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Ton of stuff. This is self development 101 right here. This is learning how to really love ourselves
This is learning how to be emotionally and mentally healthy, which I think everyone could use a dose of that
In this day and age that we live in with all the stress and the things that go on
in the world today learning how to really be able to take care of yourself emotionally and mentally is
So unbelievably important and it's something that unfortunately we don't learn how to really do for ourselves growing up
So this channel is here to help you do that. So this week I want to get into
Being in a relationship with someone who is an empath and if you're watching this chances
Are you are the empath?
and maybe not maybe you are married to someone or in a relationship with someone that they know that they're in pathetic highly empathetic and
You want to just basically be the best partner you can be for this person
And so learning about what an empath is is really important
but if you're in a relationship chances
Are you kind of know these traits that your partner has but I want to go over
really the key things that you have to focus on being the partner of someone who is an empath now like with all
relationships really understanding who your partner is and respecting them for who they are and
Valuing the things that they that they are within themselves and bring to the table is really really essential to have a healthy
Harmonious happy relationship, right? I always say that the number one thing in any relationship is respect
If you don't respect who the person is, you're not going to communicate. Well, you're not going to be loyal. You're not gonna be faithful
You're not gonna want to work on the relationship because you don't value who this person is
So when you learn about your partner and you understand, okay, my partner is an empath and okay
I know what an empath is but understanding that
these are the things that this person means in order for them to be the healthiest person that they can be and
Understanding that someone who is an impact is not a diagnosis. It's not a mental illness. It's a trait. It's not an illness
it's something that they were born to be so just like
You were born, you know with brown eyes and and that's a trait that you have someone who is an impact
That's a trait as well. It was built in them from birth
It wasn't something that they learned it wasn't a scar that they have now. It's just who they are innately
So this first thing that you really have to love and respect about your partner is that they need their alone time
When I tell you I'm in a path and one of the things that I need to give to myself is
quality time by myself
I very rarely turn the TV on I almost need to be in silence so I can just kind of like decompress
When I was younger and I would get out of school. I would immediately go to school and just go home
I was never the kid that wanted to go out after school
I needed to go home and relax and like decompress from the day because the day was cluttered with noises
And activities and people talking and I had to focus and it was just a lot of energy that was always around me
And so in order for me to really take care of myself growing up. I just learned that that's what I needed
I needed that alone time and I think that
When you're in a young adult or a teenager, you can get that right but when you get involved in a relationship
It's not just about you and I feel like sometimes your partner if they don't really
Understand how much you need this will get upset by you wanting that time for yourself or wanting that alone time?
because if you're dealing if you're if you're an empath and you're in a relationship with someone who's possibly a little
Insecure or codependent themselves and needy they don't want you to have you're here a long time, right?
They don't really understand why you need to get away from them. And it's nothing personal it has nothing to do with anyone else
It's just what we need to be able to take care of our themselves
So understanding that your partner at times might need to go meditate
they might need to go do acupuncture or whatever it is that they do to kind of calm themselves and center themselves and really
Refuel like that alone time their ability to recharge their energy
The next thing is when you are having a argument or you know a discussion with an empath
Understand that they can get overwhelmed very easily. So unless you're dealing with an empath
So for me, I used to always get overwhelmed
It would be a lot especially if I had to go toe-to-toe with someone who was very like a strong personality
I would a hundred percent
get very
exhausted and overwhelmed and I would shut down and I just didn't even know how to handle the
Situation now that also hat for me personally
I'd also had to do with some like emotional wounds that I had and and
Not as much confidence in myself and self-love and knowing how to take care of myself when I'm dealing with certain personalities
but I think regardless
that most impasse across the board whether they know how to handle confrontation or not do get very
Exhausted when there's a lot of back-and-forth and they can get overwhelmed in
Conversations and they kind of always need to take a step back so they can like regroup and kind of understand like, okay
You know, what? Do I want to get out of this like what's happening?
It's just it's their ability to almost like take a step back and declutter from all the stuff that's going on in our minds. So
Respecting that and also helping the person, you know
The impact be confident in themselves and maybe even help them through that and recognizing
Hey, I can sense you're getting overwhelmed right now
Like why don't we just take a minute and and not having to always have the empath do that?
because like I said
If you're dealing with an impact, that doesn't know how to handle
Confrontation or how to handle themselves sometimes and they get overwhelmed and they shut down
Your ability to help them through that and teach them how do you kind of either hold on to themselves or?
