If you like it then you should have put a ring on it.
whoa uh-oh whoa uh-oh whoa uh-oh. But wait, what if they're not a member? No oh
oh. I'm kidding! It's a joke. Joking.
But we're not talking about marriage-- no we're not-- we're talking about dating.
Yeah. Dating. They're synonymous the Mormon
culture. Our favorite topic! I love talking about dating. hahahha
So first here, we got some wonderful comments from our fans and
we're gonna be reading your thoughts and giving our opinions on them so-- on what
to expect when you're dating a Mormon. If you're not a Mormon or if you are Mormon?
If you're both, I guess, a little bit of both. I think it kind of works honestly.
Honestly, I could have used some advice dating some Mormons. Well here we
go. Because that's all I've dated and it's not going too well. Alright so one person
says, "So for non-mormons dating Mormons, they're not just going to try to
convert you. If they really love you, of course they'll want to share the gospel
but they'll hopefully also be respectful." Mm-hmm. Interesting. How do you... I half
agree with this because some people will try and convert you, that's just a fact.
That's just a personal decision if you want to do that
or not. Hopefully they're not just dating you to
convert you. Yeah. I think inviting you and trying to convert
you are different, right? Right. Okay I also think maybe a little bit on
that is like if you're dating someone ... if your relationship is conditioned on
them progressing in the gospel then I'm not sure that's a healthy relationship.
Yeah because because it shouldn't be conditional. Yeah and so it's like this
relationship will only be successful if you decide to join the church even if
it's kind of a secret, like in your heart. Like yeah this is only gonna work out if
they decide to get baptized. I'm not saying that's a bad
thing. Right. A lot of relationships have worked out but I just would make
sure that's not the reason. Cuz conditions in any relationship kind of
mess things up. That's just a personal... Okay. Lots of YSA women I know
practice the 3 D's. Date em, dump em, and dunk em.
I've never met any woman who does this. You might have a really bad streak but
the majority of LDS women I know don't even... no, no, they don't do that. But I
have met, I have met a man and there's a guy I knew who had dated three girls
consecutively who all we're non-members got baptized and he dumped them. Are the active?
Yeah. Crazy! But I think that's kind of a miracle, you
know? Yeah, yeah-- don't, like that's not a good thing, you know?
Yeah well don't join the church for someone else, right? That's a very
important. Yeah. I think though, you know what I think? It may come across that way
because there are two girls that I dated and I of course wanted them to join.
You invite them to church, church activities. Yeah, I wanted them to join the church and they weren't
members of the church and but after awhile I knew, you know, that we weren't gonna have a
temple marriage and so I broke it off and so they kind of assumed that I was
going after like a like, I was going to convert them and then dump them but that
wasn't what I was going for. So I think you can't have, you can't just
project what you think they're doing to, you know? You've got to be, you know,
these are people, they're not these robots from Cedar City just, "Let's go
find a homosapien male and make them baptize into our church." People aren't doing
that, you know? Cool story though is my mother, she was
not a member, she was a Catholic and then when she met a guy
she worked with I think at jack-in-the-box,
she was like 16 and she thought he was super cute, he was a Mormon, you
know? They started going on dates, he thought about the church because he was
going on a mission, you know, so he doing that whole thing and then she started
taking missionary lessons, got baptized, he left on his mission and they weren't
dating when he left, you know? And the whole time she was like really in
love with this guy, she really wanted it to work out. He turned out not to be so
great, you know? Like his mission, like I don't think I ended up going on a
mission just because things started going, well, he kind of-- he eventually left
the church. But my mom stayed because she was converted to the gospel,
not to him and I think that's when it's awesome, you know?
Yeah, if you're dating a Mormon and they are like very active in their
faith, they're gonna share it with you. It's true. But you have to look at
their intentions. And if you are a Mormon dating a non-Mormon, don't just
try and convert people. Like that's not, that shouldn't be like your whole focus
in dating them. Like for instance, I was at church last week and we had this
great lesson on ministering and just like becoming friends with people in the
ward. Right after that meeting I had these
people in my ward come up to me and they were like talking to me and getting to
know me and it was great and I was like, "Oh my gosh!" And then he was like, "Yeah, I
have this business and, you know, we do interviews to start people off in this
thing and you can retire in three years and it's gonna be great." And I was just
like, I was like-- the summer sales tactic-- and I was just... it sucks when you realize
like their intentions weren't to be your friend. Yeah and you're just like, you
just wanted me to join your business and I imagine it's the same way if you're
non-mormon dating a Mormon and you just wanted me to embrace the Mormon role.
Right, that's a bummer, you know? Sometimes it's just, I mean we're
encouraged to date people that share our faith because it's a big part of our
lives and because at least we want eternal marriage to be the goal and that
can't happen unless both of us share the same faith but follow the spirit, I mean
if the spirit tells you that it's cool to date someone that's not of your same
faith then date someone that's not of your same faith. Yeah.
Oh! Here's one. Okay this is, I don't agree with this comment. It says,
"Religious differences in one way or another. No matter what though, if you
love each other you should not let religion get in the way." I think
there's like goodwill behind that but that also is, I feel like that can
suggest like, "Hey, we love each other, you know, she's Baptist, I'm Mormon but you
know what, we should be able to have sex because, you know, we're not gonna let
religion get in the way." It's like noooooo.
