License and registration please.
"Officer, I just pulled..." LICENSE and registration please!!
cops are notorious for commanding
respect intimidation and controlling a
situation in today's video I'm gonna
teach you all the sneaky techniques that
they employ against you
I'm Barron Cruz welcome to the charisma
matrix
think about the last time you got pulled
over by a cop
how did it feel in fact if you're open
had a little fun in the comments below
leave a comment that says last time I
got pulled over by a cop I felt maybe
you felt like he had a lot of control in
this situation maybe you felt
supplicated like you had no control at
all and it's not because cops are born
these master influencers in fact there's
very simple techniques that they employ
to come across this way that I'm going
to teach you in this video I'm gonna
start by talking about the overarching
techniques and then at that and i'm
going to give you a couple kind of slide
tricks that they use that once you're
able to understand it will prevent
people from using them against you but
also enable you to use them in your own
life when you see fit
alright so the way this is going to be
structured as i'm going to give the
technique I'm going to show you an
example of what it would look like in
real life and then going to break down
the reason that they're doing this
technique what are they accomplishing by
employing this technique the first thing
they do is when they ask you to do
something or ask you a question if you
don't directly comply or succinctly
state an answer
they're going to talk over you by simply
repeating the question with a more
authoritative powerful tone you saw this
in the beginning of the intro i asked
again for the license and registration
so let's look at example of what this
looks like license and registration
please officer mr. license and
registration please
alright another spin on this technique
is when you do answer their question but
not directly and you dragged off and do
an excuse they don't want to your Excuse
they don't want to waste the time and
the more you're talking in the less
they're talking the better it is for you
so they're going to cut you off in your
tracks let's look at an example of what
that looks like
do you know how fast you were traveling
going over this
that's exactly right you're traveling
over the posted speed limit now hold
tight water run your information
okay the reason for this technique why
are they doing this
well anytime anyone successfully talks
over another person
it establishes dominance over that
person will be social dominance physical
dominance it implies all of these
different things because the person who
is getting talked over doesn't stand up
for themselves doesn't continue to talk
doesn't not allow them from talking over
them is acting in submission so all of
these different things that I'm going to
use I want you to imagine in the wild
where there's two bucks and it's mating
season and they're all very aggressive
and they're going against each other
when one but comes in and cracks him and
the other one just kind of backs down a
little bit of submission
that's what happens once each of these
tactics or employees successfully the
person that the officer is talking to is
going more and more into submission
which means they're going to be less
likely to challenge anything he says
they're going to set except his role of
authority now everyone knows police of
men have authority but in each specific
interaction the officer wants to
establish that authority to be sure that
it's not on deaf ears to be sure that
you understand his authority in that
situation even though it's implied by
their position within the government
within the country in the US and other
countries he wants to reaffirm that in
every portion of the interaction which
is going to prevent your push back and
make things much smoother for him now
let's look at this as an example in the
business world who typically talks over
another person
well the boss or someone who is superior
the organization typically feels
comfortable doing that with other people
with subordinates not the best managers
won't do that because they respect
people at all levels but you'll see
people who strive on positional power
that they will do that to reexamine
their authority
the next technique that is used is a
mindset and the mindset is always remain
cold in every situation as someone else
say they pull over a citizen and they're
talking with them as they get more
worked up and the officer stays calm and
cool it's a sign of confidence and why
is this
it's because people who have confidence
and high social value they don't respond
to emotional stimulus like other people
they're in control of the remote
no ecosystem so people were low status
when they see somebody get amped up and
their emotions get the best of them they
will get amped up as well you're not
responding emotionally showing control
over the situation showing dominance
over the other person you know people
who lose control their emotions are
basically showing that there's a lower
level there's no reason they will
respond to this officer to anyone else
with an emotional feel unless they feel
like they're higher value or higher
social power or a more powerful position
them think about it everyday life
let's say that some bum you're walking
on the street the bums like you got a
quarter like know is that shirt sucks
you're not going to think twice about it
but someone that you respect let's say
you go to a book signing and your
favorite authors there
ok I'm glad you stopped by a here's a
signature anything special going to
write in it whether that shirt sucks
