Hey everyone, this is Stefan from ProjectLifeMastery.com.
In this video, I want to talk to you guys about something that holds a
holds a lot of people back from success, and a lot of people that are already having some
success, but they're being massively held back because they could be having so much
more success. I'm also going to share with you the three most dangerous words
in the human language, that you need to avoid at all costs, that can massively
hold you back, could be a huge success barrier that holds a lot of people back.
Now, I did a You Tube video not long ago on confidence and the importance of
building confidence and how you've got to have belief, confidence in yourself,
in your goal, your vision, your business.
Whatever it is that you want to pursue in your life, it's not going to come without
confidence. Confidence is one of the greatest assets that you can have,
that all the more successful people have in common that allow them to experience
success.
You've got to build that. However, there is a point where the confidence can go a
little bit too far. That's when your confidence turns into arrogance, and
that's when you develop an ego. That's a very dangerous place, and
especially as you gain some success and you make some money,
you've got to make sure that, that success and that money or the result of this
incredible body that you might achieve or whatever it is that you become proficient
at, you've got to make sure that, that doesn't turn into arrogance, and it
doesn't turn into ego. If you do, if you develop that arrogance and ego,
then what happens is you think that you know everything and you close yourself
off from learning more things because you believe that you know it all. In fact,
the three most dangerous words in the human language are, "I know that,
I know that," because as soon as you say, "I know that," then you're closing off your
mind from expansion,
you're closing off your mind from learning something new. You see, my belief
is that you don't actually know something until you're doing it.
You could know what to do and not do what you know. The only way you really
know something is if you're living it every single day, you're living that
in your business because if you're not actually implementing what you know, then
you don't know it. You understand it, you might have an intellectual theory or
concept of it in your mind, but you don't actually know it until you're doing it.
Oftentimes I see so many people that I try to help and I know I can help,
but sometimes the ego gets in the way. The one quality that you also have to
develop besides confidence is you always have to be humble.
You always have to make sure that you realize that you can always learn. It
doesn't matter what level of success that you might have achieved in your
life, you always have to be open to learning more.
You always have to keep an open mind. You can't close off that mind and say that I
know everything already.
Myself, I'm always learning, I'm always learning from people that are more
successful than myself.
I'm also learning from people that might be more proficient in a certain area
that I can still learn from. Anyone that's doing something that I
want to be doing or something he has experience with, I'm always open to. I
don't care if I'm making more money or less money than them. I don't care if I
have more followers or less followers. That doesn't matter to me because if
they have value that they can provide me,
I'm going to be open and I'm going to listen. I'm going to take notes. In fact,
some customers that I have, I learn from. I just had one customer share
this incredible thing with me who was just starting off in his journey, and he
shared with me something that he learned and that helped my business.
That's only possible because I have an open mind.
I'm always humbling myself. I'm always reading books and hiring mentors and
coaches and learning as much as I can. It reminds me of a great story from
Sam Walton who's the founder of Walmart. He's passed away since, but he wrote a
really incredible book before he died called, Made in America. Sam was one
of the wealthiest person to ever live, made the most
money and all that sort of stuff. He's a billionaire, and what was most
incredible
about this man was how humble he was. In fact, one thing that he said is that
he would spend more time in his competitor's stores than his own store.
He was always looking for answers. He spent 80% of his time
at a competitor store because he always wanted to know
what was the thing that they knew that he didn't know. He was always looking
for new ideas and distinctions that he could use and implement to his own
businesses. I remember one story where he went to Brazil. Sam
is this
multibillionaire, nobody knew who he was,
he's in a store and he's down on his hands and knees. Nobody knew who he
was, they thought it was this crazy old guy, and so they called in the police, they
arrested him. Here's Sam, he's a multibillionaire, he's going to jail,
nobody even knew who he was or whatever. They
asked him, "What were you doing, like why were you on your hands and knees
on the floor?" Sam said, 'Well, I was measuring the distance between the
isles because I wanted to see if they knew something I didn't know." This is a
billionaire
that is willing to get down on his hands and knees and has such an open mind and
willing to learn. He's that humble that he's willing to learn from anybody. I
think that you always have to keep that mentality in your business to be
successful. You always have to have that open mind and understand that the most
powerful way to learn is through repetition. For me, I've been to
some seminars, like I've been to Tony Robbins Unleash the Power Within about
seven or eight times.
Why would you keep going to the same event again and again? Why would you
read the same books over and over again? Why would you go to the same seminar
or the same program? Because when I go through a training program,
I go through it and then I go back through it again. I take all the notes, I
review my notes, because it's not enough just to intellectually learn.
You have to make sure you're applying and implementing what you learn. That's
the only way that you actually know anything.
I want to make sure that I've actually mastered what it is that I'm going
through, and I can benefit from it fully. I've been through the same
seminars and again and again because I'm not fully living everything that's
taught in that seminar. I'm going to keep going back because I understand that
repetition is the mother of skill. Maybe it's
something that I know, the more that I hear it maybe at a different moment, I
could hear it in a different way or I can hear it in a different state to a
different filter, and by hearing it on the 50th time even though I already know
it,
by hearing it again and again and again
on that 50th time, maybe finally then I implement it to my life and I act on it.
Also sometimes when you're learning things, you're learning things at a different stage
of your life because there are certain things I might have learned five
years ago, but learning it today I might receive it in a different way because
there's a different context for my life. I always recognize that and I'm
always looking for that one or two ideas.
There's always one or two ideas that can change everything for you. Sometimes
you go through it again, and you miss certain things or things didn't really
relate to you in a different way,
but by hearing it again, you hear it in that way and that idea stands out and it
changes your life. That's the real power and benefit.