learn how to you know
What do you need to do when you get overwhelmed like do you need to just take a step back? Let's just do that
let's take a breather and and you know not just pounce and want to get a you know a
Resolution from this argument or this discussion right away
Being respectful and knowing your partner well enough to say I think we just need a minute
even if you're fine just being able to sense that in your partner and putting that person first I think is
Absolutely, beautiful
and it's something that would really help an empath and not just an empath it would even help just
Your relationship in general to just kind of diffuse like the tension that's going on right now and just separate for a minute
So you both can kind of collect your thoughts
the next thing that you should really understand about an empath is not only do they get overwhelmed in like
conversational situations right like an empath
Isn't always the person that's the social butterfly
They can absolutely be a social person but they're not a person that's probably gonna be in or want to be in a social environment
for a very very very long period of time so someone who has to
You know be at a party and schmoozing and talking to others or being in a really crowded
Environment like it may not be the most beneficial to them. Not that they can't ever do it or can't do it at all
It's just it depends on how long they can be in there and be fully engaged
so I always say like this is where I can dip my toe in that pool and I can be that person and I can
Be social and I can be in a crowded place and not get overwhelmed with all the energy and things that are going on
But I also need to recognize
Okay, like my time is kind of up and I might stretch myself here and there to kind of you know
If I'm with a group or from with another person and they really want to be there
I might you know, obviously compromise but at the end of the day when I know that I need to take a step back
So I'm getting really drained and exhausted
I have to be able to be honest with myself and my partner and have my partner not be upset
every single time that I bring this to them
I remember being in a relationship once where I
would be in social settings with this person and
I would kind of like hit my threshold and there were times where I definitely like pushed it even further I said, okay
I'm getting really overwhelmed or I'm getting really drained and exhausted right now, but I'm gonna stay because this person's having a good time
I love them and I want to obviously, you know compromise as well
And then there were times where when I did voice my opinion. I was immediately
constantly made to feel bad about myself because this is who I was and
So that just goes to show that you should always go off how you feel in a relationship. You should always feel
Understood and respect it
And even if the person doesn't like it always
that they know that this is you and that they value you and that they they don't want you to be in an environment that
Isn't comfortable and harmonious for you, right if you're not happy. I always look at it
Like if I'm if you're not happy
then I'm not happy either like I want you to be content and at peace and not overwhelmed and anxious and
Like I said, it's a compromise there were times where I kind of put myself out there even more to you
Don't be there for that person because I knew that person wanted to be there, but then I never felt that in return
I always felt like there was something wrong with me when I would say, you know
I don't always want to be in these types of environments and it's just because we were two different people
so I think that how you can help your partner through that is just by understanding this person understanding when they get overwhelmed and
Respecting them for who they are
I think one of the really helpful things that you can ever do for someone who is empathetic is
To bring light to the relationship for someone who can pick up so many
different energies and
you know when you're a
Feeling sad and down it is going to affect your empath like it just is so I'm not saying don't be human and ever go
through anything difficult
but just know that when you go through something the minute you've kind of moved past it your empath is probably just
Taking that on and and or they're just dealing with what they had to go through a while you were going through a difficult time
just like any relationship but for someone who is in pathetic, it is very different because
It's something that I think a lot of us who aren't empaths wish that we could kind of turn off at times
but we can't and so
understanding that when we watch something on the news when we watch a movie like we get overwhelmed we get very
Into the movie and it can actually cause us to feel really sad depressed
Overwhelmed anxious these things affect us on a much deeper level. So respecting your partner
Like I said throughout the course of this video
for who they are and understand then they get overwhelmed when they hear things when they see things and
but on the flip side one of the things that is so beautiful about at least I think for being an empath is that
Because we have this deep ability to feel we are
Extremely extremely giving and caring and I know I am a giving and caring person and sometimes it's to a fault sometimes
In the past. I mean I had I didn't put myself first which is something that empath struggle with. Um,
but you know for these things that we have to deal with in life being able to take on so much and
all of these energies affecting us and us feeling
Emotionally drained every single day and how do we really balance that and take care of ourselves?
the good that comes up being in a relationship with someone like this is
When they're in there all in they look extremely
Hard extremely deep they're completely loyal and faithful
And they are such caring giving people. I always say that it really takes a very very
strong and secure person in order to really love someone who's an impact because
You have to look at this person and value
everything that makes them who they are and I always think that at times it can be
difficult to love someone who's empathetic because there are certain things about ourselves that we
Don't often love, you know
I don't often love that I get so exhausted or that I take on other people's stuff as if it was my own
And it affects me in such a way
I wish that wasn't always the case, but there are so many beautiful things that I really really love about myself
And I'm so glad that I'm an empath
I mean heck I wouldn't be a coach if I wasn't an empath I think it it it is my calling and I think that
it's my calling because I am someone who's so highly apathetic and I want to help people the people that are the impacts in the
World are the healers
They are the people that are there not all but are the nurses and the doctors
and the creative people and the people that want to bring light and harmony and joy to the world and so those are the
Those are the people that are really helping this world. And so we have to value that within that person
so to really love someone you have to
see who they are when they sometimes forget and you have to see all the value that they bring to the relationship when
When at times they're going through something really difficult because they aren't empathetic
so I hope you guys have enjoyed this video and I hope it taught you just a little bit more about the impact in your
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