you're going to be thinking what what's
going on here to think about that
because you're gonna have emotional
reaction to someone you respect you
admire you think has authority and power
so they're gonna stay calm in every
instance now little side note the most
important time for them to do this is
when they're in crowds because when
there are crowds and they're outnumbered
you need to stay calm because the minute
the crowd feels the officers like you
see this a riot control getting out of
control their own emotions their group
and the riders are more likely to attack
so they're gonna stay very calm all the
way to the end if a ride ever does lose
control people do breach conduct an
attack whatever you want to call it
they're gonna stay calm and cool the
whole it's very important for crowd
control and it's also important how
other people pick up on your state you
as an authoritative position whatever
you're feeling other people are going to
feel so buy them keeping nice and calm
and cool they're basically laying a
level and heir of fog of comb on
everyone around them as well as exerting
their authority dominance and social
status police officers are going to use
very slow deliberate and control body
language think of a silverback gorilla
in the wild in the zoo last time you saw
one the Alpha the one that leads the
pack is always very chill he's
moving slowly he's got low corazon
cortisol the stress hormone and he's not
reacting to anyone else he's not a hurry
he's not just because this guy's running
around like an idiot over he's not going
to pick up on that run around he's very
calm and cool slow deliberate motions it
kind of has to do with that comb thing i
just talked about but more importantly
it shows you're not in a rush for anyone
else you're in control you're taking
your time just because he's got pulled
you pull over on the side of the road
he's not worried about your toilet for a
meeting
he's writing a little bit slower be
showing that he has control by utilizing
his is is I guess ability to keep you
not against your will but against what
you would like to do actually can give
you against your will a lot of instances
so he's gonna flex that authority just
to put in your face so you know he's in
control you're in a big hurry he's not
at all he's moving slowly deliberate
head movements not in a rush at all this
has a big impact on how your
communication and what you're saying is
perceived if I'm telling you right now
hey you know how fast you go over there
versus you know how fast you're
traveling you're slowing it down
I'm with facial movements are a lot less
your coal and your calmness and you're
slow movements show themselves in your
voice because when you're tense your
voice gets a little higher get some more
nasally when you're calm
you sound much more authoritative
because it's communicating what you're
feeling in your body out so officers
communicating its strength is calm when
he's making slow movements he's relaxed
and he's acting like the silverback
gorilla in the y now the next thing that
officers gonna do is he's going to exert
as much pressure socially and
authoritative pressure on you as
possible
how does he do that by squaring up to
you and looking you just like this
how does this feel compared to what I'm
kind of off the side talking like this
no yesterday going good
license registration vs how's your day
going
license and registration please when you
square to somebody to exert so much
pressure so they're gonna be square to
you and they're gonna have a wide stance
their feet are going to be wide it look
some more solid it gives off to someone
else's subconscious that they're in
control versus got you can see my legs
right now but just do it yourself and
how do you feel you don't even have to
cross your arms you want you can
how does it feel when you got that wide
stance versus something like this it
makes you feel strong makes you look
stronger once again look at riot and
crowd control always wide stance arms
crossed or something in front of them it
just exudes power alright one of the
most important components of an
officer's strengthen communication and
dominance and control is his tonality
there are three different types of
tonality report seeking or supplicated
report neutral or poor breaking officers
are almost exclusively going to speak
and report breaking tonality the entire
time that you're stopped at a traffic
stop or they're interacting with you
stop you on the street however it may be
what let me give you examples report
seeking ends with enough how are you
how's your day
not only does it end with an upward
swing and and the the tone goes up but
also a lot of times it just starts and
ends I how are you tense throat muscles
and in its sub communicating i don't
want to do anything to make you angry
so I'm going to talk just like you know
little boys and get mad we have to let
me hear you about coming clown you know
report neutral is more like I'm talking
right now
hey are you doing how's your day going
good strong but neutral you're not
neither side and report breaking curves
at the end is lower and deeper so how's
your day going are you
license and registration it breaks
report so it's telling the other person
subconsciously you're not trying to make
friends you don't have to worry about
whether they're happy about the way that
they're talking to you or not that's not
their concern
they're getting things done so they're
going to talk a rapport breaking
tonality this sounds so authoritative
when you talk like this
it commands respect in a way that I feel
like no other communication tactic can
it communicates once again so many
things inside of you that you're not
explicitly saying