Oftentimes I might read a book, I might know everything in the book, but I
might just find that one or two gold nuggets, and that one or two gold nuggets
can change everything for me.
Even for Internet marketing, I've been doing this for years
now,
there's a lot of seminars and stuff, and I'm learning the same thing
as I already know. I already know how to build an email list and do
lot of this stuff, but sometimes I'll hear a little tip, a little nugget, a little
piece of wisdom or insight or idea or a concept, and that one little thing
changes everything for me.
You have to understand when you're brand new to something, everything is new. Your
learning curve is like this, and the more knowledge that you accumulate, then you're
at a different stage and your growth is more like this, but you
have to find those little ideas and insights that can transform everything
for you. You always have to keep an open mind,
you always have to be open to learning. For me, there's no such
thing as a bad book, a bad program, a bad seminar, because there's always value if
you look for it. Again, even if you already know it and you hear it again
and again and again, that's going to integrate what you know even deeper.
There's incredible value in that
because it will help you internalize that at a much deeper level.
I had one person that signed up for one of my courses and he
asked for a refund.
He said in the email that he already knows ninety
percent of it, and he said, I just came through but I already know ninety
percent of it
and there's nothing for me to learn here. I engaged with this person a
little bit, and I said great,
can I see what you've done? Maybe I can give you some help, maybe I
can give you some advice or feedback and help you grow even further. Sure
enough ... I did some research on this person, I was looking at
what he built.
He had a You Tube channel and a few different things, and I was blown away.
I'm looking at what this guy has done, and he doesn't even know less
than 10% of what I'm teaching. There are so many things that I
was able to see of where he's missing out. He had a You Tube channel
and he wasn't even optimizing his videos and he didn't even have a description for his
videos. There are so many little things that if he had just had an open mind and
actually not closed himself off and actually had an open mind to
learn, it would have transformed everything for him. I know for a fact that it would
have taken his business to a totally new level if he actually applied
it and would make way more money than what he invested.
This guy didn't even have a social media presence like a
blog, he wasn't even doing so many things that I teach, and it just blew me
away. This person was making around $2,000 a month. I'm
like, man,
here's someone who's making $2,000 a month, and no offence to this
person, I say this out of love and compassion because I truly care.
I truly care about every customer that I have, I want to make sure that everyone that invests
in me I'm even more invested back in them and I help them make way more money than
what they paid and over-deliver and help them get the result that they want.
That's always my passion, my mission and why I do what I do. But man,
you're making $2,000 a month, man,
I've got to humble this person a little bit, I'm making around $2,000
every 12 hours in my business. If you don't think there's something to learn
here, if you don't think that there's value here, then there's a huge success
that's holding you back. This person is limiting their growth big
time because of the three most dangerous words, "I know that," the ego,
the arrogance. Man, you've got to humble yourself
always. You have to always make sure that you are
learning and you keep an open mind. There's nothing worse than a person ...
Some of the gyms here, there is personal trainers
that help people to build their body. They know all the theory because
they've got their certificate on personal training. There's
life coaches, they have a certificate because they went to a class or whatever
and they got the certificate. Sure enough though, this person, they
think they know it all
because they've gone to the personal training school and they got a
certificate or a life coaching certificate class or whatever it is, they think they
know it all. But meanwhile, they're out of shape. Meanwhile they don't have the body
that inspires people. Meanwhile they don't have the life that inspires
people. Man, I don't care what certificates that you have, you always
have to have an open mind.
Just because you know all the theory of working out doesn't mean that you are
actually living it, and not until you are and not unless you have that incredible body
that inspires other people, even then you should still have an open mind.
Arnold Schwarzenegger, Michael Jordan. Michael Jordan was so humble,
one thing that Steve Kerr said about Michael Jordan even though he was the
greatest, the top in the world, is that even when Michael Jordan would go to the bench
and Steve Kerr who is a bench player would come to him and say, hey
Michael, I've got a few little things here that could help your
game grow a little bit further,
Michael was all open to that. He was open to all the coaches. In fact, a lot of his
coaches, Michael Jordan, said that one of the reasons why he was so successful is
because he was so coachable.
He was open to learn from his coaches who were a lot older than him.
They didn't have the same skillset, but were able to see things from another
perspective and Michael Jordan was always obsessed with learning and
improving his game, that if he could become a micro-%
better, .0001% better, he'd be all over that. You see, when you're already the
best,
.001% is a lot at that point. When you're
brand new, you can grow like this, but when you're already the best like Michael
Jordan's level, just that little improvement ...
I remember Kobe Bryant, he went to Nike and he wanted them to make
this tiny adjustment in his shoe, and I think it was related to weight
or something of the shoe, and it was a little adjustment to his shoes that like ...
It was such a small minute change to his shoes, but he wanted that little edge,
that little .001% advantage that could have helped improve his
game just a little bit.
The best in the world man, they're always trying to improve, they're always trying to
grow. They're always trying to learn things and they've always humbled
themselves in that way. I wanted to share this with you to help make sure
that you're on the right track, to make sure that you're always growing, make
sure that you're always learning. That you don't let your ego and arrogance get
in the way of success and earning even more success. I think by always having this
attitude no matter how successful you become, understanding there's value in
everything, you can learn from everything, that you should never say I know that
because that's just BS,
the truth is there's always things that are available there.
That if you have an open mind, you can actually receive it. If you have
that closed mind, there could be incredible value right in front of you
and you're not going to see it because you've already decided to close off your
mind.
So, always have an open mind guys.
That's the key component I think that's helped me, helped many other people in
the world, and you always have to humble yourself, be willing to learn. Look for
those little changes, those little ideas and concepts because
that can change everything for you.
Thank you for watching this video guys, I'll see you guys in the next one.
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