I'm gonna explain it in this video
as well as giving you tips on how to
actually leave the narcissist in this video.
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So why doesn't the narcissist believe that you will ever leave?
Well, because they started conditioning
you right from the beginning
when they started love bombing you.
They love-bombed you.
They came on super strong.
They were very charming and charismatic and
personable and they swept you off your feet.
I'm talking about whether it was a business
relationship or a personal relationship.
I found myself in a business relationship with a narcissist,
a covert passive- aggressive narcissist who
love-bombed me into being in a business partnership
and this was after I had become a very
successful attorney and everything else,
and I ended up into this relationship with this person.
So, you know, you end up in these relationships and you think,
how in the hell did I get here?
And you end up thinking “oh my gosh.”
You know, am I going crazy?
And and you feel paranoid and powerless
and they they still in their delusional mind,
even though they're horrible
and heinous to you and and they act aggressive
or passive- aggressive and they
treat you awful for whatever reason,
they don't think you'll leave and
and I'm gonna tell you why
because you don't
for a long time, many times.
They see that they've gotten away with things.
That's how they see that you are a good
source of supply from the beginning
once you're locked in because
you know, they get you to that
point of locking you in very quickly
and that's what happens with
narcissist most of the time.
You know, whether it's a business relationship
or a personal relationship if they wanna get to that
next level as quickly as possible.
Move in together, sign contracts, you know,
be in partnership, get married, you know,
whatever it is.
Let's get to that next step
as quickly as possible to lock you in and then
you're locked in and then once they do lock you in,
then they start getting cold.
You know, it's hot and cold,
hot and cold,
and they start to go do or they start to not
do things that they're supposed to do.
You start to see those red flags
and you start to question things,
and now all of a sudden,
it's your fault, you are the problem,
we talked about that and you agreed what?
We never talked about that.
And now you start to see that they're
maybe doing things behind your back
and things aren't adding up
and you're starting to question things and you ask
them about things and now they're projecting,
they're deflecting.
You're catching them in lies
and all of these things start to happen.
Yet you stay in the relationship even
though you're seeing these things happen.
They know that you've continued to stay
even though these things are happening
and even though you maybe threatened to leave.
You know, sometimes maybe even you
do leave or whatever but you come back
and then they future fake you
or things are gonna be so much better.
You'll see and and you go,
okay, and you listen to it,
or they might apologize and you say,
“Okay.’’
And by the way, I have a whole video on
you know,
what does a narcissist mean when they apologize
but you should definitely check that out.
You know, it's like they're full apologies
and then you listen to these apologies and you say,
‘‘Okay’’
and you stay through that.
You know, so then they assume
after a while that they have you.
That you're gonna listen to it.
That they have this control over
almost like a or something.
that you will continue to listen to them,
to be controlled by them that at some
point even though you'll get mad,
that you'll be unhappy that they can
yoyo their way back into their web,
back into their lair,
getting you to believe them again,
or that they can guilt you their
or harass you their or scare you there or control
you there or whatever it is that they need to do.
It's just scoop you back in to their web of
control because they've been able to do it before.
So they just assume that they're going to be able to do it again
and that's why they don't believe that you'll ever leave
because they've been able to keep
you into that web of control thus far.
So I just want you to put in the comments right now
‘‘I’M STRONG!’’
because you are strong and I've said this many,
many times before form and
it's definitely worth repeating.
The narcissist is definitely way more
afraid of you than you are of them.
You are the stronger one.
They did not attach themselves to
you because you had so little value.
They attached themselves to you because you have so much.
That's why they need you.
They need you way more than need them.
They've made you believe that the otherwise,
that's the big trick
That's the big paradox.
That's the funny thing about it.
That's the irony about it.
They don't want you to ever figure that out
but that's the truth of it. Okay?
They think ifthey're if they
have a big enough tantrum.
They you know, you're gonna give it
but you know, at some point,
you can look at them having that tantrum and say,
you know what? I'm not moved
by your tantrum anymore
and I want my life back.
So no thanks
and you can't use my emotions to control
me anymore and I'm done with this.
I'm done and that's what ended up happening
with me in my business relationship,
and that's what ends up happening
with everybody in these relationships,
and that's what's gonna end up happening with you too
and it's time for you to take your life back
and be done with this web of toxicity.
The way you start is right now saying,
I'm done.
I'm strong and
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You know, they only win if you give in.
Right?
And you can definitely do this.
Alright?
So I will definitely see all of you guys in the next video.
Just keep on keeping on and remember that today
is a great day to start negotiating your best life
because you definitely got this do not give in you can SLAY this.
Alright.
Prove them wrong. Okay?
See you guys in the next video.