So you're saying like, you're not supposed to like check your religion at
the door and like put your beliefs aside. Yeah. You're not supposed to do that. I do not think
that's a smart move. So well, but it is good to like be tolerant of each other's
beliefs. Definitely because there's, there are people who are married and
from different religions, you know? Yeah, well... I think... so
I dated this girl who was Baptist and her parents could not stand the fact
that I was LDS. They were so mad about it and on Sunday,
they're like, "You want to come to church with us?" And I was like, "Only if [she] can come to
church with me." And they're like-- Savage. They're really upset but you know
what? We ended up having, you know, to break up
for obvious reasons. Wait. Are the reasons that obvious? I guess I'll share. Those two girls I mentioned wanted to
have sex and I was like, "Sorry." They really wanted to and I was like listen. It's not
gonna happen. And that's also-- the only way that could have been like an obvious reason
is if you just like pulled out a baby from like under the table. For obvious reasons. No, no and here's what
stinks about this. They're both such great people, you know, I love them both
to death to this day, right? And it was horrible that like I had to, that
that's such a vulnerable thing, you know, wanting to have sex with someone and at that
moment of vulnerability, being no and we need to break up, you know? I really
hate that I hurt them so much in that way. I mean you could have waited to break up few days
later. No, I did, you know, I could have I definitely could've handled both better
but I just... You know so looking back you know it is hard, it is hard and you
feel so bad about it and I hope they don't hate me and I know one does but uh--
well, here's like, when I was in high school we had in my
health class, I think it was, we were supposed to put like what are the most
important things to relationship and I put number one religion then number two
you know like love and stuff and my class, like everyone in my class was like, my
teacher even, my teacher she called me up, she's like, "Religion? Like are you serious?"
And I was just like, "My entire life is based around my religion, you know?"
Because it's the truth, you know, like it is how I'm gonna be saved, you know? So if
someone didn't share that with me, that just wouldn't make sense, that wouldn't
work in my brain. Yeah. That's just me personally.
Because like if I want to have, I want to have an eternal family,
right? And there's somebody on here who responded and they're talking about
she's LDS and her husband is not and she says, "He has always said that the
only thing he expects of our religious differences is that I respect that he
doesn't think the way I do and to not force him into anything-- into
something he is not. We've been doing great with this and learn how to
properly communicate when we do have differences of opinion." And I think that
when you have differences of opinion, you just have to reach a point-- the correct
way to handle that is reaching a point where love becomes more important
than proving the other person right or wrong. That's a good point. Not checking the
religion at the door but checking pride at the door, right? Yeah, right. Contention
is of the devil whether or not you're on the right side and honestly there's
gonna be differences in any relationship regardless of religion like they
like this show and you don't they like this food and you don't and I don't know.
Exactly. You gotta learn how to work as a team.
Gotta bloom where you're planted. Or plant where you're bloomed. Here's one I
always talk about. This comment says,
"No booze and sex." And 'or' sex. No booze and/or sex.
Booze with a 'z', we've gotta emphasize that. True. We don't drink and we don't have sex before we're married
so if you're dating an LDS person, be ready for them not to
drink with you unless it's like sparkling cider or apple juice or soda.
Actually apple juice is really bad for your teeth. Really? It's
super acidic and it will destroy your teeth very quickly.
Take it easy, alright? I'll go to the dentist... Here's something cool about that though is that
I was in high school-- once again, there were a lot of members who weren't active.
They went to church and stuff but they didn't really keep the
commandments. And so I didn't hang out with Mormons in high school, I hung
out with a lot of different religions because they were super awesome,
great examples. And there was this girl I really, really liked. She's probably
one of the most amazing people I've ever met and still is. But she wasn't a
Mormon and I think that's like that's the kind of situations like just because
you're not a Mormon doesn't mean you're a bad person. Just because you're a Mormon
doesn't mean you're a good person. There are some some people in my life who are
Protestant Christians and who are Muslim and they share my values way more than
some LDS people I know and some other Christian people and so I can see that
working out because at the end of the day you like
believe in God. Alright, Jacob said, "A lot of oh my hecks and praise
checks." What's a praise check? I'm not sure. I'm hoping I open clarify
in the comments. I'm not sure what a praise check is but there will be a lot of oh my hecks.
And what the fetch. Okay no, what do you guys say though? What are your favorite?
I say heck a lot. I say what the heck. I jammed my finger in a door earlier
today actually and I said, "Son of a biscuit." So really just follow the spirit.
Just do what you feel is right but don't, like Kwaku said, don't check your
standards or your religion at the door. And know that LDS people can love you
even if you're not LDS and you might fall in love with a Mormon and it's
pretty cool and just because they're not LDS, it doesn't mean they're going to
hell. Respect their beliefs, find what you have in common, don't be a jerk, love each
other in the Christ-like way, don't get too involved and
don't get mad at your daughter's boyfriend if he's LDS and your
daughter's a Baptist and treat him badly and make snide remarks cuz you know what?
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