they said are you mineva, Missouri?
There is a baby boy and would you like to adopt I could literally feel the labor pains yes
Yes, I am going to adopt him. I am coming to take him home and
That day I was 2 years old two days old and today. He's six. Do you know where you end up being on the wheelchair?
What's the most painful thing?
people think that there will not be accepted by the people because we in
The world of perfect people are imperfect so I decided to appear more in public
I started to paint I've done a lot of modeling campaigns
I decided that I'm going to join the national TV of Pakistan as an anchorperson
And now I speak for the rights of women children. I was featured in BBC hundred women for 2015
I'm one of the Forbes 30 under 30 for
2016 so when you accept yourself the way, you are the world
recognizes you
It all starts from within
We have this
Amazing fantasy about life. This is how things should work. This is my plan. It should go as per my plan
if that doesn't happen
We give up. I never wanted to be on the wheelchair
Never thought of being on the wheelchair
this life is a test and a trial and tests are never supposed to be easy so when you are expecting ease from life and
Life gives you lemons, then you make the lemonade and then do not blame life for that. It is okay to be scared
It is okay to cry
Everything is okay, but giving up should not be an option
They always say that failure is not an option
Failure should be an option because when you fail you
Get up, and then you fail, and then you get up and that keeps you going
That's how humans are strong?
Don't die before your name
We all die
Embrace each and every breath that you are taking celebrate your life
Live it be kind to yourself and only then you can be kind to others real happiness lies
Gratitude so be grateful to be alive and live every moment
Choose so much everyone, thank you