but you're communicating all these
things that would take 15 minutes to sit
down and tell them okay I've been an
officer on the force for 15 years my
experiences this I've been in this many
hostage situations I've had to fire my
weapon this many times you can
communicate what that means
just by using strong and impacting
tonality now I know a lot of times
people say well maybe I wasn't born with
the deepest your strongest voice and I
know how it can be a bit of a struggle
when you don't feel like people respect
when you start talking they don't look
at always give you attention or you're
not very commanding with your voice I
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everything about the way you look is a
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alright let's get into some of the
tricks that officers use to gain
compliance and authority over you number
one it's repeating a request before you
have a chance to possibly fulfill it
so they're going to tell you to do
something and you're immediately going
to start doing it but while you're doing
it they're going to repeat the court
request like you're not doing it
let's take a look at what this looks
like i have a seat on the curb right
over there
have a seat on the curb right over there
sit down see what this does is it
rattles people because people are trying
most of the time trying to act in
compliance with the officer and when
they do that they feel like they're not
doing
the officer said so they're gonna be
like the officers maddaddam so even
though the officers not it's just a
technique to get that supplication
they're gonna feel like all man i'm
doing stuff to piss off this officer
he's gonna be mad at me now i need to be
even more supplicated oh hi I'm going
over there I I'm trying to sit down
right you're not saying anything at all
but feel like they gotta make it up by
even be a nicer this is a this is a real
dirty trick and i don't mean dirty is
that they shouldn't be doing it but it's
a dirty trick I call a dirty trick
anything that you can't win when someone
says something like it's something that
no matter what the other person says
they're trapped right because what can
they do i am sitting on the curb or just
not respond at all but then they feel
like they got pushed around by these
guys they didn't say anything there's
nothing you can do in that instance
unless you want to try to say uh you
know sit over there on the curb you
start moving
they say he's just sit on the curb you
say officer I'm walking as safely as
controlled as I can
he's gonna interrupt you officer on did
you not hear me he's not gonna give you
a chance there's no way you can win with
that tactic a little dirty trick is a
great way to gain compliance by making
the other person feel like they're not
doing what you say by making them feel
inferior and lastly by making them feel
like they're pissing you off by doing
something wrong by not comply
even when you actually are I contact is
almost as important as tonality when you
look someone in the eye with unwavering
confidence and dominance it communicates
all these different things that evoke
compliance not many people have the
ability to truly look at somebody I know
muscles flexing their face because flex
muscles are weird some people have weird
looks and twitches like their natural
face looks like that it's a defense
mechanism
unless it's something physical you can
control its defense mechanism trying to
communicate something other people and
that's a big subject that I make it at
some point but what I'm saying is an
officer looks at you
unwavering Lee with a competent dominant
look in the eyes
it's so power is out
most people are able to do that now
because their position affords them
dominance and power it's easier to do
that if someone gives you permission if
someone says okay you're the head of
this daycare for the next hour with a
bunch of ten-year-olds well you're
probably gonna look at him and talk to
him very competently right you know
you're the head of it you know you've
got the the legal authority to
legitimate Authority so an officer knows
they have legitimate Authority the
entire government country that will back
them up there more easily they can more
easily you give off that really strong
unwavering I contact you can do that to
you just have to build up that
confidence internally says no it's
handing you that confidence saying okay
do this
look it's ok you can look like this
there's so much social pressure pushing
back you say that you can't look like
why you so confident
didn't you get high school that you get
picked on you can be confident you miss
that jump shot at to lose the game last
week and a pickup all you can be
confident you know all these different
things that are coming at you pull away
from that conference but you can get to
that point up now this I contact tactic
for instance come to have to use this
tactic because they're putting
physically threatening situations every
day that is average citizen will never
be put in our entire life so we need to
remember this interactive cops these
things are very necessary let me ask you
this why in school are we not talk about
social skills and how to interact and
flirt with members of the opposite sex
it's two of the most important things
will ever do in our lives find a mate
someone we married spent our entire life
with and maybe have kids with and be
successful in business role in a
corporation do better at sales that
blows my mind how with all of the
curriculum and teaching kids the code
into all these cool things we completely
neglect advanced social skill so if
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